42Confused42 Posted March 27, 2022 Share Posted March 27, 2022 Met this girl about a month ago, we went on a couple dates and instant connection from both sides and she even tried to get me to go home with her after the first date but as a boundary for myself I said I don’t have sex on the first date, which she respected. Nothing ever felt forced, I’d wake up to morning texts, we’d talk/ text almost everyday. Truly never a dull moment the kisses felt right, everything seemed to be going well. One night she met me at a club because we were both out with our friend groups drinking, we danced all night went back to her place and hooked up again, nothing felt awkward. We planned another date for the following weekend just to grab dinner and keep it lowkey. The day before our date she said she felt tired from a rough week and she felt kinda odd and that she would like to cancel the date and I assumed nothing out of the ordinary and said yeah take the day and recharge. The next day I didn’t hear from her all day (which I was fine with but just seemed out of ordinary for her) until she received the flowers I sent her from earlier in the week ( I was aware ahead of time she was going to have a rough week). She sent a picture of them to me said they were beautiful and she doesn’t deserve them and she was thankful for me, she also posted them to her IG story. The following day absolutely no contact so I let it go whatever I was hanging with friends no big deal. Then the next day I didn’t hear from her again which is so unusual as she was a great communicator before, so I reached out and asked if she was okay and she told me she was okay but then I just addressed the disconnect I felt she apologized for just totally dropping communication and she felt things were just moving too fast and I agreed but I just asked for the future if she could express that instead of ghosting me again she said it was immature of her and that she still wanted to see me but wanted to slow things down and I agreed and said I look forward to it. As of right now I’m just going to let her reach out if and when she feels comfortable as if I force the issue to go on a date or chat her up it will only push her further. I don’t really have a plan here just kinda being patient live my life maybe go on a date with someone else. I hope it works because I felt a solid connection to build on but I’m open to suggestions and advice. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 27, 2022 Share Posted March 27, 2022 1 hour ago, 42Confused42 said: I reached out and asked if she was okay and she told me she was okay but then I just addressed the disconnect I felt she apologized for just totally dropping communication and she felt things were just moving too fast Sorry this happened. You were doing everything right. Is there a recent or on/off ex in the picture? Is she talking to./meeting others? Just pull back as you're doing and let her miss you and reach out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 42Confused42 Posted March 27, 2022 Author Share Posted March 27, 2022 10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Just pull back as you're doing and let her miss you and reach out. I’d assume she is meeting other ppl, just from these actions and she is confused as to what to do but the problem is I won’t wait forever. Even though it’s hard I’ll remain patient for the time being Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 28, 2022 Share Posted March 28, 2022 There is not much you can do here but give her the space she seems to want, and observe. You will know soon enough if she truly wants to keep seeing you, or if this was an excuse because she doesn't have the stones to call if off because something has changed for her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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