Will am I Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 3 hours ago, smallclouds88 said: 36 I’m a coiple of years older but roughly in the same sge group. The behavior seems somewhat familiar. Looking back, I never set out deliberately to meet OW. But i did get more active on the internet with the intent to make new contacts and expand the circle of friends. In retrospect I had my heart open for the possibility of meeting not only friends but also romantic encounters. Link to post Share on other sites
Will am I Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 4 hours ago, smallclouds88 said: my anxiety is through the roof I understand your anxiety, it must be like a state of panic, because you feel yor husband slipping from your hands and your foundations must be shaking like an earthquake. Yet, anxiety and panic are bad guides now. They drive you to pull your spouse away from the OW, ASAP, and in the process try to recruit your spouse back to you as quickly as you can. The risk is that in doing so, you focus so much on your husband that you may cross your own boundaries in doing so. In the long run this may pour resentment into your own heart. I would put your husband under a bit of surveillance (for a short term only, check his phone and computer and make sure you have OW in your phone) to make sure he’s not active in the affair right now and doing more damage. In these days, focus on your own emotions and boundaries. Establish an answer to the following question: “do I still want him, and if so under which conditions?” Your boundaries are in the answer to that very question. Only when you have answered that, will you be able to approach the affair and stay in your boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
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