I heard from his mother

[mortensorchid]

Seven years ago, I was with someone.  We'd known each other for a few years, then we became closer when he and his wife split up.  They had been living apart for over a year, then it changed with me and him.  We were together for about four months.  One day he was over my house, we were in the middle of IT, then he said afterwards he felt dizzy and he was going to go home and sleep it off.  He went home, had a heart attack and died at age 45.  I went to his funeral, because I thought he would want me to be there, said my good-byes and walked away from the group (I knew him from this local rock band he was in, they were there as well, but I chose to end this as this was the end of this chapter anyway).  I moved on.  He creeps up on me once in a while, I still think of him, but I soldier on.

Last night, I got an email in my inbox from this woman who is an alum of a theater company I am active with.  She said she got my contact information from someone there and was wondering if I was the same person who she knew was the last one who saw him.  She offered her phone number to me and asked me to call her.  SO I did.  

I talked to her last night.  She said she had heard my name mentioned at this theater company and wondered if I was the same one who was the last person to see him.  I said I was.  SHe asked how he was, I said he seemed fine until the end (not like I told her what we were doing but she may have suspected anyway).  He said he felt dizzy and was going to go home and sleep it off.  I said I texted him the next day hope he was feeling better, no response.  Then the next day I called him and left a voicemail, no response.  The day after that I called him again, left a voicemail.  The day after that, I saw the post that he was dead.  She said she knew he was sad / depressed over his photography business bottoming out and his lack of work, I said he had told me that.  She said she was concerned about his health and his not going to the doctor, I said I knew nothing about his health being good or bad, he never mentioned it to me.  Then she said many people came up to her after the funeral to say that they were all good friends of his, including his girlfriend.  Of this, I was ... Surprised to hear.  She told me her first name, I said I don't know anyone by that name from that group.  She said he had left his marriage and apparently had taken up with this other woman.  I said I'm sorry I don't know anything else about this woman she mentioned, or how to get into contact with her if that's what she was also after.  She then thanked me for my time, as she had asked me all the questions she had, and that was that.

Heavy.  Wow.  There may have been another woman and I never knew.  Then again, he didn't know about the other man I was with at the same time either.  All these dirty little secrets ...