Ex wants closure, what does it mean?

[confused46]

Hello, first of all thank you for taking your time to read this. My ex bf (23) broke up with me (20F) a week ago. It was a healthy break up, no arguing, no harsh words, nothing. He broke up with me because i was needing attention that he couldn't handle properly. Yes, that's true I think I needed a bit of more attention than other girls, but moving on... We remained friends. I'm heartbroken though, I'm not handling this the best i can, I'm still hurt by it. He told me that he wants to see me this Saturday for closure. He said he wants to touch me one more time and see me happy... I don't get it. We opened up to one another before this and he told me that he still loves me, he still cares for me, it hurts him too and he can't imagine me being with someone else. If he's the one who initiated the break up why does he need this closure? Does someone have some kind of experience with this? I'm really confused. I'll provide more information if needed. 

[Mrin]

Dude here. I'm sorry to say this but he's probably wanting some "one last time for posterity" sex. 

Edited January 28, 2022 by Mrin

[glows]

1 hour ago, confused46 said:

Hello, first of all thank you for taking your time to read this. My ex bf (23) broke up with me (20F) a week ago. It was a healthy break up, no arguing, no harsh words, nothing. He broke up with me because i was needing attention that he couldn't handle properly. Yes, that's true I think I needed a bit of more attention than other girls, but moving on... We remained friends. I'm heartbroken though, I'm not handling this the best i can, I'm still hurt by it. He told me that he wants to see me this Saturday for closure. He said he wants to touch me one more time and see me happy... I don't get it. We opened up to one another before this and he told me that he still loves me, he still cares for me, it hurts him too and he can't imagine me being with someone else. If he's the one who initiated the break up why does he need this closure? Does someone have some kind of experience with this? I'm really confused. I'll provide more information if needed. 

It’s impossible for anyone to know. I suggest you decline since you’re having a  hard time after the break up and he ended the relationship.

If you’re sensing that his intentions are selfish, decline and request that he stop making inappropriate comments that “he still loves [you], he still cares for [you], it hurts him too and he can't imagine [you] being with someone else.” That is not the way friends speak with each other.

Anyone can say those words but he did not walk the talk when he dumped you so unless you are very certain this man has any integrity, it’s best to assume that he’s up to one of his selfish tricks. 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, confused46 said:

My ex bf (23) broke up with me (20F) a week ago. He broke up with me because i was needing attention that he couldn't handle properly. We remained friends. He told me that he wants to see me this Saturday for closure. He said he wants to touch me one more time

Sorry this happened. How long were you dating?

Do not stay friends and do not meet him to "touch you".

Closure is a myth, he just wants to hookup for sex.

Don't be demoted to FWB. Cut all contact.

Edited January 28, 2022 by Wiseman2

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, Mrin said:

Dude here. I'm sorry to say this but he's probably wanting some "one last time for posterity" sex. 

Yep, given his age "closure" means one last roll in the hay.  Tell him you can't give him closure he has to find his own.  Don't see him or you'll be hurt.  Anything less that "I made a mistake by breaking up with you, please give me another chance", will not do.  Move on to another guy who gives you the attention you want.