We left Ukraine she isn't happy and I feel like it's making us break up

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, jerrygordon3 said:

 I did work hard for us and dont understand why she would leave without saying goodbye even after living together and talking about a future.

There were arguments all along. She left because of an impasse and  not listening to her particular concerns.

You were still not compatible and moving to Asia certainly made that worse. Let her be. She clearly made plans to leave the situation.

[jerrygordon3]

15 hours ago, BrinnM said:

The war may have compounded certain problems that have been there all along. I hope she’s safe. 

I'm heartbroken because she was childish about it. she has always handled situations like that. shes very explosive and drastic. In a relationship when you live with someone wouldnt you expect a conversation with some sense before a break up, instead she fled when I was out of the house wihtout a word and no response. She left me on read. a month ago she was talking about marriage. she makes no sense. it seems so self destructive. relationships have hard parts, you work through them like adults. whenever there was an issue with her I felt I was working with a positive outcome, then her response was negative, and we never could reach a conclusion. She just seems unreachable emotionally. I had a couple weeks where I checked out to be honest because of the stress and fighting but when we talked I was only met with anger. no reason. and the way she left, it almost seems narcissitic. 

[jerrygordon3]

16 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

There were arguments all along. She left because of an impasse and  not listening to her particular concerns.

You were still not compatible and moving to Asia certainly made that worse. Let her be. She clearly made plans to leave the situation.

we were talking about marriage and she left without a word after a rough patch. We had a life together and she seems on a destructive vendetta specifically targeting me or our relationship. The point is shes always been the kind who if she gets hurt, or doesnt feel like being solid, will completely shut down. My friends said shes incredibly negative and only talks about herself and has no interest in anyone else. and that she doesnt seem like the best person. I get that, but it was also a really hard time for her. but how do you hold onto someone who is being irrational, and who wont even calm down enough to see reason 1, and 2, remember to appreciate what we have and not just throw it away. I love her. I'm sad, even though she didnt always treat me right I loved her.