Should I contact her?

[glows]

26 minutes ago, Iser137 said:

Yea I feel bad at the thought of messaging her directly to come over but we'd have a drink at mine, chat and then go from there as I said above. I'm not interested in taking her out even though I know that's the polite way to go about it. I'm going to greet her at the door and well be standing for a while.

Know I'm thinking if we ever bump into each other like we have in the past perhaps I'll test the waters with her then and for now just move on. 

 

You’re overthinking this. Just ask her out for coffee. It’s a few bucks and not considered taking anyone out. Break the ice and see where she’s at. If there’s chemistry you’ll find out.

[mark clemson]

6 hours ago, Iser137 said:

As I already mentioned, I'd ideally like to hit it and quit it lol. She seems like she may be down for that as I know her.

Fair enough. That could be anyone tho (that you hit and quit) - while the interest is understandable you really don't need to focus on her specifically for that.

[Alpacalia]

13 hours ago, glows said:

You’re overthinking this. 

I concur.

Seems like you're hiding behind your height, along with some other things, in the event she says "no."

Just ask her out for coffee or a drink.

Your chances of getting a positive response will be greater than if you just asked her over after not speaking to her in years.

 

Edited April 7, 2022 by Alpacalia

[SumGuy]

On 4/6/2022 at 6:24 AM, Iser137 said:

...You do know that girls like sex though too right. ... 

You do know that liking sex and being treated as a purely convenient sexual object are two different things.  

You do also know women are more about liking good sex, not just any old sex.  It's a distinction few men appear to grasp.

 

[Iser137]

22 minutes ago, SumGuy said:

You do know that liking sex and being treated as a purely convenient sexual object are two different things.  

You do also know women are more about liking good sex, not just any old sex.  It's a distinction few men appear to grasp.

 

Well what about her? What if she's just average at sex. I don't think it's fair for a woman to expect better sex from the guy... TBH she considering how hot she is she probably i sbetter at sex than me due to experience although if i'm really in the mood i reckon she'd be pleased enough with my performance.

 

Also, i've been to many clubs and raves in my time and as i get older it's just not how i want to meet a girl which unfortunately atm is the only way i can think of if  I am serious about finding a woman.

Yeh, we've all met women through other means but straight up wanting to meet a woman directly, my best bet is a bar...

 

 

 

[Wiseman2]

11 hours ago, Iser137 said:

, i've been to many clubs and raves. wanting to meet a woman directly, my best bet is a bar...

Clubs and raves? Why can't you continue to meet the type of women you're looking for there?

[Iser137]

5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Clubs and raves? Why can't you continue to meet the type of women you're looking for there?

Getting a bit older now but nevertheless absolutely I could. 
 

I always seem to find chicks when on holiday (anyone else the same). I have always a story to tell every time I go. Last  I went was no exception although nothing special. 
 

maybe this year it’ll be the same. I hope she’s hot! 

[SumGuy]

20 hours ago, Iser137 said:

Well what about her? What if she's just average at sex. I don't think it's fair for a woman to expect better sex from the guy... TBH she considering how hot she is she probably i sbetter at sex than me due to experience although if i'm really in the mood i reckon she'd be pleased enough with my performance....

What about her?   In fact that is the important question men fail to grasp, so much in their own heads and not understanding what good sex is to anyone but themselves, and has nothing to do with her looks and it being a performance is not it.   I'll leave it at that, as really not here to advise about how to go about get one night stands.

[Iser137]

Can I just ask, one time when I was in secondary school (high school) I started flirting with a hot teacher. Anyone else ever done that and does that take balls and make me a G? 

She was good looking, straight blonde hair perhaps strawberry blonde or dirty blonde or whatever it’s called. Thick luscious lips and one time when we went on a school trip to an outdoor swimming pool I saw her body in a bikini and I’m a guy who genuinely likes a woman in a bikini plus she had big juicy breasts and so I liked her even more than before. She also had freckles all over her body and face but she pulled it off as I said she was sexy. 

Anyway, my question about her is when I was flirting with her she started twirling her hair and was just listening to what I was saying to her and thing back on it now I can’t decide whether she was interested in me hence the twirling or that I was making her nervous as I’m aware that it can be either of those things. She looked calm enough but I’m still unsure tbh. 
 

I kinda can’t believe I had the balls to flirt with a teacher right. Like that’s some illegal we could both get in serious trouble s*** but it was totally fine for some reason. I think my dream goal would have been to ask whether I could come over to her place for some extra curricular activities and see what she would have said. 
 

