Girl I fell for blocked me

[Ady84]

I’m 37 .About 3 months ago I met this girl online and we met a couple of times at hers, we were constantly texting and calling flirting,unfortunately I was working nights and three weeks into talking I became unemployed. She was ok with it but I was so desperate to get back into work so I could take out for the day. The night before we were supposed to go out no answer or replies, the day were due to go out nothing either and I was worried so went to hers she answered and yeh she looked I’ll tbh didn’t say that though. Next two days no answer again until one night we spoke she said we are all good etc. Five mins later she txt she wants to be friends at the moment, now my confession is I’ve only seen one girl in my life for a few months who dumped me by text and saw her with another man next day. This one however I really felt for, I sort freaked out and we spoke again next couple days and said the same but I kept telling her my feelings.Now I haven’t been in this situation before in my life, I kept calling messaging see how she was etc. Few days later I became really low like crying, all kept thinking about was her. I told her few days later that I did get anxiety and depression she said you’ll find happiness and to go out for a drink with my best friend who asked me to. He didn’t turn up, I got low had a few, messaged her no reply called no reply messaged her on Facebook and she said she had her daughter and call tomorrow. I did no answer and left a voice note, she replied best I leave her alone. Replied ok and I’m sorry for what caused this,quick message after she blocked me on WhatsApp. Left it a few days and messaged her on Facebook messaged she blocked me there. She still had me as friend on Facebook but I went out with a good friend of mine telling her about this girl and showed her on my phone her Facebook, she grabbed my phone unfriended her and said move on. I freaked out after and texted the girl wasn’t me that done that but no reply. So want to speak to her, can’t stop thinking about her it’s always in my mind. Don’t want to text or call because could seem as harassment if I do. Even add as a friend again.Just don’t know what to do. Am so low right now. Cried again today, been going on for weeks. I want to add her again or even call her in a week see why she done this.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Ady84 said:

I’m 37. I kept calling messaging see how she was etc. Few days later I became really low like crying, all kept thinking about was her. I told her few days later that I did get anxiety and depression she said you’ll find happiness. she replied best I leave her alone.  she blocked me on WhatsApp. Left it a few days and messaged her on Facebook messaged she blocked me there. 

Sorry this is happening. Yes, it's best to leave her alone. You don't want the police showing up with harassment charges or a restraining order. She is not your psychiatrist and you can't depend on her whenever you feel low.

 Go to a physician for an evaluation of your mental and physical health. Get some tests done. Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist. Be honest about the obsessions, crying anxiety and depression.

 In the meantime call a mental health hotline and someone will listen and help you.

[SingFish]

2 hours ago, Ady84 said:

This one however I really felt for, I sort freaked out and we spoke again next couple days and said the same but I kept telling her my feelings.

This is too fast for most people.

How is your job situation?

[mortensorchid]

I'm sorry this happened to you.  We've all been there in one way or another.  What to do?  Walk away and leave it in peace.  Time will heal your wounds, and it's best to stay away from the source of the problem, which is her in this case.  

Feel better, close the book and move on. 

[ExpatInItaly]

On 6/5/2022 at 8:05 PM, Ady84 said:

Cried again today, been going on for weeks. I want to add her again or even call her in a week see why she done this.

She won't be the solution to your pain, OP. 

It sounds like you've hit a low point in your life in a couple ways, so this perceived rejection stings even more. But she isn't going to be the one that makes it go away. She said she just wanted to be friends, but unfortunately you went overboard in trying to contact her and now friendship isn't an option either. 

All you can do is focus on getting your life back on track, and managing your emotions more effectively. 

[glows]

I’m sorry you were laid off. But that’s no reason to keep pressuring someone to talk with you. Yes, it’s bordering on harassment. No, do not contact her again. 

This seems to have triggered a lot of fear and anxiety for you, reminding you of another woman whom you dated. Let it go. Keep working on employment and wishing you the best of luck. 

[Mrin]

I would argue that it crossed into harassment a while back. Stop. Leave her alone. I'm sorry you're so low but you need to leave her alone. As other said, please consider seeking some professional help.