Male friend is acting like us drifting apart is my fault and claims I led him on

[Alpacalia]

5 hours ago, abiwantstobeyours said:

I don't know, either hurt himself or become heavily depressed. He already struggles with anxiety and mild depression, but he's also completely headstrong about not wanting professional help for these issues.

It's unfortunate, but there's nothing you can do.

I was told by a platonic male friend of mine, after about twelve years of platonic friendship, that he had fallen in love with me and that he had been romantically interested in me for a number of years. We barely speak anymore, which is sad because we were (or so I felt) really good friends, but necessary. He, as well as your friend, has a number of physical ailments. I'm not qualified to help. But I've also been on the other side of the fence and I remember how hurtful it was.

You cannot prevent a man from expressing romantic interest in you after you've been friends for a while. However, if he tells you he has a crush on you from the very beginning, you need to let him know you do not share his feelings. It is better to take time away and figure it out yourself if you are unsure.

Your friend needs to work on his mental health on his own.

It is unfortunate that you cannot support each other through this point in time, regardless of how badly you want to.

Find alternative networks of friends, and give yourselves time to let go. He is mourning a fantasy that will never materialize, and struggling with health issues, and you are mourning the loss of a particular friendship.

If he has blocked you on his side, then you should understand that this means he no longer desires to interact with you. You must accept this as a sign that these communications are over. 

Edited June 8, 2022 by Alpacalia

[Wiseman2]

9 hours ago, abiwantstobeyours said:

I don't know, either hurt himself or become heavily depressed. 

Talk to your parents or trusted adults if you think someone is in a mental health crisis.

You're a highschool teenager, a minor. It's not your job to be his psychiatrist. The reality is he had a crush, you picked someone else, so he's bitter. Try not to dress it up as altruism or friendship.

Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. There are his parents, teachers, doctors and other adults who can help him so leave him alone now.