She was a big woman like who knows how old she was, 25, 30? 

I almost miss her a little. I always liked her and I she must sort of knew it as you know sometimes you can’t hide how you feel all of the time. At last I’m way too lazy to do that. 
 

Pupils look up teachers from their past all the time and so I might do that if I can be bothered and see what she’s up to. Who knows, she might be single and I still might be in for a chance! Hahaha. I’m serious if she was single and still hot I might message her and ask her out for a drink! 

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, Iser137 said:

Pupils look up teachers from their past all the time and so I might do that if I can be bothered and see what she’s up to. 

How old are you now? Have you had any relationships since highschool?

[Iser137]

On 4/10/2022 at 10:36 AM, Wiseman2 said:

How old are you now? Have you had any relationships since highschool?

Oh yes. Twice the age I was then.

That was just something that I’ve been thinking about lately. 

No one’s replied about their thoughts in what her body language most likely meant? As I said, her facial expressions seems relaxed to me but then perhaps she was hiding it although she didn’t seem like the type she just looked relaxed of I recall correctly. Really unsure though. 
 

Also, For the past two days in a row whenever I’ve seen a chick whose number I’d ask for I’ve literally then gone on to see other guys asking out other chicks in the exact same way. Could this be a sign or something as you rarely see guys asking for girls numbers in the street.

Edited April 13, 2022 by Iser137

[Iser137]

Yo peeps. I messaged the girl in question as I was drunk and replied to an insta story of a post she made about a friend where I called her friend a sexy girl to which she replied yes she is with a smiley face.

I see this as an opportunity to get in with her but feel complete like I’ve hit a wall in terms of what to say.

I want to say,  and your sexy to (her name). And then see what she says but I feel that’s too forward and forced.

Honestly I hate social media it’s so harder to make a conversation than face to face…. 
 

 

[salparadise]

1 hour ago, Iser137 said:

I want to say,  and your sexy to (her name). And then see what she says but I feel that’s too forward and forced.

Say she's almost as sexy as you are... then ask her out for a drink somewhere, a bar. Get several drinks in her and keep flirting. At that point you can try to get her to come to your place, or if that fails take her out on another date and try again. Like the other's said, you're over thinking. Just do what is likely to be deemed acceptable, keep up the flirting and innuendos, and I bet you'll be good. You seem to have it all together except for height insecurity. This could be your opportunity to get that behind you. You're doing yourself a huge disservice to let that define your interactions with women, particularly when they seem to be game and not even think about it. Just go for it and don't think- keep the attention on her. Good luck.

[basil67]

Of course, do not make any sexual contact if she's had several drinks.  Lay the foundations, but don't do anything physical unless she's able to give consent.

[Iser137]

3 hours ago, salparadise said:

Say she's almost as sexy as you are... then ask her out for a drink somewhere, a bar. Get several drinks in her and keep flirting. At that point you can try to get her to come to your place, or if that fails take her out on another date and try again. Like the other's said, you're over thinking. Just do what is likely to be deemed acceptable, keep up the flirting and innuendos, and I bet you'll be good. You seem to have it all together except for height insecurity. This could be your opportunity to get that behind you. You're doing yourself a huge disservice to let that define your interactions with women, particularly when they seem to be game and not even think about it. Just go for it and don't think- keep the attention on her. Good luck.

That sounds like a bit of a back handed compliment. I just said: ‘and so are you’. Or is that too direct? She hasn’t read it yet so I can easily delete it.

That’s the other thing. It’s been hours since I replied to her last message and she hasn’t even read it. Doesn’t sound too promising that she’s interested in me.

 

then again hopefully she’s just busy doing other things. 
 

 

[Iser137]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Of course, do not make any sexual contact if she's had several drinks.  Lay the foundations, but don't do anything physical unless she's able to give consent.

Yea I was thinking about the drinks thing. Definitely would never do anything like that.  

Did you read/hear about Gene Simmons latest tv and magazine interview he did for British tv. It was hilarious apparently and was about his complete sobriety towards drugs and alcohol.

 

what was funny was that he said something along the lines of alcohol not making your wangle (he used a funny word for a man’s genitals) work as it should. 
 

anyway for me it’s psychological so should have no problem in that regards.    
 

 

[Wiseman2]

10 hours ago, Iser137 said:

 I was drunk and called her friend a sexy girl 

Has she blocked you yet? You may want to get sober and try to date in real life. After this stunt, she may delete and block you from her social media.

