Girlfriend didn't shut down Flirting Male Orbiters

[Amerthyst]

4 hours ago, mark clemson said:

It doesn't sound like you're playing her, it sounds like you'd be confident to move on if she continues to cross the line. Although one never knows and can certainly hope for the best, I suspect that's what will happen. Most likely (IMO) she'll insist on her "right" to flirt, but then back down IF you actually break up/start to leave. However, then she'll eventually want to start up with it again (figuring this will blow over after a while) and may even surprise you by doing it again spontaneously on a night out, "testing your resolve" etc. It will then be on you to carry through and actually break up.

I could always be wrong, to my mind this is the most likely way things play out. The option I mentioned above would be one way to forestall this and "compromise". However, that's by no means necessary to do + if you feel you really can't trust her and have plenty of other options, there is not actually much of a need to prolong things.

Hi Mark

Wise words indeed (still intend to come back on your original longer post when I get more time) 

Breaking up with my Girlfriend would be very hard to do because we have more Chemistry than a Chemistry Set, even if it all goes with a Bang! no pun intended! although on Second thoughts maybe there is, because I maybe forgot to mention that She very often tries to wind me up

No doubt so we can have the pleasure of making up again and having made sweet love to her (pass the sick bag mavis!) somehow turns this Roaring Lion into a Purring Kitten and that is an experience you never want to miss or can ever get tired of

As in spite of all the Agro and the Drama that she seems to bring wherever She goes, when the Chips are really down We would Ride and Die for each other right to the very end! which in really some strange way makes us irreplaceable in each others lives, although it comes at a very high emotional price at my end

The Question being is it really worth it?

Sometimes Yes and Sometimes I think No and then sometimes its better to never think at all and just go with the flow, as I think I would find a more sensible Girl just a little bit boring as what I have now is the kind of Girl that your Mother warned you about!

 

 

[Amerthyst]

13 hours ago, poppyfields said:

Oh man that is quite a spin!   Having charisma does not give her (or anyone else possessing such charisma) license to treat their partners so disrespectfully and frankly deplorably; they use their charisma wisely and with integrity and treat others, especially their partners with respect and kindness.

But I suppose saying you can't blame her (like she is some victim of possessing so much "charisma") is easier than acknowledging what a horrid girlfriend she is because if you were to acknowledge that, you might be forced to leave her otherwise you'd be deemed a chump, and that is something that obviously you are not ready to do.

It's a form of denial, actually.  Not uncommon.

In any event, good luck.

 

 

 

Hi Poppyfields

I think you are right that I'm probably in denial but She is a Girl who tends to live in the moment, without any thought of what the consequences may bring and She also a bit gullible when it comes to flattery, which it seems is her Achilles Heel

But nobodies perfect I guess its just one of those things, even so saying she's horrid does seem a little bit harsh, as when she's in the right frame of mind then she is the best girl in the world, the only problem being that she's so unpredictable you never really know when that will be!