36 years of age and still without relationship

[justanotherguy11]

It's fair to say that I have wasted my time or at least best time in life with to be honest not the best outlook for the future.

I keep asking myself a question what I did wrong.

I never been a chaser type of a person, I always looked for a balance. I faced quite few rejections which demoralised me a bit and it caused me for quite some time to stop searching.

I tried it all; Tinder, PoF, other dating channels and just no luck. It's definetly the looks which I been working on for a long time to improve with mixed effect. As far as personality goes it's a subjective matter because we all are different but I never been a weirdo type of person, never involved in any troubles with the law, quite open to people and friendly. I would say just average person you know. I don't have any upscaled requirements, I know how far I can reach.

Yet something doesn't work.

I just wanted to ask for your guys point of view, I certainly don't look for pity.

Appreciate all the support.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, justanotherguy11 said:

I never been a chaser type of a person, I always looked for a balance.

Have you dated before? 

Increase your social circle. Join some clubs, groups and take some classes and courses. Volunteer. Get involved in sports, fitness and self-improvement.

Get a good haircut, some good "date clothes", get your teeth cleaned, smile a lot more.

 Do you work? Have your own place and a decent vehicle?

 When you say "not a chaser", what do you mean? You don't initiate chats on dating apps or in person?

 Get a friend to take some good recent pics and help with a profile and start talking to and meeting women on quality dating apps. Steer clear of free hookup apps. 

[Happy Lemming]

5 hours ago, justanotherguy11 said:

 It's definetly the looks which I been working on for a long time to improve with mixed effect.

What does this statement mean?? Are you overweight?? What is your BMI??

[chillii]

Are you male or female first of all, don't think l've missed it?

At any rate you know who you are right , you know the sort of person you are, you know your beliefs and views and personality, your likes and dislikes right , you know the sort of person your really comfortable and at home with right. You don't just approach anyone, you look for those similar to yourself that your comfortable with and feel you relate to. Those are all very big things and very important and they cut out 95% or even more for some of us, but the odds are far far greater when you find him or her. So many strangely just don't seem to do or even have much of an idea about these things and just shoot blindly at like fish in a pond for yrs and yrs and yrs and get nowhere. But it's the most important stuff to begin with imo.

Edited May 16, 2022 by chillii

[chillii]

ps , sorry about that but l suppose it's a guy then going on your lD, didn't even look at that until later.

Edited May 16, 2022 by chillii

[Wiseman2]

20 hours ago, justanotherguy11 said:

  I never been a weirdo type of person, never involved in any troubles with the law, 

Hopefully you are trying some quality dating apps not just free hookup apps.

And hopefully you are upbeat in your profile and not stating the above.

Keep in mind that in person is another avenue. That means joining groups clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses.

Put yourself in situations where you can have relaxed regular small talk with women.