Being clingy and friendzoned

[Lovele]

How do I stop being a clingy person? How do I stop being friendzoned by a guy? It hurts so much everytime I don't feel loved, everytime I get rejected and everytime my clinginess gets triggered. I am turned off with this behavior. I want it to vanish? But how do I do it? How do I stop myself from texting or calling a guy I like? How do I stop. How do I have enough self respect to stay put? How do I stop? How do I love myself enough to stop doing such things? 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Lovele said:

 everytime I don't feel loved, everytime I get rejected and everytime my clinginess gets triggered.

Are you on dating sites? Who are these guy you're texting?

See a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health. Discuss your anxiety. Ask for a qualified therapist for ongoing support.

Do you go to school? Work? Do you have friends and family you can talk to? 

Join some groups and clubs. Get involved in sports and fitness. Volunteer. Round out your life so that you don't need the phone to alleviate boredom and loneliness.

Is there a particular guy who you are upset about texting too much?

[Lovele]

I am not on dating sites. And the guy I am texting is my only friend. I don't have a lot of friends. I was diagnosed with psychosis in the past. I am on medication right now. I recently graduated and right now, I am doing an internship.

[rodymanner]

4 hours ago, Lovele said:

How do I stop being a clingy person? How do I stop being friendzoned by a guy? It hurts so much everytime I don't feel loved, everytime I get rejected and everytime my clinginess gets triggered. I am turned off with this behavior. I want it to vanish? But how do I do it? How do I stop myself from texting or calling a guy I like? How do I stop. How do I have enough self respect to stay put? How do I stop? How do I love myself enough to stop doing such things? 

by making your own standards and obligatin other people to respect you and your personality, that what you think matters no matter what they think, if you want to get something don't sit and wait , go grab it and don't be afraid of rejection , because it happens to every single human being on earth

[glows]

5 hours ago, Lovele said:

How do I stop being a clingy person? How do I stop being friendzoned by a guy? It hurts so much everytime I don't feel loved, everytime I get rejected and everytime my clinginess gets triggered. I am turned off with this behavior. I want it to vanish? But how do I do it? How do I stop myself from texting or calling a guy I like? How do I stop. How do I have enough self respect to stay put? How do I stop? How do I love myself enough to stop doing such things? 

Have you talked to your doctor about any obsessive compulsive desires? I’m so sorry that you’re struggling with this. There may be other issues at play that your doctors can help with. It doesn’t sound like ordinary or layperson tips on how to move past this will help but here’s mine anyway. 

Leave the phone alone, leave the phone in another room, turn it off, put the phone in the microwave (just kidding, I do not own a microwave), go for a walk or run, go swimming, let out the reptiles for free roaming 🙃, check out courses online, enroll in a program, make new friends, garden like it’s nobody’s business but the squirrels, play outside, make a fantastic meal. Do other things that give you joy and bring love, harmony and wholeness to what you believe in or want more of in your life. Nevermind about this guy. Then date someone else more compatible when you’re ready. 

[ShyViolet]

18 hours ago, Lovele said:

I don't have a lot of friends. I was diagnosed with psychosis in the past. I am on medication right now.

In light of the above information, we are really not qualified to give you advice.  Go to your psychiatrist and you should also be in intense therapy to work on your issues.

[Lovele]

So, I blocked him and I asked him to block me so that I will have no way to reach out to him. I hope my anxiety comes down soon. I have decided to read some books to keep myself occupied. He has been a really good friend to me all this time. And I am grateful for that. I just want to get rid of the clinginess. 

[Mrin]

2 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

In light of the above information, we are really not qualified to give you advice.  Go to your psychiatrist and you should also be in intense therapy to work on your issues.

Yeah what she said. 

All that being said, I think one of the biggest ahas in my life was realizing that most people were beyond my direct control. I could still influence the situation but I couldn't control it. Think of people like a garden. You can't scream at a tomato plant "grow big and tall!" and expect anything more than strange looks from the neighbors. But you can provide the tomato plant with conditions that will allow it to grow big and tall. It's not guaranteed that it'll grow big and tall but it's better than screaming at it.

Hope this makes sense.

[ShyViolet]

9 hours ago, Lovele said:

So, I blocked him and I asked him to block me so that I will have no way to reach out to him. I hope my anxiety comes down soon. I have decided to read some books to keep myself occupied. He has been a really good friend to me all this time. And I am grateful for that. I just want to get rid of the clinginess. 

This is a good start.  But you need to get some mental health care from a professional to address the root cause of these issues.  Or they won't just go away.