Did I make a mistake (update)

[Maybemistake]

I wrote back a while ago about my friend I accused of making fun of my dead mother and hacking my phone.  I had hoped we could get past those problems and continue the friendship but I was wrong.  That friend I will call x has blocked me on Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, and an internal messaging service we used.  If she sees me anywhere she turns and goes the other direction.  She always made a huge donation to our annual charity events but declined this past year.  She sponsored me on several different committees and I have been notified I am no longer  sponsored and therefore I am no longer a member.  I did reach out to her in a letter telling her I was sorry and please forgive me.  She wrote back that she did forgive me but had no intention or continuing our friendship.  She said  being accused was enough but then to be accused of criminal behavior was too  much to overcome and her feelings for me have changed.  And the last thing she said was she wished me, that she has always wished me well but to please leave her and her family alone..  I have wrote her back twice but she did not answer.  I don’t understand how she can just give up a 20 year old friendship and not fight for it.  But I see now that I did make a mistake and I probably should have thought it through. Although she was never one to hold grudges and she always quickly let conflicts go.  The other thing she did that I never understood is if we were in a meeting or something and someone asked her a question or made a silly comment she would just ignore them.  And act like it didn’t happen. That was strange.

 

[glows]

14 minutes ago, Maybemistake said:

I wrote back a while ago about my friend I accused of making fun of my dead mother and hacking my phone.  I had hoped we could get past those problems and continue the friendship but I was wrong.  That friend I will call x has blocked me on Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, and an internal messaging service we used.  If she sees me anywhere she turns and goes the other direction.  She always made a huge donation to our annual charity events but declined this past year.  She sponsored me on several different committees and I have been notified I am no longer  sponsored and therefore I am no longer a member.  I did reach out to her in a letter telling her I was sorry and please forgive me.  She wrote back that she did forgive me but had no intention or continuing our friendship.  She said  being accused was enough but then to be accused of criminal behavior was too  much to overcome and her feelings for me have changed.  And the last thing she said was she wished me, that she has always wished me well but to please leave her and her family alone..  I have wrote her back twice but she did not answer.  I don’t understand how she can just give up a 20 year old friendship and not fight for it.  But I see now that I did make a mistake and I probably should have thought it through. Although she was never one to hold grudges and she always quickly let conflicts go.  The other thing she did that I never understood is if we were in a meeting or something and someone asked her a question or made a silly comment she would just ignore them.  And act like it didn’t happen. That was strange.

 

The accusations you had made were left field and unusual in your previous thread. And you seem to constantly question her or undermine her even though you’re both not friends anymore. 

If you flip sides for a second, would you want to be friends with someone like you? It’s scary being accused of a lot of things that are untrue or unproven, let alone criminal in nature.

You mentioned being frustrated that she lives a life that is different from yours so start figuring out how you’d like to improve your own life. If there are things you’d like to achieve start working on them. Don’t keep attacking someone or scrutinizing this person’s every move. She’s gone and out of your life. You never have to worry about her again. 

[Wiseman2]

8 hours ago, Maybemistake said:

.  That friend I will call x has blocked me on Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp. She sponsored me on several different committees and I have been notified I am no longer  sponsored and therefore I am no longer a member.  I did reach out to her in a letter telling her I was sorry and please forgive me.  

All you can do is honor her deleting and blocking you without resorting to letter writing to circumvent that. Step far away. You certainly don't need stalking or harassment charges or a restraining order against you.

Broaden your horizons. Join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, meet new people.

Some friendships end. Especially when there's a rift due to false allegations.

You'll have to make new friends and not become this dependant on anyone.