do guys get jealous when they see an ex hooking up with one of their buddies?

[Sunnydays1111]

Was wondering if guys get jealous. Lets say, a guy dumps a girl, months later he finds out one of his buddies is hooking up with an ex. Would he get jealous? or will the new guy pursue the girl even more knowing that one of his buddies hooked up with her? Or do guys no longer care if their ex's is with one of their buddies?

[central]

Personally, I wouldn't care.  Just because she's not right for me, doesn't mean she isn't a great match for one of my friends.  In fact, I introduced a former lover to another friend, and they are a great match - I'm happy for them.

[basil67]

I would say that it depends on the guy.  Just as all women don't think the same way, neither do men.

[stillafool]

From what I've seen it stings them at first but after finding out she had sex with one of his friends he no longer views her the same anymore and therefore doesn't care.  Bros before Hos.

[Wiseman2]

12 hours ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

Lets say, a guy dumps a girl, months later he finds out one of his buddies is hooking up with an ex. Would he get jealous? 

If your ex is not contacting you and your current BF (his friend) is not the kiss and tell type, it should be fine.

Don't worry about exes or what they think or feel. 

[ExpatInItaly]

12 hours ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

or will the new guy pursue the girl even more knowing that one of his buddies hooked up with her?

They're unlikely to have a favourable impression of the woman in question, however unfair that might be. 

Whether or not the ex-boyfriend is jealous, well, that totally depends on the guy. Some might be, others would not because they dumped her and don't have any feelings for her anymore. The same goes for the new guy. He might care, he might not. But I doubt if he were really much of a friend, he would chase after his buddy's ex. 

Are you trying to make an ex jealous? 

[smackie9]

I didn't like any of my exes after the relationship ended. I could care less. If it was someone that freshly broke my heart, then I would feel not jealous but wronged by my friend...and they wouldn't be my friend anymore. 

[Uruktopi]

Not me.

[NuevoYorko]

What would gender have to do with it?  It's probably the very least pertinent part to the question.  

When we were young and living the high life, it was kind of an incestuous friend group where people tended to date amongst ourselves.   I'm sure there were some hurt feelings along the way, especially on the part of a dumped party - 

As we mature, I  will say it kind of breaks a code to date your friends exes and afaik this holds true for men and women alike.  A good reason for this is that most of us would prefer not to have our exes in our social circle.   If you're going to date your friend's ex, hopefully it's really worth it.  

[kendahke]

On 2/3/2022 at 8:48 PM, Sunnydays1111 said:

Was wondering if guys get jealous. Lets say, a guy dumps a girl, months later he finds out one of his buddies is hooking up with an ex. Would he get jealous? or will the new guy pursue the girl even more knowing that one of his buddies hooked up with her? Or do guys no longer care if their ex's is with one of their buddies?

What the new guy does depends upon his relationship to the ex... I for one would never get with any ex's friend because i don't want them to **know me** like that... that's just messy.

[aloneagain63]

i think it would depend on whether you were the dumper or the dumpee.   it would also depend on how much you cared for the ex.   Did the friend know that this was your ex?

 

I dont think a friend should 

.

[flitzanu]

it's generally uncouth to go after a friend's ex, or to pursue sloppy seconds.

[stillafool]

4 hours ago, flitzanu said:

it's generally uncouth to go after a friend's ex, or to pursue sloppy seconds.

I agree.  Downright tacky.

[Lisa]

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