Ex partner won't let go (update - he's threatening to show my pictures)

[AlphaFemme99]

4 hours ago, mark clemson said:

Good you're leaving him. IMO this person is an abusive partner. Some abusers use suicide threats as a manipulation tactic and he seems to be one of those. In my personal opinion you should stay firm on no contact with him and keeping him out of your life. No good will come of continued contact with him, so "resolve" is necessary IMO.

It’s true. He tried tho and that’s what bothered me. If he wasn’t taken to hospital etc I would’ve left ages ago 

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, AlphaFemme99 said:

He introduced me as his fiancé when we were together to a lot of important people in his life. I can’t keep up to delete them all as  I have thousands of contacts personally 

So you gave you contact info to everyone he's introduced you to?   Why?????  [ ] 

Edited May 25, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
antagonistic

[AlphaFemme99]

43 minutes ago, stillafool said:

So you gave you contact info to everyone he's introduced you to?   Why?????  You really want to keep up with this guy don't you?

No that happened in the early stages when things were amazing  in our relationship and we were newly engaged. Now I’ve got all these people close to him on my Facebook I can’t keep up to remember all. Even one his cousins wives requested my friendship. They all like me .. and he obviously still wants to get back together but I have no answer to the treatment he later started giving me. I don’t care it wasn’t physical.. just not ok either way 

Edited May 25, 2022 by AlphaFemme99

[AlphaFemme99]

2 minutes ago, AlphaFemme99 said:

No that happened in the early stages when things were amazing  in our relationship and we were newly engaged. Now I’ve got all these people close to him on my Facebook I can’t keep up to remember all. Even one his cousins wives requested my friendship. They all like me .. and he obviously still wants to get back together but I have no answer to the treatment he later started giving me. I don’t care it wasn’t physical.. just not ok either way 

They requested my friendship not the other way around. He wanted to introduce me to everyone in his life 

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, AlphaFemme99 said:

Even one his cousins wives requested my friendship.

Relatives I might understand if they are immediate family, but thousands of contacts that someone else knows is a bit excessive to me.   So you have every one of his relatives contact info which means there's absolutely no good reason for you to still be involved in his life at this point.

[AlphaFemme99]

12 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Relatives I might understand if they are immediate family, but thousands of contacts that someone else knows is a bit excessive to me.   So you have every one of his relatives contact info which means there's absolutely no good reason for you to still be involved in his life at this point.

Well I didn’t have to. I just get along with heaps of people and she’s lovely so I accepted her request .. just like a lot of friends etc he introduced me to. I accept people I get along with. I have thousands of contacts not just on fb and run social groups .. I’m just very social 

[Wiseman2]

if there's too much to block, just ignore and make your social media more private

[AlphaFemme99]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

if there's too much to block, just ignore and make your social media more private

It is private. Only my profile pic and some info is visible to non friends.
U mean just ignore messages by any of his contacts? That’s an idea 

[AlphaFemme99]

What makes this hard is my ex and I had thousands of messages between us. There were all these song requests and declarations of love by him and so much fun history. We wanted the same things in life. He messaged and called constantly even after I left, but then I put a stop dramatically to it. 
It’s like I was with two people. I feel a bit empty since deleting him everywhere. I know I was highlighting the bad stuff but it’s hard when there has been so much good especially at the beginning 8 months or so 

[basil67]

34 minutes ago, AlphaFemme99 said:

It is private. Only my profile pic and some info is visible to non friends.
U mean just ignore messages by any of his contacts? That’s an idea 

Do they message you?   If so, you really do need to take the time to clean them out of your social media.  Yes, I get that you've got a lot of friends, so if it's too much to do at one time, then do it methodically as any appear in your feed or messenger.

[stillafool]

28 minutes ago, AlphaFemme99 said:

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What makes this hard is my ex and I had thousands of messages between us. There were all these song requests and declarations of love by him and so much fun history. We wanted the same things in life. He messaged and called constantly even after I left, but then I put a stop dramatically to it. 

You can delete them so you're not triggered.

 

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It’s like I was with two people. I feel a bit empty since deleting him everywhere. I know I was highlighting the bad stuff but it’s hard when there has been so much good especially at the beginning 8 months or so 

 

You probably are feeling the relief from all the drama.  It's like you've exhaled.

[AlphaFemme99]

23 hours ago, stillafool said:

You probably are feeling the relief from all the drama.  It's like you've exhaled.

That part is true