Flirted for weeks then denied - let me get over it!

[Whatonearth2022]

I’m in an unhappy partnership of 10 years, 2 kids.

I started personal training at a local gym.

Connections and combustion is all I can say. Both Aries. Both got on like a house on fire. 4 weeks in, thought nothing of it, currently overweight I don’t tend to pull recently.

I started noticing stuff, deliberate touching, spending more and more time alone together… common hobbies or interests, then began the personal life chat..

he said , ‘I wouldn’t have married’ and ‘me and mine argue all the time’. Then I noticed him looking at me, a lot, the more touching, the casual flirting.

Asking me for help with business things (I run 2 businesses), questioning what I was doing ‘in reference’ to social media I had shared.

 

I literally had to google soulmate. That is how it felt, and I don’t even believe in that stuff but this triggered me hugely, it was like I’d met the one, I was completely head over heels.

He added me on all socials, Snapchat…Fb etc, he watched most of my stuff.

I thought I was going insane. How can this gorgeous amazing man have ANY interest in me????

12 weeks in, one day, turn up for training, a completely different bloke! I was so upset by the change in him I left early in tears.

He messaged me later, am I ok.?!

Using the word ‘mate’ in the sentence. Something he only did in front of others but never alone.

I caved and said a bunch of things like, think we need to talk… how do you feel about me etc.

The response!! Omg… COMPLETE DENIAL. 
Accusing me of trying to ruin his reputation or business, the list goes on. I was in TOTAL shock.

it ended with him telling me not to return and my tail between my knees.

I felt awful. How did this guy make me think all this stuff, was I going insane? Did I imagine it!?

Fast forward a week and my May personal training fee refunded…. I asked if we could meet to clear the air.

he ignored it.

then I noted another gym goer had removed me from Fb, I panicked thinking omg what has he said!!!

I politely asked him if he’d mentioned our scenario to anyone.

message back - we’ll I’ve done absolutely nothing wrong at all so nothing to say and no o haven’t…

I responded- “ look, what I said appeared to get twisted and mistaken for accusations of you coming on to me when that wasn’t the case. I thought we connected and I think you’re hot, that’s pretty much all there is to it’.

messaged ignored. Blocked on WhatsApp.

he deleted from socials, BUT left me on snap.

I’ve been so angry I’ve taken the pleasure of blocking him on everything.

WHAT ON EARTH has happened?!?!?

im left chewing a piece of s*** like this was MY fault!!!? I only asked how he felt and now I’m the one left with naff all.

I did nothing but be honest after HIS actions and I just cannot make sense of any of it!

 

advice - please help me forget this loser.

 

He’s married 3 kids….

Edited May 8, 2022 by Whatonearth2022
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[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

Accusing me of trying to ruin his reputation or business, the list goes on. I was in TOTAL shock. it ended with him telling me not to return .

Try to find another physiotherapist or personal trainer. Never make a pass at someone in a professional setting.

See a physician about your physical and mental health. Talk about this obsession as well as your unsatisfactory relationship.

Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist for ongoing support.  While a crush on care providers may be common it's inappropriate to pursue it.

[BaileyB]

6 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

I’m in an unhappy partnership of 10 years, 2 kids.

Seems fairly obvious that your own unhappiness lead you to see more than there was in this relationship with your trainer… 

Is your marriage bad or are you just bored and unhappy? Who knows. That said, the answer to your unhappiness is not to be found in an affair with your trainer. 

6 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

He’s married 3 kids….

You are married 2 kids… your point being?

I say, focus less on what he has done and more on why you thought this was a good idea? 

Sorry to be blunt, but at least he had the good sense to enforce some personal and professional boundaries. While you are complaining on the internet that your trainer wouldn’t help you to cheat on your husband and children…

 

Edited May 9, 2022 by BaileyB

[ExpatInItaly]

It seems he saw you as a client and perhaps a friend (hence the chat about his personal life), but not really more. 

Sure, maybe there was some light flirting but it doesn't appear that any feelings were involved on his end. Unforunately, yours were. A lot. And it led you to pin too many hopes on this. When he realized you were deep in your feelings, he knew he had to cut it off completely. 

