Author MLane7698 Posted May 10, 2022 Author Share Posted May 10, 2022 5 hours ago, stillafool said: Maybe he's saying he feels gutted because you guys lost your baby to miscarriage (who wouldn't?); but it doesn't mean he wants another baby or he would suggest adoption. Adoption is your only choice. It's not like he's pressuring you to have a baby now but you're putting pressure on yourself because your younger sister is having a baby. Raading your reply brings relief. Perhaps you're right - I just have to work on myself. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 11, 2022 Share Posted May 11, 2022 (edited) 11 hours ago, MLane7698 said: It's really hard to say - if he's ok with it.. I really hope he is - but wheneven I want to express my feelings "he freaks out". He could be freaking out because you're expecting an answer which doesn't make sense. You want him to assure you that it's OK for you to not try when the fact is you're past childbearing age and now the point is moot. Also when you said that he's gutted it didn't happen, I thought he was referring to you not wanting to try again in the past and guilt tripping you. But is he gutted because he's grieving the miscarriage? It would be so much more helpful if you could give more information in your responses to avoid misunderstandings. What prompts him to still raise the topic of feeling gutted? Why are you still needing to express your feelings? I highly recommend the two of you do marriage counselling so that you can both get a clear understanding of what the other wants and feels and be able to move past it all. Edited May 11, 2022 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
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