Surfer Guy Posted June 25, 2001 Share Posted June 25, 2001 Well, here is the thing. In the last message that I posted, I told you all about what went wrong in my relationship with my girlfriend. Well, before I came to this site, I saw an email from her. I read it and she wrote, in capital letters, "I AM IN LOVE WITH YOU AND I AM NOT ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED TO ANYBODY". She wrote more than once that she was in love with me and if I stopped talking to her, she would understand. She told me that her mother doesn't like me and would love more than anything to see her get married. Especially to this guy friend of her's. She told me that she isn't even attracted to this guy. She only keeps all ties with him because him and her share the car that the both make payments on, she keeps telling me that he's nothing more than a friend. She also appologized for blowing me off when I approached her at her friend's house. I did respond and I did say that I don't know if I should belive her. I told her that all I want her to do is look me in the eye and tell me these things. Was that the right thing to say? Should I belive her and go on with this relationship? Should I have said anything at all? I'm soo confused right now it isn't even funny. Please help. Women out there...is that something you would say to a guy that you love, if your mom said something to him that made him want to get out of the relationship? I could tell that she was angry because she never messes up on her grammer. And I was noticing mistakes left and right. I don't know if that is of any relivance, but let me know PLEASE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted June 25, 2001 Share Posted June 25, 2001 Uhhhhhh....they only "share the car that the both make payments on"?? Interesting...care to elaborate? Anyway, I would not waste any more of my time with this girl. Why do you care whether she looks you in the eyes and tells you those things? Why does it matter? This girl is not that interested in you. Just push her out of your mind and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted June 26, 2001 Share Posted June 26, 2001 hi surfer guy, i am totally perplexed. you know that her mother does not like you...she shares a car with this guy she feels nothing for...she'd understand if you never spoke to her again...she is in love with you, yet she fobs you off when you are so obviously hurting....i just don't get it????? there is just too much weirdness here for my liking. all she had to tell you, if she is so wedged under her mother's thumb, is "i really love you, but it will never work because of my mother". why the head games with you? this girl does not appear to have a mind of her own when it comes to making her own life choices. she's obviously of an age where it's acceptable to marry, so why the heck is she listening to mummy? god forbid, i would not want to spend the rest of my life with someone whose life is dictated by mummy's rules....i say move on. move on to someone who you will have less hassles with (i say "less" because all relationships will have their hassles at one time or another), but this is just bizarre. surfer guy, you seem like a really lovely guy....don't waste your time with such mind bending behaviour. look her in the eye and tell her you're not going to be stuffed around anymore, because you're better than that. best wishes to you Link to post Share on other sites
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