I don't think this is all on you, to be clear. He was unprofessional speaking to you about his marriage problems. That is a boundary he shouldn't have crossed either, and I think he panicked when he understood that you like him a lot and that it might be exposed. So he backpedaled, and blamed it all on you when I think he has some responsibility here as well. There is no reason a trainer should be privately communicating with a client about his personal life. He knows that would look bad if anyone else discovered it, so he played innocent and made it impossible for this to come out (by blocking, deleting, telling you not to come back)

In any case, you need to sort out your unhappy home life. You are ripe for another situation like this if you are deeply unsatisfied and starving for affection and attention. 

 

[Wiseman2]

20 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

He knows that would look bad if anyone else discovered it, so he played innocent and made it impossible for this to come out .

It's not unethical to chitchat about one's personal life. Doctors, dentists, nurses, hairdressers, etc. do this all the time.  This was also not in any manner leading anyone on.

So he was acting professionally when she came on to him and he discharged her from his care. So it's not on him whatsoever.

When a crush becomes an obsession or inappropriate such as making a pass at a healthcare provider the only recourse is to discharge the unstable, inappropriate client from your care.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It's not unethical to chitchat about one's personal life. Doctors, dentists, nurses, hairdressers, etc. do this all the time.  

I don't agree. 

And based on my experience, none of the above have ever chatted with me about their marital problems. 

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I don't agree. 

And based on my experience, none of the above have ever chatted with me about their marital problems. 

Nonetheless, it's not considered unethical. However when a client makes a pass at a professional, the correct legal thing to do is to discharge that client. Discussing personal chitchat is common and sometimes to pass the time or put the client at ease. It is not in any way sexual harassment. In fact providers can and often are harassed by clients . And in this case the trainer made the right call legally to discharge her from his practice. He also appropriately refunded her money.

 

Edited May 9, 2022 by Wiseman2

[glows]

16 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

I’m in an unhappy partnership of 10 years, 2 kids.

I started personal training at a local gym.

Connections and combustion is all I can say. Both Aries. Both got on like a house on fire. 4 weeks in, thought nothing of it, currently overweight I don’t tend to pull recently.

I started noticing stuff, deliberate touching, spending more and more time alone together… common hobbies or interests, then began the personal life chat..

he said , ‘I wouldn’t have married’ and ‘me and mine argue all the time’. Then I noticed him looking at me, a lot, the more touching, the casual flirting.

Asking me for help with business things (I run 2 businesses), questioning what I was doing ‘in reference’ to social media I had shared.

 

I literally had to google soulmate. That is how it felt, and I don’t even believe in that stuff but this triggered me hugely, it was like I’d met the one, I was completely head over heels.

He added me on all socials, Snapchat…Fb etc, he watched most of my stuff.

I thought I was going insane. How can this gorgeous amazing man have ANY interest in me????

12 weeks in, one day, turn up for training, a completely different bloke! I was so upset by the change in him I left early in tears.

He messaged me later, am I ok.?!

Using the word ‘mate’ in the sentence. Something he only did in front of others but never alone.

I caved and said a bunch of things like, think we need to talk… how do you feel about me etc.

The response!! Omg… COMPLETE DENIAL. 
Accusing me of trying to ruin his reputation or business, the list goes on. I was in TOTAL shock.

it ended with him telling me not to return and my tail between my knees.

I felt awful. How did this guy make me think all this stuff, was I going insane? Did I imagine it!?

Fast forward a week and my May personal training fee refunded…. I asked if we could meet to clear the air.

he ignored it.

then I noted another gym goer had removed me from Fb, I panicked thinking omg what has he said!!!

I politely asked him if he’d mentioned our scenario to anyone.

message back - we’ll I’ve done absolutely nothing wrong at all so nothing to say and no o haven’t…

I responded- “ look, what I said appeared to get twisted and mistaken for accusations of you coming on to me when that wasn’t the case. I thought we connected and I think you’re hot, that’s pretty much all there is to it’.

messaged ignored. Blocked on WhatsApp.

he deleted from socials, BUT left me on snap.

I’ve been so angry I’ve taken the pleasure of blocking him on everything.

WHAT ON EARTH has happened?!?!?

im left chewing a piece of s*** like this was MY fault!!!? I only asked how he felt and now I’m the one left with naff all.

I did nothing but be honest after HIS actions and I just cannot make sense of any of it!

 

advice - please help me forget this loser.

 

He’s married 3 kids….

Discussions about his married life are inappropriate and unethical unfortunately. I do agree with the earlier comment above. He wasn't behaving as a professional would and sadly it was mistaken as an invitation by you to think that he thought familiarly of you.

