MissingAS Posted February 19, 2022 Share Posted February 19, 2022 (edited) Married 4 years he ended it in November. Stopped communicating and took time for myself to work on me. About a month ago I started texting him again we have been going back and forth about once or twice a week for a while now. I want to work this out. I sent him a photo of our cats last night. He responded and sent me money. I didn’t ask or imply I needed money or talk about finances. He has done this twice now. Part of me wants to to be hopeful that he misses me but part of me also knows he left me. do I keep the money? Send it back? Do I acknowledge he gave me money? Is it guilt? Edited February 19, 2022 by MissingAS Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 19, 2022 Share Posted February 19, 2022 2 minutes ago, MissingAS said: Married 4 years he ended it in November. Are you legally divorced or separated? Is this the same man?: Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingAS Posted February 19, 2022 Author Share Posted February 19, 2022 Yes same man. He has not filed for divorce yet. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 19, 2022 Share Posted February 19, 2022 4 hours ago, MissingAS said: Yes same man. He has not filed for divorce yet. So you are legally married? Why did he end it with you in November and why are you still talking? Is it you reaching out to him first or is he contacting you to try to reconcile? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 20, 2022 Share Posted February 20, 2022 9 hours ago, MissingAS said: Yes same man. He has not filed for divorce yet. In your previous post you said you were common law. You “bought a house” but said that your name was not on the title. I’m confused. Not only about what his intentions are - I will say, when a man leaves me - we are done. Permanently. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumpernickel Posted February 20, 2022 Share Posted February 20, 2022 9 hours ago, MissingAS said: Send it back? Do I acknowledge he gave me money? No & no Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingAS Posted February 20, 2022 Author Share Posted February 20, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, stillafool said: So you are legally married? Why did he end it with you in November and why are you still talking? Is it you reaching out to him first or is he contacting you to try to reconcile? Yes I’m my state we are legally married. Filed taxes, insurance what not. He said it was I over and didn’t give me much info. Still talking because even though he is a schmuck, I don’t want it to be over. Edited February 20, 2022 by MissingAS Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 20, 2022 Share Posted February 20, 2022 (edited) 8 hours ago, MissingAS said: Yes I’m my state we are legally married. Filed taxes, insurance what not. He said it was I over and didn’t give me much info. Still talking because even though he is a schmuck, I don’t want it to be over. The best thing you can do is talk to an attorney about the actual status and validity of your domestic partnership/common law marriage. This way you don't have to accept money. You can dissolve the common law marriage/domestic partnership and divide up the assets. It's best to be clear where you stand legally, financially and otherwise. He can't just declare "it's over" if there are legal and financial entanglements. Edited February 20, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 20, 2022 Share Posted February 20, 2022 13 hours ago, MissingAS said: Yes I’m my state we are legally married. Filed taxes, insurance what not. He said it was I over and didn’t give me much info. Still talking because even though he is a schmuck, I don’t want it to be over. I see, so you are legally married according to your state even though it is a common law marriage. So you aren't legally married if you move to another state that doesn't have that law. Anyway, if he's such a schmuck and has made it clear he doesn't want you anymore why are you still trying to get him back? How many children do you have together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingAS Posted February 20, 2022 Author Share Posted February 20, 2022 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: The best thing you can do is talk to an attorney about the actual status and validity of your domestic partnership/common law marriage. That is all ready done. That was something I wanted to get clear and I do have any attorney when he decides to file. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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