After 5 and half years of no communication not a word, attempted contact, not what I was expecting

[Goodguy05]

Bumped into my ex yesterday at the supermarket then again today while out cycling so thought must be a sign to finally talk or just see how she has been. I was out cycling on my way back home. I saw her walking towards me on the footpath I rode past and then thought ha stuff it I'll catch up to her and approach her say hello how you been. As I approached, she yells out 'f off stop stalking me'! Wow after what 5 and half yrs of not exchanging one word that was her response. Took a lot for me to go up to her. had many opportunities but let em pass including yesterday. After all this time  I thought things might be different, lessons learned regret remorse but instead so much anger from her. Just sitting here trying to  process it what happened how I feel. Wow. I felt I had to do it just open up. So much unresolved issues in in me. I guess now I see a lil clearer and connecting the dots. I guess I should have known better. Someone that never reached out not once, had blocked me on social media all this time, there was my answer. The last couple of months we bumped into each other quiet a lot. I thought her body language indicated she may of wanted to talk. She would post about our holidays overseas saying how great an experience it was (me taken out of photo though). In one story on insta I even heard myself in the clip. Just trying to paint why I tried to break the ice. Boy how way off was I. I just hope that was enough for me to finally put this person out of my head and move on. I've never taken this long over a break up but this one we live near each other and work for the same co. Maybe that didn't help. I suspect it probably was that. It's hasn't been the hurt one experiences at the start of a break up for me this whole time btw lol. The feelings just ebb and flow. Anyway, you can see my other posts about her from yrs back. I don't regret trying, it was coming anyway. Hopefully it all makes a Lil more sense in a few days. If this helps someone with there own unresolved issues or seeking closure then great. 

Edited February 15, 2022 by Goodguy05

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Goodguy05 said:

As I approached, she yells out 'f off stop stalking me'

Sorry this happened. Avoid her from now on. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Goodguy05 said:

She would post about our holidays overseas saying how great an experience it was (me taken out of photo though). In one story on insta I even heard myself in the clip.

Why are you still connected to her on social media? 

[Goodguy05]

Ye good question. Not any more 

[stillafool]

Well I guess you know after this response she gave you to never, ever approach her again.  I'm talking about even if you're walking along and she's lying on the ground moaning, just step over her and keep on walking as if you didn't see her.  I'm serious.

[Goodguy05]

3 hours ago, stillafool said:

Well I guess you know after this response she gave you to never, ever approach her again.  I'm talking about even if you're walking along and she's lying on the ground moaning, just step over her and keep on walking as if you didn't see her.  I'm serious.

Yes absolutely lol. No Regrets doing it im glad I did the truth does set one free. Not easy but so glad I did good or bad 

Edited February 16, 2022 by Goodguy05

[mark clemson]

Sounds like the kind of emotional "flip" some people do whereby they "hate" the ex/former love. Sometimes there are actually reasons for this, but often enough it's just a sort of psychological defense mechanism. Since you are "bad" losing you doesn't reflect badly on them and takes some of the sting out + the "need" to examine their own faults and contributions to the break-up, etc, etc.

I think people who need this sort of thing feel deeply vulnerable at some level (hence the need for a "defense" mechanism), but whatever - that's her issue now to deal with.