It's also a gray area that he was taking an interest in your other business or any other aspect of your personal life without being focused on your exercise or training. If he might have been asking you about aspects about your life to gain understanding in your diet, nutrition and lifestyle so that he fine tunes the personal training exercises, that might have been more in line with being professional.

What I see here is an unprofessional trainer and a person in a partnership or marriage she's unhappy with. It's only a combination that has the potential to lead to misunderstandings. Take this as a lesson only in future and try not to interpret overly familiar behaviour as an interest in you. Some of it may very well be entirely inappropriate. If you find that's the case ask the other person of what relevance is that to the personal training and steer the conversation back to your work outs.

Edited May 9, 2022 by glows

[Whatonearth2022]

Ok so… when he sent me messages telling me he needs to charge his camera up so he can take more ‘slow mo’s’ of my skipping… that wasn’t leading me on?

 

when he added me on Snapchat… which is bound for naughtiness.. that’s not leading me on?

 

when he sent me snaps of himself in stupid meme outfits…

when he commented about everything I did Ona. Daily basis

 

when he leant into me and touched me on any occasion possible.

 

when he asked me to come in earlier and earlier each day so we could have more alone time…

 

 

im sorry, I really do not believe I am innocent.

 

he is hot. I am not. Hence why I’m at the gym… there’s no way on earth a guy like this would usually go for me… trust me… yet here I am wondering what the hell happened after he lead me on so much (and flirting was genuine as I passed his motions through people I know) and they confirmed he was acting differently .

 

regardless, it’s over, we’ve blocked removed whatever and I’ve changed gym.

 

I just wanted to know why someone would be so awful and in denial. 
sad story. 

[glows]

3 minutes ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

Ok so… when he sent me messages telling me he needs to charge his camera up so he can take more ‘slow mo’s’ of my skipping… that wasn’t leading me on?

 

when he added me on Snapchat… which is bound for naughtiness.. that’s not leading me on?

 

when he sent me snaps of himself in stupid meme outfits…

when he commented about everything I did Ona. Daily basis

 

when he leant into me and touched me on any occasion possible.

 

when he asked me to come in earlier and earlier each day so we could have more alone time…

 

 

im sorry, I really do not believe I am innocent.

 

he is hot. I am not. Hence why I’m at the gym… there’s no way on earth a guy like this would usually go for me… trust me… yet here I am wondering what the hell happened after he lead me on so much (and flirting was genuine as I passed his motions through people I know) and they confirmed he was acting differently .

 

regardless, it’s over, we’ve blocked removed whatever and I’ve changed gym.

 

I just wanted to know why someone would be so awful and in denial. 
sad story. 

There are awful and in denial people out there who just want to keep their jobs and marriages, regardless of how lousy they are. 

Try not to read into this. It's better to rethink your relationship. You'll always be frustrated at something going on living in an unhappy partnership.

[Whatonearth2022]

2 minutes ago, glows said:

There are awful and in denial people out there who just want to keep their jobs and marriages, regardless of how lousy they are. 

Try not to read into this. It's better to rethink your relationship. You'll always be frustrated at something going on living in an unhappy partnership.

Me partner and I are no longer together, I am leaving on the next 6 months , having businesses and kids we will obviously be doing this cautiously and correctly.

 

I think he’s obviously very rude and in denial.

there are many more occasions I could mention but what’s the point.

im not a crazy ass woman 🤣

just someone on wonder and shocked at this behaviour 

[glows]

23 minutes ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

Me partner and I are no longer together, I am leaving on the next 6 months , having businesses and kids we will obviously be doing this cautiously and correctly.

 

I think he’s obviously very rude and in denial.

there are many more occasions I could mention but what’s the point.

im not a crazy ass woman 🤣

just someone on wonder and shocked at this behaviour 

There are all kinds. Best to remain wary and steer clear of flirting and anything inappropriate if you're paying someone to do a job. Similarly, vice versa if someone is paying you to do a job.

[Wiseman2]

28 minutes ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

Me partner and I are no longer together, I am leaving on the next 6 months

just someone on wonder and shocked at this behaviour 

That's good . this way you can focus on your business and child and extricate yourself from a bad situation. As far as this situation, he refunded your money, so all you can do is find another gym/personal trainer.

[introverted1]

1 hour ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

I really do not believe I am innocent.

You seem to be aware that you created much of this scenario.

