Lewis321 Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 I have told my story in my other posts so I will keep it simple. Our daughters mother is stopping me from having any contact with her. I iniated court proceedings and a section 7 report was carried out by social services. The report is not in my favour atol and it states that our daughter is saying that she wants no contact with me atol, she fears I will try and 'take her back' and she 'wants me to die'. I feel so deflated and helpless, our daughter has emotional and behaviour outbursts and is currently being diagnosed for possible ADHD but still I find her comments concerning as she was OK with me before she left my care. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 6 minutes ago, Lewis321 said: a section 7 report was carried out by social services. The report is not in my favour atol and it states that our daughter is saying that she wants no contact with me atol, she fears I will try and 'take her back' and she 'wants me to die' Sorry this happened. Were these the social worker findings? There's not much you can do if the child is better off with the mother according to the courts and refuses to see you according to the social worker reports. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lewis321 Posted February 22, 2022 Author Share Posted February 22, 2022 Yes these are the social workers findings Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 Ok you'll have to abide by what the court orders via the social workers findings and recommendations. Link to post Share on other sites
SingFish Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 2 hours ago, Lewis321 said: I feel so deflated and helpless, our daughter has emotional and behaviour outbursts and is currently being diagnosed for possible ADHD but still I find her comments concerning as she was OK with me before she left my care. It was what you were worried about. Let things play out, @Lewis321 it's surprising what unfolds over time. The truth always comes out and frankly let your ex wife deal with all the difficult issues for a while, then maybe she will understand how demanding full time parenting can be. Concentrate on your other daughter. Make a happy life, it's never perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lewis321 Posted February 22, 2022 Author Share Posted February 22, 2022 1 hour ago, SingFish said: It was what you were worried about. Let things play out, @Lewis321 it's surprising what unfolds over time. The truth always comes out and frankly let your ex wife deal with all the difficult issues for a while, then maybe she will understand how demanding full time parenting can be. Concentrate on your other daughter. Make a happy life, it's never perfect. I suspect she is behaving for her as it's probably still new and fresh for her. Also she misbehaved alot due to not having the one to one attention when I had them both in my care, now she is the only child there so I suspect she is not misbehaving nowhere near like how she was for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SingFish Posted February 22, 2022 Share Posted February 22, 2022 All that matters for now is she is well and happy @Lewis321 though it's hard on you for sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 19, 2022 Share Posted March 19, 2022 On 2/22/2022 at 12:31 PM, Lewis321 said: I have told my story in my other posts so I will keep it simple. Our daughters mother is stopping me from having any contact with her. I iniated court proceedings and a section 7 report was carried out by social services. The report is not in my favour atol and it states that our daughter is saying that she wants no contact with me atol, she fears I will try and 'take her back' and she 'wants me to die'. I feel so deflated and helpless, our daughter has emotional and behaviour outbursts and is currently being diagnosed for possible ADHD but still I find her comments concerning as she was OK with me before she left my care. I'm really sorry that this has happened Lewis. If you have done nothing wrong to cause your daughter to have these issues, then she may have some kind of emotional disturbance. These things can happen in the best of families - a child can be born with problems and it can be hell for the parents to deal with. I can understand that you must be feel hurt and helpless. It does sound like your daughter has serious psychological problems and what she has said probably stems from her problems and maybe her mother's misunderstanding of the situation. I would sit tight, look after your other daughter, and wait for the chips to fall where they may. If your daughter is the one with problems, then sooner rather than later, her mother will experience them too. She may very well change her mind about wanting complete custody and no contact once she realises what she is dealing with. I mean no disrespect to your daughter. It is not her fault she is disturbed and probably not the fault of her parents. Try not to blame yourself; just be there to step in and do what you can when that becomes possible. Sending you strength ... Link to post Share on other sites
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