Bulldogmom Posted January 28, 2022 Share Posted January 28, 2022 (edited) This is what hopeless looks like... So, until Dec. 28, I had been with the same man for 16 years. I had stopped and had happy hour drinks. 2 doubles in 3 hrs. Well, I had received a shitty msg from my daughter and left. Sober. Seriously. I had gastric bypass surgery like 20 yrs ago, so I have to be vigilant. Well went to my bffs house, was txting in her driveway then decides to just go home bc it was like 40 below windchill. When I backed up I slid, blah blah well I called the cops bc I slid into a vehicle. They did a breathalyzer and I blew 0.14. I know gastric patients blow like double bc of enzymatic blah blah... Well, I went to hospital for my blood test. The nurse said that she needed 30$ cash before I could sign chain of custody paperwork. Cops had locked my purse phone etc. In my vehicle. I had no cash, so asked to call someone to bring it, they said no and threw my blood sample in the hazard garbage. That literally has ruined my life. And I'm legit taking it to trial if it's not dismissed. Well, drinking and driving is a deal breaker for us. (My 23 yr old cousin was killed in July driving home drunk.) So, he said I need to find a new place to live and we were done. 16 yrs. We have had a lot of really bad months in 2021 bc of deaths, dogs heart stopping, working when we usually are at the lake or on our motorcycles... Etc. He says he's heartbroken but I did it to myself. Since this happened, I have been in daily therapy and put on an anti anxiety med. We aren't married so literally NOTHING is in my name. My bike, the camper,boat,4wheeler, etc. I am being treated horribly in my eyes. Yet, he hasn't told anyone, still was wearing his ring, etc. But refusing any communication, basically ignoring me. Any time I bring it up, he's pissy at me bc he says I did this to us. [ ] I feel like I'm living in an alternate reality. Edited January 28, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator clarify title, language 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 28, 2022 Share Posted January 28, 2022 (edited) 9 hours ago, Bulldogmom said: I slid into a vehicle. They did a breathalyzer and I blew 0.14. , I went to hospital for my blood test. So, he said I need to find a new place to live and we were done. 16 yrs. Were you arrested? Besides the DUI, were you charged with a hit and run? Whose car were you driving? You'll need a criminal defense attorney. You'll also have to communicate with your insurance company. They may not cover this if you were taken in by the police for driving while intoxicated. Continue to work on your sobriety. It may help your case if you start going to AA meetings and show some remorse. As far as your BF, he'll have to give you formal written notice to vacate. Do you have friends and family you can move in with? Edited January 28, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 28, 2022 Share Posted January 28, 2022 If I were you I would just go. Who needs a partner who thinks so little of you that he throws you out at the first sign of trouble. You need someone who is in your corner. You've wasted all those years with this guy who so easily disposes of you. Not good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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