The bottom line is that when you crossed the line by suggesting there could be more to things than a trainer/client relationship, he shut it down immediately and unambiguously.  That is really all you need to know.

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

I just wanted to know why someone would be so awful and in denial. 

Maybe his wife caught on. Or someone else at the gym. 

 

[Lotsgoingon]

You're not crazy. And you were picking up real flirtatious energy.

My guess? Somewhere along the way, he changed his mind and decided to suppress his attraction to you. But he didn't tell you. And yes, someone at the business might have noticed what was going on and called him on it. 

Now, he does sound like he was pretty cold. But going cold is how married people avoid succumbing to the temptation to cheat when they have found themselves attracted to someone.

The question here is what are you going to do with your current partnership? That you fell so hard and so quickly for this married man tells me that you are not getting what you want in your current partnership. It's time to work on THAT relationship. How can you fix that relationship? Or do you need to end it?

And look relationships with married people basically end up hitting a brick wall. People rarely leave their spouses. And affairs rarely turn into long-tern relationships. 

So no, you're not imagining the attraction and energy you felt. But he did not owe you to explain and confess his feelings. He owed it to himself and to his wife to cut things off. And if someone is serious about cutting things off, it's best that it's abrupt and cold. Being abrupt and cold is is what helps him reign in his own feelings. It's not really about you--it's about him. 

 

 

[glows]

I do not believe you are crazy either. Some of his comments were clearly inappropriate and could be misconstrued. 

I also do not believe it's any of your business what goes on in his marriage or what he needs to do to maintain it or get out of it. Stay focused on leaving your current partner. Do you need to speak with a lawyer? Even if you are not married, it's common law with children involved. You'll feel a lot better once that relationship has ended. Men like this will not even be on your radar.

Edited May 9, 2022 by glows

[mark clemson]

It sounds like he flirted with you and you let it become "a lot more" in your mind, but it wasn't that, at least not to him. He probably enjoyed the "romance" aspect for what it was, but is not interested in "more".

These things happen - c'est la vie. He's not a loser - he could probably in fact have lots of women if he wanted, but he has a wife and for better or worse is sticking with her.

You mention you've been unhappy in your primary relationship. I'd say what you experienced is the symptom, not the disease.

 

People unhappy in their relationship have 4 primary options:

- "Work on" the relationship through communication with your partner and possibly marriage counseling to improve it to the point where you're both at least reasonably happy.

- Change nothing and suck it up.

- Have an affair (not recommended due to the potential for damage to your family structure) or open the marriage (again not recommended for most people for the same reason)

- Leave

Pick your poison...

Edited May 9, 2022 by mark clemson

[seapebbles]

1 hour ago, Lotsgoingon said:

You're not crazy. And you were picking up real flirtatious energy.

My guess? Somewhere along the way, he changed his mind and decided to suppress his attraction to you. But he didn't tell you. And yes, someone at the business might have noticed what was going on and called him on it. 

Now, he does sound like he was pretty cold. But going cold is how married people avoid succumbing to the temptation to cheat when they have found themselves attracted to someone.

The question here is what are you going to do with your current partnership? That you fell so hard and so quickly for this married man tells me that you are not getting what you want in your current partnership. It's time to work on THAT relationship. How can you fix that relationship? Or do you need to end it?

And look relationships with married people basically end up hitting a brick wall. People rarely leave their spouses. And affairs rarely turn into long-tern relationships. 

So no, you're not imagining the attraction and energy you felt. But he did not owe you to explain and confess his feelings. He owed it to himself and to his wife to cut things off. And if someone is serious about cutting things off, it's best that it's abrupt and cold. Being abrupt and cold is is what helps him reign in his own feelings. It's not really about you--it's about him. 

 

 

This ^ 100%

[mark clemson]

4 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

Me partner and I are no longer together, I am leaving on the next 6 months , having businesses and kids we will obviously be doing this cautiously and correctly.

My bad, I missed this in the posts above.

Fortunately your course is simple. Walk away from the personal trainer and look for someone else. "Simple" isn't the same as "easy" when it comes to romantic relationships, but nonetheless your course here is clear and straightforward.

You may have had limerence (see link) for this person. Unfortunately that does not mean they will accept you into their lives. Reality is that people "fall for" the wrong person or someone they can't have, and deal with separation from them and "heartbreak" all the time.

In case it makes it easier, I suspect he'll sooner or later find another woman to flirt with. Some men like to flirt a lot.

