How can 2 people be so evil?

[Happy Lemming]

47 minutes ago, Gabrielaangel said:

I was dating this guy for years. It wasn’t good at all.

 

Why did you do this??  When dating stops being fun, you leave.

51 minutes ago, Gabrielaangel said:

...but how do I train my brain to not want revenge?

Live well and be happy, that is the best revenge of all.

[Gabrielaangel]

4 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

Why did you do this??  When dating stops being fun, you leave.

Live well and be happy, that is the best revenge of all.

I made a mistake. Stayed thinking deep down he cared and would change. I learned from i.

 

[basil67]

You need to block both of them properly.  I know you said that you did block them, but as you saw her post about the two of them and she was able to message you after you blocked them, then obviously you have more blocking to do.

Once you've removed them from your life once and for all, moving on will be so much easier. 

[BaileyB]

1 hour ago, Gabrielaangel said:

how do I train my brain to not want revenge?

The best revenge is to move on with your life and build a beautiful life for yourself. Leave them to their dysfunction. 

[Gabrielaangel]

30 minutes ago, basil67 said:

You need to block both of them properly.  I know you said that you did block them, but as you saw her post about the two of them and she was able to message you after you blocked them, then obviously you have more blocking to do.

Once you've removed them from your life once and for all, moving on will be so much easier. 

Yeah I have blocked them. I deleted my Instagram for now until I’m ready. I have Facebook. He makes multiple pages and they pop up in my people you may know but I just block them everytime  

[Alvi]

2 hours ago, Gabrielaangel said:

So here’s the thing…. He is a convicted sex offender. He slept with a 16 year old. That’s gross and I know he’s a loser. In my head I know she’s making a fool of herself dating such a jerk and pedophile like that. He’s also given multiple women stds.  He stalked my family. One day he told me he knows where my mom lives and confirmed her address. This man has been arrested several times for stalking women. What baffles me is that my friend knows this and still dated him. 

But this has never bothered you either till he dumped you. Wow, just wow, how on earth did you get involved with this winner?

The good news is that he is no longer your problem. In fact, I think you should thank your former friend for taking this guy away from you.  Now it is time for you to block both of them completely, and I mean completely, and start making better dating and life choices. If for any reason he keeps bothering you again, contact a local  police department. Pretty sure that they will gladly help you out.

 

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, Gabrielaangel said:

He is a convicted sex offender. He slept with a 16 year old. That’s gross and I know he’s a loser. In my head I know she’s making a fool of herself dating such a jerk and pedophile like that. He’s also given multiple women stds.  He stalked my family. One day he told me he knows where my mom lives and confirmed her address. This man has been arrested several times for stalking women.

You knew all of this about him and still dated him for years?  My goodness I would think you wouldn't care who he ended up with by the way you describe him; and kiss the ground everyday that he's out of your life.  I would think you'd feel sorry and concerned for this friend rather than go ballistic because she's now seeing him.  I'm curious though why you were still in contact with this terrible man you describe that still has your contact info.  He should have been blocked and never heard from again.

[Gabrielaangel]

1 minute ago, Alvi said:

But this has never bothered you either till he dumped you. Wow, just wow, how on earth did you get involved with this winner?

The good news is that he is no longer your problem. In fact, I think you should thank your former friend for taking this guy away from you.  Now it is time for you to block both of them completely, and I mean completely, and start making better dating and life choices. If for any reason he keeps bothering you again, contact a local  police department. Pretty sure that they will gladly help you out.

 

It did bother me that’s why we broke up lol. 
 I always felt like he got away with it. We always argued because he said I don’t think he’s suffered enough. I feel if he didn’t get caught he would do it again. We broke up years ago. 

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Gabrielaangel said:

We broke up years ago. 

Please block him everywhere if after all these years you still get triggered by him.

[Gabrielaangel]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

You knew all of this about him and still dated him for years?  My goodness I would think you wouldn't care who he ended up with by the way you describe him; and kiss the ground everyday that he's out of your life.  I would think you'd feel sorry and concerned for this friend rather than go ballistic because she's now seeing him.  I'm curious though why you were still in contact with this terrible man you describe that still has your contact info.  He should have been blocked and never heard from again.

No we broke up when he got arrested. We haven’t been together for year he just would talk to me and tell me how horrible his life is and how he’s changed. But I never took him back . I’m not in contact with him. All the stuff I described like stalking my family and stuff he literally did this like in may of this year. Same time they started dating. I wouldn’t talk to him so he started messaging my family. I block him but he makes new social media pages. He does still have my number tho but I blocked his phone number. 

[Gabrielaangel]

2 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Please block him everywhere if after all these years you still get triggered by him.

Yup you’re right. I just can’t stand him. I feel like he gets away with so much. It’s unfair. When is he gonna ever pay for all the things he’s done to me and other women. That’s what really bothers me 

Edited June 17, 2022 by Gabrielaangel

[Gabrielaangel]

8 minutes ago, Alvi said:

If for any reason he keeps bothering you again, contact a local  police department. Pretty sure that they will gladly help you out.

 

He makes it seem like his probation officer is his friend or on his side. And it’s hard not to believe since he’s getting away with so much. So I didn’t trust his probation officer enough to call

[Alvi]

4 minutes ago, Gabrielaangel said:

No we broke up when he got arrested. We haven’t been together for year he just would talk to me and tell me how horrible his life is and how he’s changed. But I never took him back . I’m not in contact with him. All the stuff I described like stalking my family and stuff he literally did this like in may of this year. Same time they started dating. I wouldn’t talk to him so he started messaging my family. I block him but he makes new social media pages. He does still have my number tho but I blocked his phone number. 

OK, if he is still bothering you and your family, go to the police. Get a restraining order. Keep a record of everything. But do block him everywhere. 

 

[Alvi]

5 minutes ago, Gabrielaangel said:

He makes it seem like his probation officer is his friend or on his side. And it’s hard not to believe since he’s getting away with so much. So I didn’t trust his probation officer enough to call

Well, if there is some sort of a record that you can show that he's been harassing you or your family, they will have to do something about it. If his probation officer is not going to do anything, go to the higher ups. Heck, go to his superiors first. 

Edited June 17, 2022 by Alvi