mortensorchid Posted June 6, 2022 Share Posted June 6, 2022 (edited) A few years ago, I went out with this dj. I went to a friend's birthday party, met a few people there and we then friended a few of them on Facebook. A while later, I got a phone call through Facebook from the dj. He said he was happy to meet me and did I want to go out soon. I said alright, fine with me. A week or two later, we had a get together and we did an old fashioned dinner and a movie (Endgame and Mexican food). And ... I didn't hear from him after that. Experience has taught me by now that if I haven't heard from him within 48 hours, you will not hear from him again. He might call / text you a few days later, you might even have a second get together with him, but you won't hear from him after that. And no one come down on me for my lamenting that he's not chasing me as I have in the past, there have been many times that I have texted the guy the next day just to say "thank you I had a nice time last night" and never hear a word from him again even in response to that. I mean, some of that is just showing someone courtesy. And some people don't even have that for one another. But I digress ... He never reached out again. I would look at his Facebook page and noticed he was posting regularly, appearing at parties and entertaining, making kissy faces with other women. I wasn't jealous, not really, I mean that's part of his job as a dj I guess. After a while, I realized he wasn't going to reach out, so that's that. About a year later, I saw him at a friend's 50th birthday party who he was doing the music for. I said hello to him, no reason we have to go through life hating one another. We chatted for a bit, then I left. A few days later, he texted me through Facebook and said it was nice seeing me yesterday, I said thank you you as well. He said he wondered why we didn't get together, I said I didn't hear from you after our get together. He said I am hard to read, I said I trained myself to be that way with others (long story), but it's a self defense mechanism. If you want to know about me, dig deeper. He said he wanted to kiss me, I said well ... What am I to say to that? He didn't. He was bread crumbing me. I decided to leave it in peace. I thought about him for the first time in a long time just the other day and tried to find his Facebook page, only to find that I have been blocked. I went to my other profile and found that he is now engaged to be married. I am not angry or jealous or whatever else, but I wonder why he chose to block me over that. [ ] Edited June 7, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted June 6, 2022 Share Posted June 6, 2022 (edited) I am sorry that you are hurting Mort. But you need to realize that these so-called questionable friendships and acquaintances are the very first one on a chopping block when a person meets someone that he or she wants to get serious with. When a person is single and ready to mingle, he or she dates, talk to different people, adds one time dates as their friends, keeps orbiters around just in case, etc... But once he or she is finally found the one and is ready to commit, out of respect for their partner, these type of "friendships" are done. Just like that. He either decided to trim up his friends list on a Facebook on his own because he no longer has any need for female "friends" or after the awkward discussion with his fiancé about who those women are to him. You do realize that this guy was never really your friend in a real life, don't you? He is just a dude that you went out once and it didn't go anywhere. I am just curious whey you chose to keep him as your friend and follow him around the Facebook. Perhaps you thought that there was a chance that he is going to ask you out again, a very tiny one but a chance nonetheless. You should've blocked him long ago. Edited June 6, 2022 by Alvi Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 6, 2022 Share Posted June 6, 2022 18 hours ago, mortensorchid said: A few years ago, I went out with this dj. I thought about him for the first time in a long time just the other day and tried to find his Facebook page, only to find that I have been blocked. I went to my other profile and found that he is now engaged to be married. Probably better not to communicate with someone this or be on their social media. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted June 7, 2022 Author Share Posted June 7, 2022 8 hours ago, Alvi said: You do realize that this guy was never really your friend in a real life, don't you? He is just a dude that you went out once and it didn't go anywhere. I am just curious whey you chose to keep him as your friend and follow him around the Facebook. Perhaps you thought that there was a chance that he is going to ask you out again, a very tiny one but a chance nonetheless. You should've blocked him long ago. To be sure, that's all it was really. Why didn't I block him? Unless someone lashes out at me or if it's someone from my past I no longer wish to have contact with, I usually don't block others. There's no reason we have to go through life hating each other. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 7, 2022 Share Posted June 7, 2022 You know what Mort, I'll bet he blocked all the women from his pass after he got engaged to please his fiance. I don't think it was only you so don't take it personal. You handled yourself quite well the last time you spoke to him. Nothing you said was a reason to block. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Iris Posted June 15, 2022 Share Posted June 15, 2022 If he went to a friend’s 50th birthday party, I take it that he’s around this same age. When men get this age, they are often looking for an instantly justifiable situation. They may look around until they are sure the one they are with is for them. Some want to know if they still have true stamina before getting married. Link to post Share on other sites
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