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Richard Collett

I met a girl online a few months ago. 

She lives in a different country.

At first she was a bit more talkative in terms of online messaging, but over time she became less active in terms of messaging me.

She suddenly disappears for days without seeing my message. When she replies here and there, in the middle of my messaging to her, she suddenly disappears for a while without seeing my message. 

But when she suddenly disappears for days, is this intentional or because she is very busy? if its intentional why would she do that?

 

 

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9 minutes ago, Richard Collett said:

But when she suddenly disappears for days, is this intentional or because she is very busy?

The only person who knows is the woman with whom you have been messaging. 

10 minutes ago, Richard Collett said:

if its intentional why would she do that?

Because the relationship isn’t progressing. Have you considered the idea that she is a catfish - worst case scenario, she is chatting with other men and she is distancing from you because her other prospects are offering other things - money, travel, marriage. 

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16 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

The only person who knows is the woman with whom you have been messaging. 

Because the relationship isn’t progressing. Have you considered the idea that she is a catfish - worst case scenario, she is chatting with other men and she is distancing from you because her other prospects are offering other things - money, travel, marriage. 

its not a catfish. We video chatted before. she is a real girl.

She built an emotional rapport with me. To the point that I send her money to help her financially. 

But even though i help her out financially, she still suddenly disappears on me for days... When you help someone financially you expect them to be more available to you. right? but this is not the case for me. I dont know why?

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6 minutes ago, Richard Collett said:

But even though i help her out financially, she still suddenly disappears on me for days... When you help someone financially you expect them to be more available to you. right? but this is not the case for me. I dont know why?

If giving someone money makes them more available, then they are simply open to having their affections bought. 

But if they are becoming more distant, it's because a) money can't make up for the lack of affection they have for you or b) they found someone with more money.   Given that she's overseas and you're sending her money, my bet is that she found someone who has more money.

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2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Given that she's overseas and you're sending her money, my bet is that she found someone who has more money.

Also my bet.

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8 minutes ago, basil67 said:

If giving someone money makes them more available, then they are simply open to having their affections bought. 

But if they are becoming more distant, it's because a) money can't make up for the lack of affection they have for you or b) they found someone with more money.   Given that she's overseas and you're sending her money, my bet is that she found someone who has more money.

But maybe A is more accurate because I asked her why she is not asking me for money as much as before she said its because i have been helping her  a lot already....

So if this is true then A is more correct? She doesnt ask me for much money anymore like before and i never said no to her

My intention was that i can buy the love/affection with money but is it possible that it cant be bought?

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Why are you sending money to a woman you have never met in person? This is not a relationship. This is a transaction.

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1 hour ago, BaileyB said:

Why are you sending money to a woman you have never met in person? This is not a relationship. This is a transaction.

To make her happy and to make her love me and things like that...

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