Pral1999 Posted May 7, 2022 Share Posted May 7, 2022 I'm seeking advice from people please! I will explain this is briefly as possible. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and moved in with him at the start of the pandemic- I now live with his parents and him. I am having major problems with his parents that are affecting my happiness and I dint know what to do, I feel stuck. His parents gey drunk every weekend and will blast music until 2am without any regard for the two of us trying to sleep upstairs- my partner will never take my side and tell them to turn it down. I have been forced to change into different clothing as I didn't loon pretty enough, if I read a book in front of them it has been taken out of my hand. I have no privacy or respect- I am called lazy in front of my partner and he doesn't say anything. If I want to go to bed early I am told I am not allowed and I have no choice but to sit down- I am in my 20s! I love my partner so so much but I can't go on like this and sometimes thunk maybe there's somewhere better I will fit in? Please give me advice! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 7, 2022 Share Posted May 7, 2022 This sounds intolerable - I'm surprised you've stayed this long. Your only option is to move out. With or without him. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 You moved into THEIR house. They are not going to change their behavior for you. Your only option is to formulate a plan to move out. Do you have a job? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 A difference in lifestyle and values. Is there a reason why you're both living with his parents? Where are your parents or your family? When dating try looking at a person and their family as a package deal. Everything they bring with them including their relationships with friends and family will affect your relationship in one way or another or have a ripple effect. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 12 hours ago, Pral1999 said: - I now live with his parents and him. I am having major problems with his parents Sorry this is happening. Move out. You need to move back home. Focus on your work, finances and building your own life. His parents should not be housing or supporting you. You've overstayed your welcome. You and your BF need to work as much as possible and get your finances situated so that you two can get your own place when you're ready. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 You don't have to break up with your boyfriend. You're in a relationship with him, not them. However, you do need to move out of their house. If you and your boyfriend cannot afford a place on your own, maybe you can find a roommate or two and share a house. Have you discussed getting your own place with your boyfriend? If he's not ready to move out, then you still need to move out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WhereToStart Posted May 9, 2022 Share Posted May 9, 2022 On 5/7/2022 at 6:04 PM, Pral1999 said: I'm seeking advice from people please! I will explain this is briefly as possible. I have no privacy or respect- I am called lazy in front of my partner and he doesn't say anything. I hope you can leave, there are low income housing options, sometimes newer apartments are built that are for low income, so if you can work to pay for food, minimal rent you could try yo move out. Being in a situation like that will break you down and you need to think about your future and giving yourself a chance to become a strong person able to take care of herself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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