aphextwinpeaks Posted April 30, 2022 Share Posted April 30, 2022 My longterm girlfriend broke up with me 8 months ago. I was completely blindsided. I really thought that what we had was forever. Then one day she told me that she doesn't love me anymore. I was devastated. She moved on pretty much immediately, and is now in a relationship with someone who is an upgrade in every sense. She's happy and thriving, and I often feel like I haven't healed at all. I have intrusive thoughts about her all day long. I'd surround myself with friends, but all of my friends moved off, and I'm clueless about how to go about starting friendships at my age. In addition, I am a fulltime caretaker for my elderly mother, so I don't have a lot of free time. My ex and I have a child together, so no contact isn't an option. I loved her so much. I'm really grateful that she's happy and doing so well, but it also really hurts. I feel like the only person who showed up to a funeral. I'm just fatigued and starting to feel like I'm permanently broken. I just want to get better. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 30, 2022 Share Posted April 30, 2022 I'm sorry this happened to you. Although it doesn't feel like it, know that you are not alone! And that this was a blessing in disguise! You will recover! You will feel better! You will move on! Start reading. Do you have access to counseling? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 30, 2022 Share Posted April 30, 2022 7 hours ago, aphextwinpeaks said: ,I am a fulltime caretaker for my elderly mother, so I don't have a lot of free time. My ex and I have a child together, Sorry this happened. How long were you dating? How old is your child? Did you live together or do you live with your mother? See a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health. Discuss the chronic fatigue, depression and anxiety. Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist. See what types of respite care is available for you. See if your mother qualifies for home health aides, visiting nurses or a nursing facility. Unfortunately you'll have to communicate with your ex as far as your child is concerned. Do you pay child support? Do you have a custody and visitation schedule figured out? Link to post Share on other sites
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