John Hesketh Posted February 26, 2022 Share Posted February 26, 2022 Hi, I met this girl online, she is from another country. Nowdays I noticed she doesnt come online on WhatsApp as much as before, so sometimes I text message her via SMS to catch her attention because unlike WhatsApp she cant ignore it but she wants me to stop text messaging her and instead just message her on WhatsApp and she doesnt say why. Is this because if I text message her it will charge her extra or is it something else? These days on WhatsApp her last seen status is from several days ago, and when I message her on it she doesnt come online to even read my message. But what I noticed is that if i SMS text message her she replies rather quickly but she doesnt want me to SMS her. This behaviour is strange i think. Is this normal? What does this mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 26, 2022 Share Posted February 26, 2022 38 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: she doesnt want me to SMS her. It means WhatsApp is free over WiFi and her phone plan may have limits. You never met so just stop messaging her. . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted February 26, 2022 Share Posted February 26, 2022 7 hours ago, John Hesketh said: Hi, I met this girl online, she is from another country. Nowdays I noticed she doesnt come online on WhatsApp as much as before, so sometimes I text message her via SMS to catch her attention because unlike WhatsApp she cant ignore it but she wants me to stop text messaging her and instead just message her on WhatsApp and she doesnt say why. Is this because if I text message her it will charge her extra or is it something else? These days on WhatsApp her last seen status is from several days ago, and when I message her on it she doesnt come online to even read my message. But what I noticed is that if i SMS text message her she replies rather quickly but she doesnt want me to SMS her. This behaviour is strange i think. Is this normal? What does this mean? Just respect her wishes. Have you met in person? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted February 26, 2022 Share Posted February 26, 2022 In my experience, every dating site contact who wants to switch to whatsapp has been a scammer. I think it helps them more easily keep track of who they're working on at the moment, and they can work on several people simultaneously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted February 27, 2022 Author Share Posted February 27, 2022 18 hours ago, glows said: Just respect her wishes. Have you met in person? No. havent met her physically. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 27, 2022 Share Posted February 27, 2022 15 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: No. havent met her physically. Ok. Then just delete and block it. Get a good profile and pics on quality legitimate dating apps and start talking to and meeting local real life women in person in a timely manner. Anyone who contacts you from a distance and won't meet is a red flag 🚩. Don't be so quick to exchange numbers or use other messaging apps. Instead suggest meeting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted February 27, 2022 Author Share Posted February 27, 2022 11 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok. Then just delete and block it. Get a good profile and pics on quality legitimate dating apps and start talking to and meeting local real life women in person in a timely manner. Anyone who contacts you from a distance and won't meet is a red flag 🚩. Don't be so quick to exchange numbers or use other messaging apps. Instead suggest meeting. But I am too short to meet women locally. I am 5'6 and I think women dont like short guys. this is a rule. right? Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted February 27, 2022 Share Posted February 27, 2022 12 hours ago, John Hesketh said: No. havent met her physically. So it’s a catfish. Know that. You’re probably texting a man anyway. get over your height issues. There’s plenty of short women in the world. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted February 28, 2022 Author Share Posted February 28, 2022 (edited) 23 hours ago, S2B said: So it’s a catfish. Know that. You’re probably texting a man anyway. get over your height issues. There’s plenty of short women in the world. its not a man. its a real girl. i video chatted with her before. but is it intentional if she is not regularly appear online on WhatsApp? With WhatsApp when you send a message the other person would get some kind of notification that she has a message but even then she doesnt seem to open up the WhatsApp. Or she will do it days later. Obviously I am not the only one that she has on WhatsApp, if its intentional she doesnt want to come online on it because she doesnt want to entertain the idea that she comes online regularly to read the messages and reply and only she comes online when its convenient for her? So is it possible that she doesnt want to open up the WhatsApp to appear online on regular basis so she doesnt have to read and reply to messages? Edited February 28, 2022 by John Hesketh Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted February 28, 2022 Share Posted February 28, 2022 She probably has a husband or boyfriend who may have noticed your texts. Using apps make it more difficult to snoop on the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted February 28, 2022 Author Share Posted February 28, 2022 (edited) 21 minutes ago, DKT3 said: She probably has a husband or boyfriend who may have noticed your texts. Using apps make it more difficult to snoop on the phone. As far as i know she is single and just living with her sister...... but which is more likely 1. She is living in another country. Would it be because of the costs of texting? 2. She doesnt want others like her sister to see the text as you said? 3. Texting is more distracting than messaging in an App because its in your face? The thing is when I text her she would respond rather quickly, but when i message her in WhatsApp she doesnt even open the WhatsApp until like days later. Does this mean anything? is it intentional that she doesnt open the WhatsApp regularly to read or reply messages? Edited February 28, 2022 by John Hesketh Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 28, 2022 Share Posted February 28, 2022 As she's a real person, she sees you as an acquaintance and doesn't want to be bothered with you pinging her messages. She does not see you as a potential boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted February 28, 2022 Author Share Posted February 28, 2022 (edited) 4 minutes ago, basil67 said: As she's a real person, she sees you as an acquaintance and doesn't want to be bothered with you pinging her messages. She does not see you as a potential boyfriend. What about her not checking her WhatsApp for days? Would this be intentional? Edited February 28, 2022 by John Hesketh Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 1 hour ago, John Hesketh said: What about her not checking her WhatsApp for days? Would this be intentional? How about you just ask her why she prefers to have you on WhatsApp? Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted March 1, 2022 Author Share Posted March 1, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, basil67 said: How about you just ask her why she prefers to have you on WhatsApp? I dont want to ask her. Thats why im here. To get your opinion. If i ask her she would say its because she is busy.....This is not always true because one time she never saw my message and then I found that she is live on TikTok Edited March 1, 2022 by John Hesketh Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 1 hour ago, John Hesketh said: If i ask her she would say its because she is busy.....This is not always true because one time she never saw my message and then I found that she is live on TikTok Yes! She's busy doing other things which she'd prefer to do.....like TikTok Link to post Share on other sites
Agentra Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 I prefer using Whatsapp as well. SMS messages are more for work and urgent everyday shenanigans. Her living in a different country might be a factor as well, if you're not texting over iMessage, the texts can cost her money. If she wants to chat over Whatsapp, respect that. If she doesn't open your messages for days, don't bug her, she would if she wanted to. Let her come to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted March 1, 2022 Author Share Posted March 1, 2022 1 hour ago, Agentra said: I prefer using Whatsapp as well. SMS messages are more for work and urgent everyday shenanigans. Her living in a different country might be a factor as well, if you're not texting over iMessage, the texts can cost her money. If she wants to chat over Whatsapp, respect that. If she doesn't open your messages for days, don't bug her, she would if she wanted to. Let her come to you. so you mean i shouldnt keep on messaging her if she doesnt even see or read my message? Link to post Share on other sites
Agentra Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 4 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: so you mean i shouldnt keep on messaging her if she doesnt even see or read my message? She should be receiving notifications when you message her. If her notifications are turned off, she would turn them back on if she were keen on chatting. Women and men that want to chat and stay in touch will do so, focus your energy on getting to know other people for now. If you're convinced this isn't a catfish, feel free to leave her on the background and see what she does. But don't hold your breath, friend. You shouldn't have to chase a girl and use different mediums to get her attention 🙂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 (edited) 27 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: so you mean i shouldnt keep on messaging her if she doesnt even see or read my message? Yes, only message in a volley like fashion. That means message, then wait for a response before messaging again. No one wants to open messaging apps with multiple messages from anyone. Don't send SMS to anyone who hasn't invited you to. Even receiving messages could be expensive, depending on the phone plan. Especially do not send international SMS. Edited March 1, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted March 1, 2022 Author Share Posted March 1, 2022 17 minutes ago, Agentra said: She should be receiving notifications when you message her. If her notifications are turned off, she would turn them back on if she were keen on chatting. Women and men that want to chat and stay in touch will do so, focus your energy on getting to know other people for now. If you're convinced this isn't a catfish, feel free to leave her on the background and see what she does. But don't hold your breath, friend. You shouldn't have to chase a girl and use different mediums to get her attention 🙂 she is not a catfish i know this for sure. its a real girl. her last seen status can be for days ago, even when i message her...So this means that she is not opening her WhatsApp at all.. Do you think this is intentional for someone not wanting to open up their WhatsApp for a long time? Link to post Share on other sites
Agentra Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 5 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: she is not a catfish i know this for sure. its a real girl. her last seen status can be for days ago, even when i message her...So this means that she is not opening her WhatsApp at all.. Do you think this is intentional for someone not wanting to open up their WhatsApp for a long time? She knows where to find you, you're just a message away. I'd never leave a guy I'm genuinely interested in hanging for days. She is either intentionally ignoring you or doesn't care enough to check for your messages, neither is good. Your efforts are better spent on somebody who's available and willing to give back. There isn't anything you can really "do" to make somebody interested in you. It's disappointing, but it is what it is. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 52 minutes ago, John Hesketh said: she is not a catfish i know this for sure. its a real girl. her last seen status can be for days ago, even when i message her...So this means that she is not opening her WhatsApp at all.. Do you think this is intentional for someone not wanting to open up their WhatsApp for a long time? I can't speak for this girl, but my WhatsApp conversations are unimportant to me, so I don't open it for days (or weeks) at a time because I don't care too much about staying in contact. The people I want to hear from use SMS or FB messenger which I see daily. Link to post Share on other sites
Author John Hesketh Posted March 1, 2022 Author Share Posted March 1, 2022 (edited) 3 minutes ago, basil67 said: I can't speak for this girl, but my WhatsApp conversations are unimportant to me, so I don't open it for days (or weeks) at a time because I don't care too much about staying in contact. The people I want to hear from use SMS or FB messenger which I see daily. Maybe this is the case with her. dont know. She has a FB as well which i found it myself by searching her full name but i never sent her a friend request. Edited March 1, 2022 by John Hesketh Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 1, 2022 Share Posted March 1, 2022 1 minute ago, John Hesketh said: Maybe this is the case with her. dont know. She has a FB as well which i found it myself by searching her full name but i never sent her a friend request. You've already said that she'd tell you that she's too busy. Translation: she sees you as low priority. Link to post Share on other sites
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