Will she give me her address to send her a gift for Valentine?

[David Kennet]

Hey guys,

I met a girl online couple of months ago, she is in another country. Today I messaged her and asked for her address because i want to send her a gift for Valentine, she hasnt replied anything yet....

Do you think she will give me her address? If she says no or come up with excuses do you think its appropriate for her to say no to me?

I help her out financially time to time by sending money to her thru paypal.. So i would expect her to trust me or like me enough to give me her address to send her a gift? 

Thanks

Edited February 4, 2022 by David Kennet

[BaileyB]

14 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

I help her out financially time to time by sending money to her thru paypal.. So i would expect her to trust me or like me enough to give me her address to send her a gift? 

My friend, have you met this woman in person? Are you in an actual relationship with her?

If the answer is no - don’t send her a gift for Valentine’s Day. 

What’s more - never send money to a woman that you do not know. It’s not a question of home much she trusts/likes you - it’s a question of how much money you are going to send her before you come to your senses…

Women who have feelings for you and want to be in a legitimate relationship with you don’t ask for money through PayPal. 

Don’t send any more money. And don’t  send her a gift.

Edited February 4, 2022 by BaileyB

[David Kennet]

3 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

My friend, have you met this woman in person? Are you in an actual relationship with her?

If the answer is no - don’t send her a gift for Valentine’s Day. 

What’s more - never send money to a woman that you do not know. It’s not a question of home much she trusts/likes you - it’s a question of how much money you are going to send her before you come to your senses…

Women who have feelings for you and want to be in a legitimate relationship with you don’t ask for money through PayPal. 

Don’t send any more money. And don’t  send her a gift.

 

No we havent met...

Whats the reason for not sending the money or gift though?

I say to her babe and love you, she also calls me babe and that she loves me

She is living with her little sister and cut off from her parents

[BaileyB]

9 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

 

No we havent met...

Whats the reason for not sending the money or gift though?

I say to her babe and love you, she also calls me babe and that she loves me

You are not in a relationship with this woman. And as such, she shouldn’t be taking money from you and you shouldn’t be offering to give her money and gifts. 

You may say “babe” and “I love you” but - how can you love a woman that you have never met? I’m sorry to be blunt but this is not a romantic relationship - this is a woman leading you to believe she is interested in a relationship because she knows that you are naive enough to send her money. 

Never give money to a stranger. 

[David Kennet]

24 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

You are not in a relationship with this woman. And as such, she shouldn’t be taking money from you and you shouldn’t be offering to give her money and gifts. 

You may say “babe” and “I love you” but - how can you love a woman that you have never met? I’m sorry to be blunt but this is not a romantic relationship - this is a woman leading you to believe she is interested in a relationship because she knows that you are naive enough to send her money. 

Never give money to a stranger. 

This aside, why wouldnt she give me her address if she replies to me saying she cant?

she hasnt replied to me yet but why wouldnt she give me her address?

[basil67]

5 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

This aside, why wouldnt she give me her address if she replies to me saying she cant?

she hasnt replied to me yet but why wouldnt she give me her address?

A good reason that she wouldn't give her address because when you find out she's been scamming you, you might contact the authorities.  Or perhaps retaliate.

Have you ever had a video call with her?

 

Edited February 4, 2022 by basil67

[BaileyB]

6 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

This aside, why wouldnt she give me her address if she replies to me saying she cant?

she hasnt replied to me yet but why wouldnt she give me her address?

As a woman, I wouldn’t give my address to any man that I date before I have been out with him several times and I feel comfortable/safe with the man. It’s a safety precaution. 

And then, as basil said there is also the possibility that you would give her name and address to the authorities when you realize she has been scamming you. That’s a different kind of self preservation. 

[David Kennet]

32 minutes ago, basil67 said:

A good reason that she wouldn't give her address because when you find out she's been scamming you, you might contact the authorities.  Or perhaps retaliate.

Have you ever had a video call with her?

 

yes we have a couple of times on whatsApp.

 

what if i call her directly while hiding my caller id to catch her off guard so she wouldnt see who is calling and pick up my call?

 

Then if she answers my call i can ask for her address as well verbally that way she cant ignore. right?

[basil67]

If you have to use sneaky techniques to get a woman's address, then take the hint that she doesn't want you to know where she lives.

 

 

[Silver_star]

There could be several reasons why she doesn't want to share that information with you.

Only she knows for sure, but if she's not comfortable sharing that then you should respect her boundary.  You are not entitled to that information even if its for a gift as you say.

 

[David Kennet]

2 hours ago, Silver_star said:

There could be several reasons why she doesn't want to share that information with you.

Only she knows for sure, but if she's not comfortable sharing that then you should respect her boundary.  You are not entitled to that information even if its for a gift as you say.

