Am I acting crazy? I feel jealous about a guy i've only met once dating other girls

[Brisa]

Hi! So first, i want to explain that i have been talking with this guy since 2-3 months ago. We text everyday and we met about 1 month ago. He lives about 1 hour and 40 minutes away from me so that is the reason it is a little difficult for us to meet more often.

What happens is that i made the mistake of stalking him on instagram and i saw that there is a girl that posted an story with him about 2 weeks ago. I let it go because we are not official or anything but today the same girl posted an story that she is visiting him again and i was supposed to visit him next week but now i am doubting so much. I do not want to get hurt and this girl is visiting him and i know that she does not live near him.

I know that i am overthinking but we do talk everyday and i just feel awful.

 

He keeps saying that he wants to get to know me better, he keeps being so sweet and now i am just really confused.

[dramafreezone]

24 minutes ago, Brisa said:

Hi! So first, i want to explain that i have been talking with this guy since 2-3 months ago. We text everyday and we met about 1 month ago. He lives about 1 hour and 40 minutes away from me so that is the reason it is a little difficult for us to meet more often.

What happens is that i made the mistake of stalking him on instagram and i saw that there is a girl that posted an story with him about 2 weeks ago. I let it go because we are not official or anything but today the same girl posted an story that she is visiting him again and i was supposed to visit him next week but now i am doubting so much. I do not want to get hurt and this girl is visiting him and i know that she does not live near him.

I know that i am overthinking but we do talk everyday and i just feel awful.

 

He keeps saying that he wants to get to know me better, he keeps being so sweet and now i am just really confused.

He can want to get to know you better, but he's obviously also dating other women, and there's nothing wrong with him doing that.  You're not crazy but in my opinion, you're investing a lot into a guy that lives almost 2 hours away.   Distance is a huge deal.  You may have to adjust your expectations about what this can be.

I think you have all of the information you need to decide if you want to proceed or not.  Also it'd be a good idea to *stop* stalking him on social media.  No good can come of that.

Edited February 23, 2022 by dramafreezone

[stillafool]

He isn't your bf and you aren't his gf so both of you can date who you want.  I see that young lady isn't letting any distance keep her away from her goal - him.  If you show him your jealousy he will probably  be turned off.  Stop stalking people.

[Brisa]

Yeah i know he can do whatever he wants and that maybe i am investing a lot on this that it is probably going to end up in nothing.

But he also has been showing signs of jealousy.

2 times that i have posted an instagram story he has asked me if i was on a date or something. He also admitted to be jealous.

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, Brisa said:

But he also has been showing signs of jealousy.

That's another red flag along with the distance and not seeing each other in person. He's either married, living with someone, in another relationship or just sleeping around locally.

 

Run 👟👟. It's that simple.

[ExpatInItaly]

How feasible is this though, OP?

In 3 months, you've only managed to meet up once. I realize you have another visit planned, but that's very low frequency considering you're not terribly far apart. If circumstances don't permit for more frequent meet-ups, you may want to ask yourself how this is going to work in practical terms. 

In any case, it seems you have gotten a bit too attached. I can understand being excited about someone, but you still don't really know each other. It's been one date so far and digitial communication just can't take the place of real, in-person quality time. Meet up again if you wish, but I would dial back your expectations. See where things go and don't get too invested too early. 

 

[glows]

14 hours ago, Brisa said:

Hi! So first, i want to explain that i have been talking with this guy since 2-3 months ago. We text everyday and we met about 1 month ago. He lives about 1 hour and 40 minutes away from me so that is the reason it is a little difficult for us to meet more often.

What happens is that i made the mistake of stalking him on instagram and i saw that there is a girl that posted an story with him about 2 weeks ago. I let it go because we are not official or anything but today the same girl posted an story that she is visiting him again and i was supposed to visit him next week but now i am doubting so much. I do not want to get hurt and this girl is visiting him and i know that she does not live near him.

I know that i am overthinking but we do talk everyday and i just feel awful.

 

He keeps saying that he wants to get to know me better, he keeps being so sweet and now i am just really confused.

How lovely to have a new woman making the trip out to see him every week or every few weeks. He certainly appears to have charisma. And a social media account for all and sundry to refer to. I say this of course tongue in cheek as we have no idea who she is and may be a relative for all you know.

I’m sorry you’re hurt seeing this but I hope you also take the opportunity to dial this back a little and readjust your expectations.

Why isn’t he the one coming out to see you?

Edited February 24, 2022 by glows

[Karla]

Yea in my view until I know this is a relationship that’s gonna last I keep in contact with all my side chicks. Maybe up to 6 months . But that’s just me maybe people have a different view