Author Sadman101 Posted March 4, 2022 Author Share Posted March 4, 2022 Lol this is getting funnier day by day this week she calls me Tuesday to tell me she bought me protein bars Wednesday to ask me to buy her a rental yesterday about health insurance and today to ask me to bring her her box of candles to her moms house ever day she has contacted me about something lol Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 4, 2022 Share Posted March 4, 2022 21 minutes ago, Sadman101 said: Lol this is getting funnier day by day this week she calls me Tuesday to tell me she bought me protein bars Wednesday to ask me to buy her a rental yesterday about health insurance and today to ask me to bring her her box of candles to her moms house ever day she has contacted me about something lol The best thing you can do is to go no contact. Do not accept her calls. Do not do favors for you. She's keeping you on the back burner, probably for a number of reasons - if this new guy doesn't work out, she can land softly back with you, or she wants money/support from you (though she told you she doesn't) so she's trying to string you along until she gets what she wants. Regardless of your history with her, it's not fair for her to continually contact you to do things for her. (Unless you are enjoying this hope dangling in front of you, then being yanked away all the time) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 4, 2022 Author Share Posted March 4, 2022 Just now, vla1120 said: The best thing you can do is to go no contact. Do not accept her calls. Do not do favors for you. She's keeping you on the back burner, probably for a number of reasons - if this new guy doesn't work out, she can land softly back with you, or she wants money/support from you (though she told you she doesn't) so she's trying to string you along until she gets what she wants. Regardless of your history with her, it's not fair for her to continually contact you to do things for her. (Unless you are enjoying this hope dangling in front of you, then being yanked away all the time) Absolutely I ignored her I’m no doormat 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 4, 2022 Share Posted March 4, 2022 Just proceed with the divorce and get this woman out of your hair. She isn't contacting you because she wants to save the marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 4, 2022 Author Share Posted March 4, 2022 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: Just proceed with the divorce and get this woman out of your hair. She isn't contacting you because she wants to save the marriage. Absolutely I know Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 4, 2022 Author Share Posted March 4, 2022 It’s just funny now how there has been communication all this week after she stated in front of her sister she didn’t want to communicate anymore unbelievable Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted March 5, 2022 Share Posted March 5, 2022 8 hours ago, Sadman101 said: It’s just funny now how there has been communication all this week after she stated in front of her sister she didn’t want to communicate anymore unbelievable I don't trust her motives. I'm glad you're seeing through these breadcrumbs. The property requests alone are very inappropriate at this stage in the game. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 5, 2022 Author Share Posted March 5, 2022 4 hours ago, healing light said: I don't trust her motives. I'm glad you're seeing through these breadcrumbs. The property requests alone are very inappropriate at this stage in the game. Absolutely it’s just weird why all of a sudden she is finding reasons to message me now it’s amazing Thursday evening she told me to take the dogs to get groomed but also said she does not want them to stink like me I said that’s nice your kicking a human that’s already down and that was my last communication with her and yesterday she had the nerve to ask me to bring her her box of candles lol Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 5, 2022 Share Posted March 5, 2022 (edited) 18 hours ago, Sadman101 said: It’s just funny now how there has been communication all this week after she stated in front of her sister she didn’t want to communicate anymore unbelievable People go back and forth all the time with things, particularly when strong emotions are involved. That said, I agree there's a good chance you are a "fallback plan" if she is trying to monkey-branch, and/or she's hoping to improve her financial situation on her way out the door. Edited March 5, 2022 by mark clemson Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 5, 2022 Share Posted March 5, 2022 6 hours ago, Sadman101 said: Absolutely it’s just weird why all of a sudden she is finding reasons to message me now it’s amazing Thursday evening she told me to take the dogs to get groomed but also said she does not want them to stink like me I said that’s nice your kicking a human that’s already down and that was my last communication with her and yesterday she had the nerve to ask me to bring her her box of candles lol Ignore her requests. It’s likely she senses you won’t be taken for a fool any longer and needs the validation she’s always got from you that you are her doormat or person to fall back on. It’ll be a rude awakening for her when she realizes she no longer has you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 5, 2022 Share Posted March 5, 2022 20 hours ago, Sadman101 said: Lol this is getting funnier day by day this week she calls me Tuesday to tell me she bought me protein bars Wednesday to ask me to buy her a rental yesterday about health insurance and today to ask me to bring her her box of candles to her moms house ever day she has contacted me about something lol Is she going through with the divorce? Where is she staying? Abused women often have difficultly leaving, even with your attempts at enticing her to come back with claiming you would put her name on the deed or meeting in front of her sister as a neutral setting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 5, 2022 Author Share Posted March 5, 2022 