My boyfriend will NOT block his ex for some reason even though she harasses him DAILY!

[Jennymato29]

10 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Jenny, below is federal law in the U.S.

>>Under Federal law, you are not permitted to view, read or listen to any communication on someone else's phone or electronic device. ... There is case law where spouses have actually been charged criminally when snooping through a spouse's phone for proof of an affair.

I would suggest that you stop snooping immediately.  Not only is it affecting your mental and emotional health in a very negative way, but it's against the law.

I stopped anyway because my aunt just got diagnosed with uterine cancer so I’m way too emotional 

[lana-banana]

22 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

He’s literally my boyfriend you’re kidding right. I’m just using the iPad but he doesn’t know his messages are connected. He’s an idiot 

No, I am not kidding. Unauthorized account access is unauthorized account access. Cut it out.

But that's not the point. I was willing to cut you some slack when I thought you were all 16. There is no reason for healthy adults to act this way. All of you need to walk away and grow up.

[Wiseman2]

48 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

No he stays at my house and leaves his stuff with me 

Is he homeless? Did he start camping out at your place when she dumped him?

[Jennymato29]

7 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is he homeless? Did he start camping out at your place when she dumped him?

Ok now you’re just going like way out of topic and just saying anything

[Wiseman2]

You claim you're not doing anything illegal because he stays at your house and his stuff is there for you to snoop through. So why is he camping out there and leaving expensive devices around?

[deepthinking]

He seems to like his women to be screwed up,  as both of you women must have been treated ok at first for you to have got involved, and then this new facet comes in - his ex - in your face.  He must see how sad you are, unless you wear a mask or dark glasses.

I would date others, as he has not told you he loves you, ok, maybe later, but he has not offered you that.  So just be footloose and fancy-free.

Edited February 23, 2022 by deepthinking

[Jennymato29]

42 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

You claim you're not doing anything illegal because he stays at your house and his stuff is there for you to snoop through. So why is he camping out there and leaving expensive devices around?

He spends the night sometimes yeah lol. You’re being ridiculous 

[ExpatInItaly]

Jenny, serious question:

Have you had a boyfriend before? 

Because when a guy is into you, you wouldn't even be having these sorts of problems in the first place.

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, Jennymato29 said:

He spends the night sometimes yeah lol. You’re being ridiculous 

Snooping through his devices is still illegal though.   See my previous post quoting Federal Law in the U.S. about this, perhaps you missed it.

[Jennymato29]

Yesterday she he told me he finally blocked her. Because he said she was texting him while he was at work. Then he unblocked her when he got off of work 

[Wiseman2]

10 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

. Then he unblocked her when he got off of work 

Why do you enjoy this policing of their relationship and communication rather than having your own BF?

You're not happy. Just battling back and forth with this obsession about them..

[Jennymato29]

On 2/23/2022 at 4:06 PM, poppyfields said:

Snooping through his devices is still illegal though.   See my previous post quoting Federal Law in the U.S. about this, perhaps you missed it.

I haven’t done it anymore no worries

[Jennymato29]

40 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Why do you enjoy this policing of their relationship and communication rather than having your own BF?

You're not happy. Just battling back and forth with this obsession about them..

No I’m really sad actually. I cried all day yesterday 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

 I’m really sad actually. I cried all day yesterday 

Get to a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health. Discuss protected sadness, bouts of crying as well as the obsessions.

Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist for ongoing support. You can get help replacing self-destructive and self-defeating thoughts and behaviors with productive healthy activities.

Your sadness is preexisting. This 60 day madness of snooping, policing, obsessing and fighting is self-induced by not simply ending it with all the red flags so apparent. 🚩.

[ExpatInItaly]

52 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

No I’m really sad actually. I cried all day yesterday 

So why are you still dating him?

 

[Jennymato29]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Get to a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health. Discuss protected sadness, bouts of crying as well as the obsessions.

Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist for ongoing support. You can get help replacing self-destructive and self-defeating thoughts and behaviors with productive healthy activities.

Your sadness is preexisting. This 60 day madness of snooping, policing, obsessing and fighting is self-induced by not simply ending it with all the red flags so apparent. 🚩.

Did I say 60 days. In my op why do you keep saying 60 days lol

[Jennymato29]

20 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

So why are you still dating him?

 

I have feelings for him ):. It just hurts. You say you don’t want to talk to someone. Then you block them. Why unblock them?

[glows]

23 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

I have feelings for him ):. It just hurts. You say you don’t want to talk to someone. Then you block them. Why unblock them?

Because he has an unhealthy attachment. I’m sorry as all three of you do. That’s one thing you three have in common. You’ve been attracted to this dynamic of pure vitriol, hatred, inconsistency, anger, negativity, lack of integrity. Time to break the cycle. Tell yourself you don’t need it anymore. Bubbye to all that.

[elaine567]

2 hours ago, Jennymato29 said:

I have feelings for him ):. It just hurts. You say you don’t want to talk to someone. Then you block them. Why unblock them?

Because he doesn't WANT to block her. He blocked her for effect, hoping to get a reaction from her.
All part of the game.
You thought once he blocked her, it it was all done... and you wouldn't have to worry about her any longer.
Wrong.
Stop torturing yourself.

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, Jennymato29 said:

I have feelings for him ):. It just hurts. You say you don’t want to talk to someone. Then you block them. Why unblock them?

Because he isn't over her, he wants to hear and talk to her and he probably misses her.  Why are you still with a guy who could give a hoot about your feelings when it comes to his ex?

[Jennymato29]

14 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Because he isn't over her, he wants to hear and talk to her and he probably misses her.  Why are you still with a guy who could give a hoot about your feelings when it comes to his ex?

After telling eachother I hope you disappear blah blah then he blocks her and unblocks her? After that? That makes sense

[stillafool]

4 minutes ago, Jennymato29 said:

After telling eachother I hope you disappear blah blah then he blocks her and unblocks her? After that? That makes sense

I'm sorrry Sweetie but they seem obsessed with each other.  You deserve better and should go get it.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Jennymato29 said:

Did I say 60 days. In my op why do you keep saying 60 days lol

 

On 2/22/2022 at 5:22 AM, Jennymato29 said:

I’ve been with my boyfriend a couple of months now.

 

[Jennymato29]

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

 

 

Ohhhh sorry  lol more like 5 months 

 

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

 

 

 

[Jennymato29]

8 minutes ago, stillafool said:

I'm sorrry Sweetie but they seem obsessed with each other.  You deserve better and should go get it.

I know. It’s just hard to grasp how he tells her he doesn’t want her, he hates her, would never date. Yesterday he showed me where he told her he wouldn’t even want someone like her in his life. Then you go and unblock her?