vla1120 Posted February 25, 2022 Share Posted February 25, 2022 I have had a difficult time with the motivation to exercise, stopping my stress-eating and trying to lose weight. Someone suggested hypnotherapy and I was very skeptical, but at this point, I need to take control of this situation so I thought I would give it a try. Last night would have been my third session. When I walked in, he said "You look tired and stressed. Is there something else going on that might be interferring with our progress?" I told him about the anger and frustration issues I have been having with my first husband not having a relationship with our daughters, how I just found out recently that he was (again) having an affair at the end of our marriage, how his girlfriend controls him, how I don't WANT to give him this much real estate in my brain, but when I lay my head on the pillow at night, it's all I can think about. Clearly, I have some unresolved issues even though we've been divorced for almost 8 years. My hypnotherapist told me he wanted to try something with me, and he did. It was an emotional session, but I came out of it feeling better than I have in YEARS. Last night, when I went to bed, I felt lighter, more at peace. I have been in some sort of therapy (usually marriage counseling) for years and years during my first 32-year marriage, after its failure and through my second marriage, as well as after my second husband passed. Can I just say that I feel I got more resolved in an hour and fifteen minutes with this hypnotherapist than I've gotten resolved in all those years of therapy? Whether hypnotherapy is going to be totally successful in regards to weight loss remains to be seen (though I have already lost 6 lbs since I started). However, it has certainly been successful in terms of being able to put the problems of my failed marriage aside so I can live my life in peace. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted February 28, 2022 Share Posted February 28, 2022 Sounds interesting, sometimes I get quite mixed up in my own head, maybe this would be worth a try, thoughts of giving someone control of my mind strikes me as overly invasive however. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Libby1 Posted February 28, 2022 Share Posted February 28, 2022 17 hours ago, Foxhall said: Sounds interesting, sometimes I get quite mixed up in my own head, maybe this would be worth a try, thoughts of giving someone control of my mind strikes me as overly invasive however. I've had hypnotherapy before, and I was fully aware of everything being said - though I was in a very relaxed state. If the therapist had suddenly said or done something outrageous or contrary to my interests I'd have been fully aware and able to reject/challenge it...but really, it was just a case of being in a very relaxed state and being open to positive suggestions that the pessimist in me would normally find reasons to reject. I think potentially hypnotherapy could help a lot of people. A few acquaintances I've mentioned it to clearly saw it as something that only works on "weak" people. A charming thing to hear, when you're telling the other person that you've been to hypnotherapy and found it helpful - but unfortunately I think that's quite a popular perception which is maybe based partly on stage hypnosis performances they've seen where they hypnotist as entertainer got people to do all sorts of strange things. There are a whole lot of theories about why people will willingly behave strangely under an apparent trance and under the hypnotist's full control at those shows, but that's a whole different story. Hypnotherapy is something quite different. You're not under a trance where you don't know what's going on/ relinquish all control to another person. You're an active participant in the process, and are able to stop it at any time. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author vla1120 Posted March 3, 2022 Author Share Posted March 3, 2022 On 2/27/2022 at 7:22 PM, Foxhall said: Sounds interesting, sometimes I get quite mixed up in my own head, maybe this would be worth a try, thoughts of giving someone control of my mind strikes me as overly invasive however. Like @Libby1 said, I am aware of everything that is happening, everything the hypnotherapist is saying, and have total control. I'm still amazed at how well it worked for me. On 2/28/2022 at 1:03 PM, Libby1 said: I think potentially hypnotherapy could help a lot of people. A few acquaintances I've mentioned it to clearly saw it as something that only works on "weak" people. A charming thing to hear, when you're telling the other person that you've been to hypnotherapy and found it helpful - but unfortunately I think that's quite a popular perception which is maybe based partly on stage hypnosis performances they've seen where they hypnotist as entertainer got people to do all sorts of strange things. There are a whole lot of theories about why people will willingly behave strangely under an apparent trance and under the hypnotist's full control at those shows, but that's a whole different story. Hypnotherapy is something quite different. You're not under a trance where you don't know what's going on/ relinquish all control to another person. You're an active participant in the process, and are able to stop it at any time. I agree that it would help many. I also agree that it has gotten a bad rap by those performances that are fake and strictly for entertainment. Hypnotherapy doesn't work that way, like you said. it's just a very relaxed state that allows your subconscious to be involved in the process. It worked wonders for me and I think people who have tried therapy and haven't seen the results they've hoped to see would benefit by trying hypnotherapy. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted March 4, 2022 Share Posted March 4, 2022 I've never tried it myself (always worried I would wake up cooing like a pigeon by accident or something). It definitely sounds like a nice way to relax. Maybe it helps to feel relaxed enough so that we have more mental energy overall. I have heard people share similar experiences and that they found it super helpful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted March 6, 2022 Share Posted March 6, 2022 (edited) On 2/25/2022 at 1:41 PM, vla1120 said: Can I just say that I feel I got more resolved in an hour and fifteen minutes with this hypnotherapist than I've gotten resolved in all those years of therapy? Yes, of course you can just say that, and only that. When it comes to what heals, or soothes and relieves, we do not need to follow the "pathology" of what led us to our personal, unique 'need' for the healing, soothing and relief. As long as you do not feel out of control of any part of your 'healing process', then, if or when you question it, you can also question why you question it. Your own subconscious is also, in my mind, obviously also part of you, so, why should that part of you not be involved in its own healing of its own self? It is great when the neuroscientists can start to do what they do, but they have not yet even started to delve into how hypnotherapy and regression therapy may help or hinder our healing from our personal/unique experiences. Check out the most-current studies and findings of Mary-Frances O'Connor and George Bonanno...and whomever else. If it works for you on a personal level, why even question it? Edited March 6, 2022 by Ronni_W punctuation Link to post Share on other sites
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