Jo198339 Posted February 13, 2022 Share Posted February 13, 2022 (edited) I met this young man on a dating site going back about 2 months ago, we talked for several weeks before meeting up 6 weeks ago. The 1st date went well and we've had 4 dates since (1 date per week) and we've been texting each other everyday normally initiated by him. It's going back 2 dates ago (or 2 weeks ago) that I started getting this feeling that he's no longer interested due to the fact that it's now me initiating the conversation most of the time in text. He does reply no problem and the last few dates we've been on he appears ok towards me, he has even mentioned in conversation how he's told someone at work about me. At the end of the 5th date I asked if he wanted to meet up for a 6th date and he said he would have to sort something out as he's been busy recently with work and looking after his son. I said that's ok and for him to let me know whenever he can. From the first date he's always said how busy work can be and how when he has his son it can be pretty tiring as his son has ADHD. This in the past as never stopped him from messaging or it's never stopped us from dating. Now all of a sudden I've not heard from him for about a week and he's not let me know if he can have that 6th date or not. I also have to point out that when I went on the dating site 5 days ago to delete my profile, i noticed that he's already deleted his profile. I'm not sure how to take him now. Has he (A) deleted his dating profile because he's dating me, which sounds like a decent thing but it still doesn't make sense to why I haven't heard from him in a week to plan our 6th date or (B) he's no longer interested in me or dating anyone else and he's ignoring me which in that case doesn't make sense to why he would tell someone about me at work or (B) he's just busy but if that is the case, it still doesn't make sense to why he hasn't let me know about this 6th date. As I said his busy life has not stopped us before from dating. Edited February 13, 2022 by Jo198339 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 13, 2022 Share Posted February 13, 2022 If you've heard nothing for a week, I think it is safe to assume he's lost interest. You noticed him becoming more distant before, and yes, people get busy. But not so busy that they cannot send a message. It takes 20 seconds. Regarding him telling someone at work, eh, it doesn't mean a lot. He could have just mentioned he's had some dates wtih a new woman. It doesn't necessarily have more significance attached to it. Some people are casual about sharing these things with others. But his silence speaks volumes. I'm sorry, but I think this has fizzled out for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jo198339 Posted February 13, 2022 Author Share Posted February 13, 2022 Thanks for your response. It's nice to get someone else's opinion on the matter. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 13, 2022 Share Posted February 13, 2022 4 hours ago, Jo198339 said: I haven't heard from him in a week to plan our 6th date. Sorry this happened. 2 mos dating is a good time to observe interest level and if you are a good fit. No one is too busy for what's important to them. Keep in mind you're not exclusive, so both of you are still talking to and meeting others. Unfortunately he lost interest and faded out. Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. Refresh your dating profile and pics and start talking to and meeting men. Link to post Share on other sites
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