What do I do?

[AnonymousKing]

What should I do in this situation? Who is wrong and who is right? 

 

Am I wrong for not trusting my girlfriend? We have been together on and off almost 2 years. 

She always talks to guys or girls for 10-15 minutes when we’re together hanging out but this was something that she always been like, a social butterfly and these are people she knew before me.. she’s always been kind to people and doesn’t push them away when they’re eager to speak to her. Her energy always brings people to her without her trying but she’s not dating any of them but I don’t like that I can’t change that. She has stated she has been single for a long time and only dated one person for years but he broke her heart completely messing with other women and that she does not mess around with multiple people but to me, I think her kindness to others is her cheating.  I have yet to hear her cheating on me. But Why does she give them the time of day, even if it’s out of kindness? I always accuse her of cheating with other men and I let her know that there’s no way a beautiful girl is just occupied by me, has this much attractive energy and is only dating me.  and she always reminds me that she loves me only.  She loved me poor and with money. She never asked for anything. 

She has clearly introduced me to all of her family and friends, except her mom because in her culture, it’s forbidden to date until marriage but I just don’t trust that she is being honest.  The last straw for me was when I asked for a photo from her when she was out with her friends, and she posted it on Instagram but then sent it to me 2 minutes later.  She said she was drunk and did it in that moment but remembered quickly to send me a photo but I felt like she wanted to be seen. She’s a beautiful girl. She rarely posts pictures of herself. Usually she sends a pic to me before she posts it but this time that came around when I asked, she sent it to Instagram first and then claimed it was a drunk moment.  I didn’t trust that. And I didn’t like she didn’t want to post pictures of us on Instagram.  However she doesn’t post on Instagram much.  She asked why does her disregard for social media corrupt our relationship and why should I complain if my ex’s pictures is still on my Instagram page because I still have family photos of me and my ex and our kids up. And that IG situation just reminded me of my ex.  My ex would never post me on her Instagram.  Now I ignore my girlfriend often & she still tried to love me but I noticed she had fallen back.  Now, on the flip side.  She became insecure about my baby mom when she found out we had sex during our talking stages. I have been hanging out with my baby mother every single day, and doing family activities, even to the point she called my girlfriend asking what me and my girlfriend were and that was the day she found out I was hanging out with my ex, even on my lunch breaks and I never told her that was the case. She never knew we were together that much but I told her we have kids. and so I blocked my girlfriend for answering. I trusted my ex’s words over hers even though my ex had lied to me about how the conversation with her and my girlfriend went.    I have had sex with my kids mother when we were on break for a week and it tore her apart. And I had sex with her a couple other times too.  She still wanted to work it out but my ex asked me to slow down on this relationship and because we have kids, I told my girlfriend I kind of feel obligated to and it tore her apart even more. I feel like this is the woman for me but  I became so distant & then I would come back and try again but after the Instagram post, which wasn’t sexual, she’s just attractive, it turned me off and I ignored her again.  I realized I made a mistake considering that but for some reason, I still don’t trust her.  She has been giving up on me lately.  Am I wrong for any of my actions? 
 

help. Please. Thank you. 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, AnonymousKing said:

We have been together on and off almost 2 years. 

She has clearly introduced me to all of her family and friends, except her mom because in her culture, it’s forbidden to date until marriage but I just don’t trust that she is being honest

Sorry this is happening. Why is it on/off? Are you sneaking around behind her parents back? Is she scheduled for an arranged marriage? How old is she?

The real red flags here are the cultural incompatibilities, that you are a secret and that you are on/off.

On/off relationships are fraught with unresolved incompatibilities and conflicts combined with and unhealthy attachment and lack of other options.