[Iser137]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Has she blocked you yet? You may want to get sober and try to date in real life. After this stunt, she may delete and block you from her social media.

Nope. She’s online now also. I want her to know what I think of her so I don’t care if she does but she won’t. I’ve known her a very long time and we have a good history. 
 

Nothing wrong with calling a girl sexy in the right context.

[Wiseman2]

56 minutes ago, Iser137 said:

 I’ve known her a very long time and we have a good history. 

Ok, so you're old friends and have banter on social media. Do you have/want a GF? 

[Iser137]

13 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Ok, so you're old friends and have banter on social media. Do you have/want a GF? 

Not really any banter at all actually lol. 
 

She’s been online so she must have seen my message about her being sexy and hasn’t blocked me nor replied but I am getting the impression I need to say something else to keep the convo going.

I’m 50/50 atm thinking to do nothing as I kinda don’t know what else to say and then that feeling I’ve had where I just feel comfortable when speaking to her so to let it flow naturally. Anyway I know what to say I’m just nervous. This is a big deal and haven’t been with a chick for some time. 
 

Plus I have mobility issues and my hip is absolutely killing me today.

 

also I’m trying not to focus on the fact that some friends have gone to Stockholm for the Easter weekend while I’m stuck at home do FA.

just went for a drive and saw the sexiest latinas with only one guy at a bus stop. I wonder what that was all about? 
 

when you focus your attention you realise actually there’s loads of chicks about. Quite a lot look a bit young unfortunately but most likely just about legal so would need to find that out first.

 

oh yea also, another chick I’ve known for a very long time parked up very near my house twice recently and I swear I saw her yesterday but couldn’t quite tell without my specs. 
 

I think I could have her otherwise why she coming near my crib? she was just sitting in her car I think. 
 

she has a long time bf whose a good old friend of mine and I know he’d be very upset if I did anything with her but ultimately would accept it as they’ve had some separation before. 

[Wiseman2]

26 minutes ago, Iser137 said:

she has a long time bf whose a good old friend of mine

Then why are you bothering with  all this? If you are lonely, try dating apps. Your lewd thinking about "barely legal chicks" won't help you.  Nor will being crude.

Edited April 16, 2022 by Wiseman2

[Iser137]

Lol there’s a chick at the bus too opposite and she didn’t get on the bus when it came? She’s still sitting there and only one kind of bus passes there…

I can’t tel whether she’s hot enough and I’m far too much of a **** to walk up to her. There’s so much opportunity someone’s nada.

[Iser137]

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Then why are you bothering with  all this? If you are lonely, try dating apps. Your lewd thinking about "barely legal chicks" won't help you. 

First of all dating apps suck. Secondly I’m a real life person. 

[glows]

I live in North America and calling women “chicks” is one sure way to turn off any women or showcase just how insecure you are as you verbally denigrate the opposite sex to a group of baby animals. It’s just not attractive or becoming of a grown man. It may be your lingo and the kind of language you use with your group of friends to postulate and preserve that toxic masculinity but it’s going to bite you back hard as women steer clear of you when they realize the way you think. 

My suggestion if you need dating tips is to just try to focus on treating women with respect whether it’s in your approach or the way you refer to them as people. Why are you so scared of using the correct term calling women women? Try doing this first as a first step and then maybe you may have hope finding a casual partner or partner in general for what you’re looking for. 

Edited April 16, 2022 by glows

[ExpatInItaly]

On 4/10/2022 at 5:09 AM, Iser137 said:

when I was in secondary school (high school) I started flirting with a hot teacher. Anyone else ever done that and does that take balls and make me a G? 

Are you serious?

No, it makes you a typical teenage boy. I'm a woman and a teacher, and several of my students are teen boys. It is not totally unusual for them to flirt (usually very awkwardly) with me or other female colleagues. It is rather funny how many think they are hot stuff (and sometimes showing off to their buddies) but naturally have no real skill and come across exactly as the inexperienced kids they are. 

2 hours ago, Iser137 said:

just went for a drive and saw the sexiest latinas with only one guy at a bus stop. I wonder what that was all about? 

What was what all about? You saw some people waiting at a bus stop. That's it. 

2 hours ago, Iser137 said:

oh yea also, another chick I’ve known for a very long time parked up very near my house twice recently and I swear I saw her yesterday but couldn’t quite tell without my specs. 
I think I could have her otherwise why she coming near my crib?

She probably knows someone who lives near your crib. 

Forgive me, but if this a real thread, you apply some very unusual meaning to some very mundane events.