My breakup message and I want her back 😑

[Eric27]

Hello, my name is Eric.

I had a relationship for 7 months. We decided to leave each other like a month ago and at that point instead of leaving each other, I gave her time to think. I did everything in this one months to bring her emotions back but she only got colder. She wasn't enough brave to end it back then but she slowly ended it by telling so many bad things to my face, telling how wrong I am and all. Convinced herself. She is a overthinker. Makes everyhing bigger than it is. Hearing a story and thinking it in a worst way possible like if i say i learnt this from a friend, she would reply like ohh which girl it was? But in an extreme level with everyhing that i always feel like i need to convince her to think im not cheatin on her eventho there is no other girl in my life just because of i said couple of wrong stories from my past and she think i get girls so easy. I got an accident 4 days ago and my hand was bleeding badly. I sent her pictures and called her, she didn't pick my phone and said she is "cleaning". She didn't show the intrest she needed to show when I was in a bad situation like that. I needed to go to hospital. Later she called me and I didn't pick, then she wrote thing like she was actually worried and all. But I didn't show intrest this time. Next day I sent her this after she was telling me I ignored her calls and messages;

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She didn't answer back. I do not know what to think about it. She hurt me alot lately by the way she was and she was seeing herself upper hand. When she met me, she told me thinks like she would never think that someone like me would ever date with her but now she came to this level. I do not know if she will ever wanna write again or call. I wish non of this would not happen. I wrote this last message 2 days ago. And I don't know what to do now. Should I write something else or don't know for changing her idea. Because I begged her in this one months and she made me look like a fool. I needed to show it. Hope you will read this.

Thank you

Edited June 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[ExpatInItaly]

Good heavens. 

OP, this is toxic, immature nonsense all around. You two need to be done with each other, because it's very clear that it is never going to work. Stop writing to her. Stop trying to contact her completely. 

Let go. 

[stillafool]

11 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Good heavens. 

OP, this is toxic, immature nonsense all around. You two need to be done with each other, because it's very clear that it is never going to work. Stop writing to her. Stop trying to contact her completely. 

Let go. 

I completely agree.  Just break up and find another girl at this point.  Also the next time you hurt yourself and see blood, go straight to the emergency room and don't waste time sending pictures of your injuries to people who don't care.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Eric27 said:

We decided to leave each other like a month ago and at that point instead of leaving each other, I gave her time to think.  I got an accident 4 days ago and my hand was bleeding badly. 

Sorry this happened. Breakups hurt. Yes no contact is the best approach rather than dragging out a breakup.

Don't send dramatic messages, it comes across as manipulative. Take care of yourself and hope your hand feels better.

[glows]

On 5/31/2022 at 6:43 AM, Eric27 said:

Hello, my name is Eric.

I had a relationship for 7 months. We decided to leave each other like a month ago and at that point instead of leaving each other, I gave her time to think. I did everything in this one months to bring her emotions back but she only got colder. She wasn't enough brave to end it back then but she slowly ended it by telling so many bad things to my face, telling how wrong I am and all. Convinced herself. She is a overthinker. Makes everyhing bigger than it is. Hearing a story and thinking it in a worst way possible like if i say i learnt this from a friend, she would reply like ohh which girl it was? But in an extreme level with everyhing that i always feel like i need to convince her to think im not cheatin on her eventho there is no other girl in my life just because of i said couple of wrong stories from my past and she think i get girls so easy. I got an accident 4 days ago and my hand was bleeding badly. I sent her pictures and called her, she didn't pick my phone and said she is "cleaning". She didn't show the intrest she needed to show when I was in a bad situation like that. I needed to go to hospital. Later she called me and I didn't pick, then she wrote thing like she was actually worried and all. But I didn't show intrest this time. Next day I sent her this after she was telling me I ignored her calls and messages;

[deleted]

She didn't answer back. I do not know what to think about it. She hurt me alot lately by the way she was and she was seeing herself upper hand. When she met me, she told me thinks like she would never think that someone like me would ever date with her but now she came to this level. I do not know if she will ever wanna write again or call. I wish non of this would not happen. I wrote this last message 2 days ago. And I don't know what to do now. Should I write something else or don't know for changing her idea. Because I begged her in this one months and she made me look like a fool. I needed to show it. Hope you will read this.

Thank you

You're angry and hurt but this is not a reason to keep harassing someone with such horrible messages like this. Not only have you discredited her experience in the relationship, you've also put her down several times when she did none of those things to you in her message to you. She didn't cut you down or attack you. She civilly told you that the relationship was no longer doing her any good and she provided reasons for her concerns which are valid even if you don't agree with it. It's her side of the story that you need to respect.

I suggest you do not contact her again and leave her alone. She has already expressed a lot of distress and that she was losing herself in the relationship. You need to respect that and let go. Stop chasing after her thinking that you're the best thing that happened to her - there's a strong possibility you weren't. You two were not good together and you were not what she was looking for in a partner. It stings to know that but that's her truth and she's entitled to it. Don't try to change it as it does border on delusion on your part.

It will get better in time but you'll have to focus on yourself a little more and be respectful of what someone else is saying especially when they're describing how hurt they are by your actions. Nobody made you look like a fool. Take more accountability for your own mistakes and choices and don't blame someone else for your own actions. 

I'm sorry about your hand and hope it heals well.

Edited June 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator