princess_sparkle221 Posted February 21, 2022 Share Posted February 21, 2022 I am a 33 year old divorced, single Mom. I’m majorly crushing on a guy I work with. I’m trying decide if there is truly sexual tension, or I want there to be so bad that I’m making it up in my head. It’s hard to tell cause I have a hard time reading people. I know I sound like a silly teenager but I haven’t been with a man apart from my ex so I’m afraid I’m rather naive. I have also been very hurt, and I’m pretty insecure. To top it all off, he’s a very good looking guy and I’m a plus size women. I have convinced myself he would never be interested in me. However there are signs of interest in me and they are as follows: number 1: Eye contact. It is very searing at times. We could be standing in a room walking around talking to other people and our eyes always seem to find each other’s. He will give me a knowing look. He also does that after we have a conversation and he will sustain that eye contact with me. Number 2: needing to be close to me. He will gravitate and come stand next to me if we are in a room full of people. He will make stupid excuses to come to my office and often times he will lean his whole body on my desk to talk to me, his face only inches from mine. He also accidentally brushed up against me a few days ago. Were in close quarters and he apologized but neither one of us really made attempts to move away. I hugged him one time with another coworker in a group hug, and felt like my whole body was on fire. He accidentally brushed my boob and our coworker joked that he seemed to like it. He admitted he did although he could have been joking. He did turn very red. Number 3: he sometimes acts awkward when he talks to me, says things trying to be funny but just comes out dumb, or he stumbles over words. He also blushes quite a lot and seem talk more quiet and softer when addressing me. However, he is kind of an awkward person in general, as am I Number 4: he is very complimentary and does nice things for me. He compliments my appearance, my outfits, my work ethic, my kindness. He also does nice gestures for me all time, like cleaning my car off for me, helping me with work, texting me heart emojis, and buying me gifts for Christmas. However he is a very nice, sweet guy in general who is always doing nice things. Number 5: He admits he can confide in me and we have had some personal conversations. Number 6: people notice. Another coworker at work had commented on vibes between us. She is a mutual friend, and always says she feels like she is interrupting something when the three of us are together. We have also had a client at work mistakenly believe us to be married to each other. When I told him that he acted quite happy and we joked around about getting married for weeks after. So everyone, does it sounds like he is into me? Or is he merely being friendly and I am misinterpreting signals? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 21, 2022 Share Posted February 21, 2022 (edited) He seems to like you but is not going to risk his job hitting on a coworker. Don't focus on "signs". It doesn't matter because work romances are a headache no one needs. Date outside of work. If this boosts your confidence, then you'll be fine dating again. Edited February 21, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 2 hours ago, princess_sparkle221 said: I’m trying decide if there is truly sexual tension, I hugged him one time with another coworker in a group hug, and felt like my whole body was on fire. Based on the "whole body on fire" statement, you have some sort of sexual attraction towards him. So do you just want to sleep with him (once to satisfy your curiosity)?? Or do you want a short fling?? Or an ongoing FWB arrangement?? 2 hours ago, princess_sparkle221 said: To top it all off, he’s a very good looking guy and I’m a plus size women. I have convinced myself he would never be interested in me. Based on this statement, I'm making the assumption that you don't think that any type of interaction would be long term or turn into a relationship. And that you two (getting together) would only be about sex, so are you OK with that?? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 Yeah this guy likes you. So what that you are plus size and he's very good looking. I know a drop dead gorgeous guy who only goes for plus size women. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 Ask him if he would like to go for a drink after work. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted February 24, 2022 Share Posted February 24, 2022 What is the workplace dating rules? Some employers have a no on dating, especially if someone is at a high level and the other is lowe but not boss/ subordinate. arr there other single women at work…how is he with them? try to arrange meeting up with him outside of work. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted February 24, 2022 Share Posted February 24, 2022 He may be a flirt. Tread with caution as none of this may be directed towards you. You just seem like the most receptive individual in the room while everyone else ignores him. Brushing your chest like that seems very inappropriate at work. You’ll have to be the judge of whether you also want to put your job at risk dating or cavorting with him(or other coworkers) being a single mom. Link to post Share on other sites
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