knockout33 Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 Hi guys so one of my best friend's she wants me to sleep over at her and her husband's place. I'm not comfortable with that even though she's one of my best friend's. I feel like, I don't know him well to sleep over. I'm cool with going over to their place, but not to spend the night. I only been there once and met him at the wedding when they got married. So, I don't know much about him. But I love my friend. She's awesome and loving towards me. I just don't want our friendship to dissolve over this. I don't know how to tell her I don't want to sleep over without hurting her. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 Just say you sleep better in your own bed. There’s no other explanation needed. Has he been inappropriate with other women or around you before? You seem to be reacting very strongly if you feel this uncomfortable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 Why would you sleep over? That's a very strange request, no? Are you and she lovers? Are they asking you for a threesome? If they invite you to their home, bring a date. 2 hours ago, knockout33 said: I love my friend. She's awesome and loving towards me. I just don't want our friendship to dissolve over this 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 You're grown and can sleep where you want. If it's out of town just tell her thank you but you'd prefer to stay at a hotel. Has your friend's husband tried to hit on you or something and that is why you don't feel comfortable sleeping in their home? Anyway I doubt it will be a problem as most people don't like houseguests anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 Why is your friend asking you to sleep over? That is a strange request. Friends don't normally ask friends to "sleep over", unless you are like 12. Link to post Share on other sites
Author knockout33 Posted March 25, 2022 Author Share Posted March 25, 2022 (edited) So. I don't really have an issue sleeping over at her place, cause she also has her own place still. She lives with her husband though. I feel it would be weird to spend the night with her and her husband. I only think its weird cause of that, but if it's at her place, just us two, a girls night, it's cool. No he's never hit on me. I just feel I don't really know him to be spending the night over there and plus she's told me that he says I can. And that, he wants me to. I'm curious, why ? Like, why does he ask? You know? But I think I'll tell her I'd rather spend the night at her place instead. Either that or I'd rather sleep at home, Edited March 25, 2022 by knockout33 Link to post Share on other sites
Author knockout33 Posted March 25, 2022 Author Share Posted March 25, 2022 On 3/21/2022 at 11:48 AM, ShyViolet said: Why is your friend asking you to sleep over? That is a strange request. Friends don't normally ask friends to "sleep over", unless you are like 12. Really? I never thought of this. I think its ok. Just not with her man around. That doesn't sit well with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 25, 2022 Share Posted March 25, 2022 6 hours ago, knockout33 said: I'd rather sleep at home, This makes much more sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted March 25, 2022 Share Posted March 25, 2022 I can see why you would not feel comfortable being that you do not know her husband that well. I've slept over my best friend's house with her (now fiance') there but I've known them both for 20+ years and there has never been an issue. If we've gone out and it's been too late to drive back home for instance. Sleep at home if it makes you uncomfortable. Such things don't dissolve friendships. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 25, 2022 Share Posted March 25, 2022 9 hours ago, knockout33 said: So. I don't really have an issue sleeping over at her place, cause she also has her own place still. She lives with her husband though. I feel it would be weird to spend the night with her and her husband. I only think its weird cause of that, but if it's at her place, just us two, a girls night, it's cool. No he's never hit on me. I just feel I don't really know him to be spending the night over there and plus she's told me that he says I can. And that, he wants me to. I'm curious, why ? Like, why does he ask? You know? But I think I'll tell her I'd rather spend the night at her place instead. Either that or I'd rather sleep at home, I think you’re reading too much into this. He could be echoing her in case you doubted whether it was ok by either of them. I interpreted the sleep over after a party or if you had all been drinking for example or have plans or an early flight the next morning. If it’s a regular evening, you’re not incapacitated with drink and for no reason then go home. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 25, 2022 Share Posted March 25, 2022 I too think you're reading too much into it. I doubt seriously he's the one who wants you to sleep over but only agreed to it because she asked him and he wants to make her happy. You know girls wanting to stay up til the wee hours talking like teenagers. He'll probably go to bed and leave you guys up and alone. When friends visit me and my husband from out of town they are welcomed to stay in out guest room and vice versa. Just so we can spend more time together. No big deal. What are you afraid her husband is going to do to you if you spend the night? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author knockout33 Posted March 26, 2022 Author Share Posted March 26, 2022 Thanks for your help guys 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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