 

she just replied to me saying she is not comfortable giving her address out.....

[ExpatInItaly]

2 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

she just replied to me saying she is not comfortable giving her address out.....

You need to stop sending this person money, and stop all contact with her. 

This is not dating, OP. It's you giving out money to an internet stranger. 

[basil67]

49 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

she just replied to me saying she is not comfortable giving her address out.....

How did you meet this woman?

[David Kennet]

3 minutes ago, basil67 said:

How did you meet this woman?

online. on a chatting app. There is this app  called Bigo Live. I met her there.

[ExpatInItaly]

You would be wise to meet women who are local, David. 

And never, ever send money to a stranger online. 

[basil67]

25 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

online. on a chatting app. There is this app  called Bigo Live. I met her there.

Bigo has a lot of adult content.  Was this your connection?

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, David Kennet said:

I met a girl online couple of months ago, she is in another country. I help her out financially time to time by sending money to her thru paypal.

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately it sounds like a catfish or scammer.

[David Kennet]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Bigo has a lot of adult content.  Was this your connection?

Yes she is from Bigo. but she doesnt openly have adult content there. She live stream once or twice a week doing her makeup...

she is getting cold feet with me now.. i dont know why...even though i used to send her money a lot

She used to send me  several sexually explicit videos and photos on WhatsApp.. i dont know if she also sent them to other people or not. 

What do you think?

[David Kennet]

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately it sounds like a catfish or scammer.

she is a real girl, not catfish though.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, David Kennet said:

she is getting cold feet with me now.. i dont know why...even though i used to send her money a lot

She used to send me  several sexually explicit videos and photos on WhatsApp.. i dont know if she also sent them to other people or not. 

What do you think?

Because she doesn't actually want you, just your money. 

And yes, she was almost certainly sending the same explicit content to other men and taking money from them too. This woman was never a dating prospect to you. She's a variation of a cam girl. 

[glows]

You’re learning that money can’t buy you love. Don’t send anymore money especially to a person you’ve never met. 

Look at dating locally and meeting people in your country or town.

[vla1120]

4 hours ago, David Kennet said:

Yes she is from Bigo. but she doesnt openly have adult content there. She live stream once or twice a week doing her makeup...

she is getting cold feet with me now.. i dont know why...even though i used to send her money a lot

She used to send me  several sexually explicit videos and photos on WhatsApp.. i dont know if she also sent them to other people or not. 

What do you think?

She's only using you for money. She has no desire to have a relationship with you. You are probably one of MANY men who call her "babe" and tell her they love her. They also send her money. Now that you've asked for her address, she'll suspect that you have figured this out and she'll easily move on to her next victim.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, David Kennet said:

She used to send me  several sexually explicit videos and photos on WhatsApp.. i dont know if she also sent them to other people or not. 

If she has PayPal set up to receive money in exchange for sexual  content she is a sex worker. Valentine's presents are for GFs, not distant sex workers. Consider ending this situation and dating local women if you want a GF.

[David Kennet]

4 hours ago, vla1120 said:

She's only using you for money. She has no desire to have a relationship with you. You are probably one of MANY men who call her "babe" and tell her they love her. They also send her money. Now that you've asked for her address, she'll suspect that you have figured this out and she'll easily move on to her next victim.

Yeah i asked for her address but she didnt give me. She said she is not comfortable giving her address out.

We used to chat on WhatsApp only but for some reason she is not using WhatsApp, she said she cant use her data... instead i messaged her using SMS directly

So not sure if its really because she doesnt want to use her data to use WhatsApp or she doesnt want to be seen by some of her contacts that she is online on WhatsApp and avoiding people there

By the way, she used to ask me for some money nearly every night for food, but its been a while she doesnt ask for money anymore. Not sure why...

 

Edited February 4, 2022 by David Kennet

[glows]

2 minutes ago, David Kennet said:

Yeah i asked for her address but she didnt give me. She said she is not comfortable giving her address out.

We used to chat on WhatsApp only but for some reason she is not using WhatsApp, she said she cant use her data... instead i messaged her using SMS directly

So not sure if its really because she doesnt want to use her data to use WhatsApp or she doesnt want to be seen by some of her contacts that she is online on WhatsApp and avoiding people there

 

Why are you spending any of your time on this person? Was the intention ever to meet her or was it only for adult videos or web based sexual favours? 

It’s highly unusual and suspect to be asking a person for their home address without ever meeting that person. You may have good intentions but it’s unlikely anyone would give you their address no matter where they lived even if it was five minutes from you. I hope you realize your interest and request of this person is as unusual as her attention towards you.

Don’t send any more money to people like this. You seem to have been a client or were scammed into believing she is a real person with any interest in you.