Deshanga Posted October 23, 2005 Share Posted October 23, 2005 Ok, so my mom told me she wants to take me to see a doctor to get blood drawn to have it analyzed to see if I am allergic to alctose or wheat. But we got this thing in the mail, and it's all these form for a specialist doctor. She is conviced i have osme wierd problems that I totally don't have, and I just realized that the same doctor who the forms are for is who she has written on the calendar to get my blood drawn. She thinks it has something to do with odd problmes (nonexistent, might I add) and she totally wa snot going to tell me that it was a specialist doctor! Does she think I was born yesterday? She tried to trick me. She said if I got tested for allergies she'd by me chocolate (she's a total health nut and rarely lets me have desert) and take me to New York for a trip. Am I just nuts or is this not fair at all? She tried to trick me. I really don't want to go and humiliate myself, but sadly my bedroom door doesn't have a lock so I can't lock myself in. She doesn't know yet that I've figured out her scheme. What should I do? When she I tell her that I found out and that I'm not going? She'll freak and yell at me, I know it. She'll try and drag me there. It's next monday. Should I wait until the weekend? I'm seriosuly considering blocking my door and refusing to ocme out of my room. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted October 23, 2005 Share Posted October 23, 2005 Why don't you want to go? Even if you are convinced you are fine, it will put your mom's mind at ease. I guess I don't understand what the fuss is about. Are you scared of the needles? Does she make you do this kind of thing all the time? Either way, you should talk to your mom now. Sooner rather than later. Don't wait until next weekend. Tell her why you don't want to go in a calm fashion. Ask her why she thinks its so important for you to go. Don't give her the silent treatment either, it just makes you look immature, which is not what you want if you want your opinon to be respected. Tell her you want to be more involved with your health decisions, but respect her wisdom as well. If you can be calm and rational you might actually be included. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Deshanga Posted October 23, 2005 Author Share Posted October 23, 2005 I hate going because they treat me like a kid and always a ssume it's somethign seriously wrong wiht me. I do NOT like doctors at all. I don't mind being tested for allergies, it's the fact that she wants to take me to a specialist and embarrass me again. My last doctor was a witch who hated kids. Wait, I am not a kid! Plus it is the fact that she tried to trick me. I don't want to go! Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Is it possible that the "specialist" is an "allergy specialist"? Tell your mom that you don't want to be treated like a kid. Tell the doctor if they start. Link to post Share on other sites
bunnzy Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Maybe you should think about moving out? How old are you? Cut those apron strings!! Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 I hate going because they treat me like a kid and always a ssume it's somethign seriously wrong wiht me. I do NOT like doctors at all. I don't mind being tested for allergies, it's the fact that she wants to take me to a specialist and embarrass me again. My last doctor was a witch who hated kids. Wait, I am not a kid! I think it might be an idea for you to go along and insist on getting to see the doctor on your own. From your writing style, I'm assuming that you're old enough to insist on the right to consult privately with the doctor. Discuss with the specialist your concerns about the fact that your mother keeps having all these different tests carried out on you. Ask him what he thinks about that, and ask if he believes there are valid grounds for you having so many medical appointments. Also, ask him to record in your notes that you raised these concerns. Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 either your signature says it all, or she's getting your DNA tested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Deshanga Posted October 25, 2005 Author Share Posted October 25, 2005 Hmm, well, I don't want to move out, (I like having a place to live) . You are all very helpful. She may insist on comign ( she is liek that) btu I could point out that I would like to answer questions because (contrary to her belief) she is not me and sometimes answers doctor's questions wrong. You all have given me confidence. I'll see what I can do. I just have to make sure she's actually listening to what I'm saying. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 maybe i just read too much or watch too much tv but this sounds a lot like Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy (MSBP). it is an illness where a mother will make up symptoms of illnesses or make their children sick to get attension from doctors or other people in their lives. i am not saying that is the problem, i have just heard about it a lot in the past few years and something doesn't sound right. don't take anything i am saying to heart, its not like i am any kind of doctor. but you can talk to someone who does know what they are talking about. if you have taken the time to write this than it must be a big concern for you. you are saying that your symptoms are nonexistant and that certainly rings bells, with me anyways. you are old enough to talk to a doctor alone. next time you are in one of your appointments ask to speak to the doctor alone. tell him/her the things you have told us. maybe your mom sees something that needs to be medically addressed, maybe not. but you should talk to a professional about what is going on for your own peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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