Helotome Posted March 23, 2022 Share Posted March 23, 2022 I have a crush on my male coworker. Lately I would touch his hands and he doesn't flinch or take his hand back. One day he was working on his pc & I just came from his back and placed my face next to his as I watch what he is tapping & he didn't flinch nor takes head away from mine. He is comfortable with touches. Looks at me direction when I am not looking. Try initiate to talk to me but small talk. He always come in my direction and see what I am doing. Whn I talk to other coworkers he makes high sounds like talk loud even talk to males coworker that I talking to. Once the coworker step outside then he sits next to me initiating a conversation like how I am doing. He gives off confident and shy energy. But he didn't ask me out or ask if I have boyfriend. I had a crush on him and he acting differently then before. Do he likes now? I need your opinions. Should I make the first move or what? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 23, 2022 Share Posted March 23, 2022 1 minute ago, Helotome said: One day he was working on his pc & I just came from his back and placed my face next to his as I watch what he is tapping & he didn't flinch nor takes head away from mine. He is comfortable with touches. How long have you been working there? is he a supervisor? How old is he? If he is sexually harassing you by getting too close or loud, etc. discuss it with your manager. Also do not make anyone uncomfortable at work. Otherwise act professional and date outside of work. It's ok to have a crush, but stop getting too close and touchy with him. The workplace is not a singles club or dating site. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JPrez Posted March 24, 2022 Share Posted March 24, 2022 Glad to help! It sounds to me like he is interested in you and finds you attractive based on the statement you made that he looks at you. He would not seek you out unless their is an attraction. Guys don’t even look at women they are not attracted to, trust me. Also, if he did not appreciate the touching, he would have had a noticeable reaction to your touching him. What’s probably holding him back is a few possibilities. 1. He does not want to have a girlfriend he works with. 2. He is extremely shy and has trouble with relating to and talking to women. Or, 3. He has a girlfriend currently. Does this help? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 24, 2022 Author Share Posted March 24, 2022 I believe he got a girlfriend because I always initiating texting with him outside of work then he will not hold the conservation with me. He is a great guy. Guys do find others females attractive even when they are in relationship. Thanks for your reply much appreciated!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JPrez Posted March 24, 2022 Share Posted March 24, 2022 Glad I could help. Don’t hesitate to hit me up if you have any other questions. Maybe he’ll ditch that girl and approach you someday soon. Keep the faith. I’m dealing with something kinda similar myself and it bugs me not knowing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 24, 2022 Author Share Posted March 24, 2022 Omg you are so sweet! I will hit you up soon. It's 8pm dinner time! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 I need your opinions & advice. I like my coworker teacher which happened to be relatives of my father's family. He is older than me 4 years 29old. He is a reserved guy yet fun to be around. I never date anyone before but my instinct tells me that he like me. He nervous around me ( lose words when talking to me yet give me back a lot of eye contact) always find him near me staring at him for time to time... but he ain't making move (maybe because I don't know how to act around him and that gives mix signals)🤧 i wanna make the first move but I am scary at same times. I don't know if he is dating because he always active in WhatsApp unlike me. Help me I never had a crush on someone I am not a shy girl but I am unsure about the situation. He is super nervous when he talks to me but yet manages to give me eye contact like more than 10 seconds + like eyes staring . Whenever we are in rest room he says always my name but don't says much after that 🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 He doesn’t seem to be responding to you initiating conversation or texts after work as per your previous thread. Does he answer you at all or is it sporadic? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 He doesn't initiate texting on social media tho. So i believe that he has a crush or girlfriend. I tried to text like give me a movie recommendation then he gave me only the movie only nothing more. My ex boyfriend always tried to extend our conversation and even texted me with a clear purpose. But my crush is different Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 3 minutes ago, Helotome said: i believe that he has a crush or girlfriend. I tried to text like give me a movie recommendation then he gave me only the movie only nothing more. Then leave him alone. Date outside of work. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 You are right. If he always online but don't hold or extend my texting then he probably got someone. But do male became shy around an attractive female? Like leg shakes when he tries to initiate conservation with me at work? He do initiate conservation at work place asking how my father is since he is relative of his Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 If he’s interested he’d show it and not though leg shakes or in that context anyway. How closely related are you? Seems a bit weird dating in the family? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helotome Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 He is my father's uncle daughter son 🤣 he is a senior too my friends says he likes me but he is not sure about my feelings since I give off not interested vibes since I don't response to his flirting cuz I don't know what to say. But I need a male opinion. He ain't married yet. He is super talented too. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 If he's single, free and interested he will make it known. He may have a gf and you can find out by asking him. That might let him know you're interested. If you held eye contact with him for 10 seconds he knows you're interested. The question is why hasn't he made a move since holding 10 second eye contact. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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