Fedupuk Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 I've been in a long distance relationship with my partner for 11 months I'm from uk and he is from france, a few months into the relationship he asked to marry me, he planned to come and visit me in April and we would go out and buy an engagement ring together he was here 2 weeks and no mention of engagement ring I've dropped many hints and so has my friends to him but to no avail.Now he is here for the long bank holiday weekend,before he came yet again was the promise of buying a ring together,he goes home in 2 days and no mention of the ring.Im starting to get fed up and really depressed because of the constant promises he makes to me and breaks,he seems to have money to spend on other things while he's here but I seem to buy everything and him nothing Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 Did you ask him "I thought you said you were going to buy me an engagement ring, what happened?" Don't have your friends drop hints just come right out and ask him what is going on? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 1 hour ago, Fedupuk said: I seem to buy everything and him nothing I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds like he's looking for a free ride/holiday. He bribed you with thoughts of a wedding and that seemed to keep you interested. Is this the first time you've both spent time together or seen each other in person? I say this so many times on the forums but it's worth mentioning again. You're dating someone to see their character and who they really are both within and outside of the relationship. That you're long distance makes things harder as you're not seeing how he operates or lives his life firsthand. Anything that he tells you about his life in France may be filtered or adapted to suit his needs. If he's a liar or a person who uses people, this is a great opportunity to con available and gullible partners in another location. It's all the more reason to keep your eyes peeled and be much more observant about whether he is who he says he is or whether he does the things he says he's going to do. It's already a red flag that he's proposing marriage so early on within a few months of knowing each other. Be wary, OP. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 1 hour ago, Fedupuk said: I've been in a long distance relationship with my partner for 11 months I'm from uk and he is from france, a few months into the relationship he asked to marry me. he seems to have money to spend on other things while he's here but I seem to buy everything and him nothing Sorry this is happening. 11 months is the time to observe what's going on in the relationship and how you feel. Not plan the future. Talking about marriage after a few mos. is a red flag. He doesn't even live near you. Sadly it sounds like string-along talk. Don't be a free Bread and Breakfast for him. Have you visited him in his home? Is he married/in another relationship? Stop hosting and paying when he visits. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 4, 2022 Share Posted June 4, 2022 Ask him directly why he keeps talking about buying a ring but then doesn't follow through. Stop dropping hints, and don't recruit your friends to drop hints either. But what is the rush to get engaged? You haven't been dating very long - how much time have you actually spent together in person? Link to post Share on other sites
searching heart Posted June 4, 2022 Share Posted June 4, 2022 I guess I'm curious why you would want to marry someone you barely know? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedupuk Posted June 5, 2022 Author Share Posted June 5, 2022 I've asked him his reply was can you buy it and I will give you the money next week my answer is no thinking of breaking it off 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 5, 2022 Share Posted June 5, 2022 15 minutes ago, Fedupuk said: thinking of breaking it off Good call. End it he's a clown. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 5, 2022 Share Posted June 5, 2022 1 hour ago, Fedupuk said: his reply was can you buy it and I will give you the money next week How romantic and thoughtful. I hope you realize this guy is not serious about marrying you. Just get rid of him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 5, 2022 Share Posted June 5, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, Fedupuk said: I've asked him his reply was can you buy it and I will give you the money next week my answer is no thinking of breaking it off It sounds like he's been toying with you for awhile. Let him go. This isn't a loss. It's a gain. You'll be regaining your freedom and freeing your mind and heart to find someone better than this. Edited June 5, 2022 by glows 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Atwood Posted June 5, 2022 Share Posted June 5, 2022 We all deserve better than this: he's just counting on you not realising it. You're wasting time with him that could be spent on your own pursuits or with friends/family/partners who care about you. Agree that moving on from him will be nothing but gains! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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