At the risk of stating the obvious, we don't always get what we want in life. That's too bad, but again the good news is your course forward is quite clear. I think most posters above would join me in wishing you great luck going forward to a new romance. Sooner or later you'll look back at this the same way you do with any/all prior relationships where you had strong feelings. C'est la vie.

 

Link for limerence: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

Edited May 9, 2022 by mark clemson

[Whatonearth2022]

2 minutes ago, mark clemson said:

My bad, I missed this in the posts above.

Fortunately your course is simple. Walk away and look for someone else. "Simple" isn't the same as "easy" when it comes to romantic relationships, but nonetheless your course here is clear and straightforward.

You may have had limerence (see link) for this person. Unfortunately that does not mean they will accept you into their lives. Reality is that people "fall for" the wrong person or someone they can't have, and deal with separation from them and "heartbreak" all the time.

At the risk of stating the obvious, we don't always get what we want in life. That's too bad, but again the good news is your course forward is quite clear here. I think most posters above would join me in wishing you great luck going forward to a new romance. Sooner or later you'll look back at this the same way you do with any/all prior relationships where you had strong feelings. C'est la vie.

 

Link for limerence: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

Yea i get that he must’ve changed his mind, my point was, I wouldn’t have acted or spoke up unless certain of his actions.

The rejection message absolutely blew me away.

id been out with friends the night before and they had SEEN with their own eyes the flirtatious messaging…

if I was seeing things, ok hands up, my bad game, but I absolutely wasn’t.

 

anyhow what’s done is done.

think I’m just angry at him for stringing me along and denying it.

 

[Eeejay]

Gently, a few things strike me (and please allow me to play devil's advocate, just to give you an alternate perspective - I'm not saying you're crazy and I am definitely not judging you). But the sort-of complication here is that personal training involves touching, watching someone move, adjusting their form, making comments (good and bad) on their body - like, all the time. I'm not saying that this guy didn't have a flirty personality that maybe isn't always appropriate at work, but is it POSSIBLE that you read too much into things simply because you wanted it to be true so badly? For example:

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Ok so… when he sent me messages telling me he needs to charge his camera up so he can take more ‘slow mo’s’ of my skipping… that wasn’t leading me on?

Maybe he needed to analyze your form while doing the exercise. A major part of training is making sure the person is doing things correctly and preventing them from getting injured.

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when he added me on Snapchat… which is bound for naughtiness.. that’s not leading me on?

Maybe he does this with all his clients? Or maybe he just crossed the line into too-friendly territory (how long did you train with him?) and was taken aback when you assumed it was sexually-charged or romantic in nature? I connect with a lot of folks on Snap - it doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. It's not always 'bound for naughtiness'...

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when he sent me snaps of himself in stupid meme outfits…

Again, were these sexual in nature or just goofy? Maybe again, he just saw you as a client he'd developed a good (and yes, maybe inappropriately personal) relationship with. Maybe he felt safe developing this type of back-and-forth with you because he knew that YOU knew he was married with a family and didn't expect you to cross that line in your mind?

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when he leant into me and touched me on any occasion possible.

Again, this is part of personal training. He's got to touch you - unless he's grabbing your butt or something blatantly sexual, is it possible you misconstrued a lot of these touches?

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when he asked me to come in earlier and earlier each day so we could have more alone time…

Did he actually SAY 'I want more alone time with you' or was it more like 'I think we need to work more, one-on-one'? That's another gray thing that might have actually just been a professional recommendation, you know?

Look, I'm not saying you're crazy so please don't get offended. However he meant all this, it was boosting your ego (and it sounds like you struggle with insecurity, so I TOTALLY get how that would happen - I've been there in my life, too, hello three kids lol) and maybe you read too much into things. From what it sounds like, he seemed completely blindsided when you made your hard pass at him and reacted with no hesitation - and frankly, I agree that he's not a jerk for doing this. I mean, he's married. His behavior aside, you probably shouldn't have made a move on a guy who's married with three kids (that's not necessarily a moral judgment - I'm saying from a self-preservation angle, too). I'm really sorry you're feeling bad, but as an aside - and I know it might sound trite or tongue-in-cheek but I promise it's not - good for you for making the effort to improve your health and wellness. Find another trainer and KEEP GOING!

Edited May 9, 2022 by Eeejay

[Wiseman2]

22 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

I thought we connected and I think you’re hot, that’s pretty much all there is to it’.

He really had no choice but to discharge you and refund your money. This is his business and he can not even appear to have the impropriety you insinuated at. Everything you mentioned seems like normal personal trainer actions. You had a crush and felt rejected when he remained professional.

[Whatonearth2022]

1 hour ago, Eeejay said:

Gently, a few things strike me (and please allow me to play devil's advocate, just to give you an alternate perspective - I'm not saying you're crazy and I am definitely not judging you). But the sort-of complication here is that personal training involves touching, watching someone move, adjusting their form, making comments (good and bad) on their body - like, all the time. I'm not saying that this guy didn't have a flirty personality that maybe isn't always appropriate at work, but is it POSSIBLE that you read too much into things simply because you wanted it to be true so badly? For example:

Maybe he needed to analyze your form while doing the exercise. A major part of training is making sure the person is doing things correctly and preventing them from getting injured.

Maybe he does this with all his clients? Or maybe he just crossed the line into too-friendly territory (how long did you train with him?) and was taken aback when you assumed it was sexually-charged or romantic in nature? I connect with a lot of folks on Snap - it doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. It's not always 'bound for naughtiness'...

Again, were these sexual in nature or just goofy? Maybe again, he just saw you as a client he'd developed a good (and yes, maybe inappropriately personal) relationship with. Maybe he felt safe developing this type of back-and-forth with you because he knew that YOU knew he was married with a family and didn't expect you to cross that line in your mind?

Again, this is part of personal training. He's got to touch you - unless he's grabbing your butt or something blatantly sexual, is it possible you misconstrued a lot of these touches?

Did he actually SAY 'I want more alone time with you' or was it more like 'I think we need to work more, one-on-one'? That's another gray thing that might have actually just been a professional recommendation, you know?

Look, I'm not saying you're crazy so please don't get offended. However he meant all this, it was boosting your ego (and it sounds like you struggle with insecurity, so I TOTALLY get how that would happen - I've been there in my life, too, hello three kids lol) and maybe you read too much into things. From what it sounds like, he seemed completely blindsided when you made your hard pass at him and reacted with no hesitation - and frankly, I agree that he's not a jerk for doing this. I mean, he's married. His behavior aside, you probably shouldn't have made a move on a guy who's married with three kids (that's not necessarily a moral judgment - I'm saying from a self-preservation angle, too). I'm really sorry you're feeling bad, but as an aside - and I know it might sound trite or tongue-in-cheek but I promise it's not - good for you for making the effort to improve your health and wellness. Find another trainer and KEEP GOING!

Thanks.

I think some of what you said was true, bu t I’ll clarify a few bits and I’m not giving a full picture here.

 

the filming of the skipping - he did slowmo cuz he knew I wasn’t in my strong sports bra as I’d mentioned.

he showed me straight after and said Ouh look what’s up with you, you got a great chest.. I’ll be honest, I was a bit annoyed at that.

he then sent me the videos later on and that’s where the ‘I’ll charge my camera up for more’ came into play.

 

Class started at 6:15am. I’d go at 6 as I leave earlier to sort the kids. He said he’s there from 5:45am, I can go in earlier if I want… I refused.

 

when you feel a Pts penis in your back as he ‘straightens’ you - after having several, I’d say that’s a first 🤣

also his hand adjusted my hips - extremely close to private areas… this was early on ish, I was like 😳😳😳

 

he made out he’s crap with social media and was ‘testing’ the app by sending the snaps - his snap score says otherwise…

 

looking me up and down with a smirk.

turning up on his off days, coming back ‘to check the apprentice’ with his best clothes.

bringing the dog 🐶 and filmingy ‘first meeting of dog’.

He went to far and crapped himself when o called him out
 

i understand that now.

 

 

Edited May 9, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[mark clemson]

3 hours ago, Whatonearth2022 said:

 my point was, I wouldn’t have acted or spoke up unless certain of his actions.

The rejection message absolutely blew me away.

Yes, I'm in the camp that he probably was doing some at least moderately inappropriate things and you weren't imagining all that. Certainly if he had an erection pressed up against you that is "something". If I'm not mistaken, people have been taken to court in some jurisdictions for "just" doing that in a context where it was received/experienced as sexual harassment.

At any rate, it seems like he took it up to a certain line, but didn't want to go beyond that line. To him it was "just" flirting I suppose.