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Is she going through with the divorce? Where is she staying? Abused women often have difficultly leaving, even with your attempts at enticing her to come back with claiming you would put her name on the deed or meeting in front of her sister as a neutral setting. Yes she is going through with the divorce but she stated she didn’t want to talk anymore yet everyday she has been contacting me after she stated front of her sister she didn’t want to talk anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 5, 2022 Share Posted March 5, 2022 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Sadman101 said: Yes she is going through with the divorce Ok, then all you have to do is wait for the "default" divorce, whether or not she contacts you. Edited March 5, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 5, 2022 Author Share Posted March 5, 2022 51 minutes ago, glows said: Ignore her requests. It’s likely she senses you won’t be taken for a fool any longer and needs the validation she’s always got from you that you are her doormat or person to fall back on. It’ll be a rude awakening for her when she realizes she no longer has you anymore. Absolutely! Thank you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 6, 2022 Author Share Posted March 6, 2022 Quick question last Tuesday when she came over to get something she needed I was feeling up on her and she laughed call me a perv didn’t seem to mind it is there a meaning behind that?I know so random but I forgot to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 6, 2022 Share Posted March 6, 2022 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Sadman101 said: Quick question last Tuesday when she came over to get something she needed I was feeling up on her and she laughed call me a perv didn’t seem to mind it is there a meaning behind that?I know so random but I forgot to ask. After all the grumbling you've been doing, what on earth possessed you to do this? She was laughing at you because you just proved that you're were thinking your little head rather than your brain. If you had any credibility with her, it's all lost now. Edited March 6, 2022 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 6, 2022 Author Share Posted March 6, 2022 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: After all the grumbling you've been doing, what on earth possessed you to do this? She was laughing at you because you just proved that you're were thinking your little head rather than your brain. If you had any credibility with her, it's all lost now. Easy for you to say it was a friendly laugh remember not all break ups are the same I’ve accepted things for what they are!!!! But the way she laughed was friendly her usual laugh not that of laughing at me she was friendly and we have kissed a couple times in recent times that’s why it’s weird. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2022 Share Posted March 6, 2022 49 minutes ago, Sadman101 said: Quick question last Tuesday when she came over to get something she needed I was feeling up on her and she laughed call me a perv didn’t seem to mind it is there a meaning behind that? If she's still proceeding with the divorece, it means nothing. Her ego was stroked. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 6, 2022 Share Posted March 6, 2022 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Her ego was stroked. That's all. Her ego was stroked and you have lost all credibility with her. She knows she has you right where she wants you - still wanting her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadman101 Posted March 6, 2022 Author Share Posted March 6, 2022 14 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Her ego was stroked and you have lost all credibility with her. She knows she has you right where she wants you - still wanting her. Not really because I never contact her she’s always contacting me it’s indirect direct contact I mean why is she reaching out to me asking me to bring her a box of candles when she has no use for them when she is living in her moms house not that it’s any of my business but why contact me for something so insignificant for? Her man is over seas pretty much it’s a rebound to replace the pain or forget the pain you se where I’m going with this it’s easy to assume and just give a basic explanation without reading into the context of the question without knowing who this person is like I have explained Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2022 Share Posted March 6, 2022 So if you already believe she's contacting you because she misses you or regrets initiating a divorce, why are you asking here? 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 7, 2022 Share Posted March 7, 2022 On 3/6/2022 at 9:23 AM, Sadman101 said: I never contact her she’s always contacting me Blocking her and going completely no contact would resolve ALL of these issues. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
6ix Posted March 8, 2022 Senior Moderators Share Posted March 8, 2022 This thread is locked because the OP does not appear to be interested in any feedback received. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whatislovehuh Posted March 18, 2022 Share Posted March 18, 2022 Hi everyone it’s my first every post here my wife and I are getting a divorce it’s only been 2 months but she met someone and is going to visit him overseas, she says she does not love me anymore after our 6 year relationship I was not the perfect husband but I loved her greatly wanted the best for her my question is how does one meet someone after a month or 2 day they love them and going to visit them? is it limerence? Maybe she is trying to replace me quick so she won’t be alone ? It’s not possible to lose feelings that quick I’m confused any advice or guidance please thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 18, 2022 Share Posted March 18, 2022 What are the reasons for divorce? Resentment can run deep and she may have checked out a long time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
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