smint Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 Guys,I taught I will never come to this stage again. Long story short, I met a guy in March,he is in another city,30 min with train from my city,we started seeing each other every weekend. I liked him a lot, but lately he bacame so impatient with me.This weekend we went to lake with his boat which is inflateable, he was first upset bcs I couldn't pump the boat very fast with him and during we were on lake,I didn't know how to paddle and he had to do and when I tried he was yelling on me,i wanted to cry,then we went to his home and I fell asleep in front of tv,where he was next to me hitting me with his elbow to wake up?!?!?!?I was shocked about that. It was so disrispectful and then the next day we agreed long time ago to go to holiday together,so he opened his tablet and started searching summer offers,I opened same webpage on my phone and asked snt how did he select filter,on what he started yelling on me why the hell I am doing it on the phone,when we can check in his tablet,where I started to cry.He didn't seem to be upset making me cry and said how he didn't mean anything wrong,just we are wasting time on two devices blah blah,and then in next one hour after searching together,he had pimple on his face and I touch that place on his head on what he reacted again so agressive,he hit my hand but to say not very gently,and after that silence bega,I started staring in ceiling,he opened news to read on tablet. Then I said should I go home,he answered as you wish, then I said ok I will go on what he repleyd don't forget to take your cake with you?!?!?!?(i bought a cake the day before. Later in train I cried a lot,he asked me if I caught the train,I answered yes and I will not come to you anymore. On what he replied I can't believe you are ending it this way,I am sure we don't want to stay in our rooms during summer,even if it is not long lasting relationship,we could be together in summer?!?!?!?Which made me even more sad,it is not about me,it is about his summer vactiona dn not having someone to travel with. I am sorry for long post,it just feels bettermI have noone to tell and to ventile. I am 36 years old,he is 38,I wanted to invest in in quality relationship and to get married,I want husband and to live with someone and he knows that. I don't know why I deserved such treatment and feel so childish for leaving his home and he being indiferent about it.I Just couldn't take such treatment for 2nd day.Yeah that's it.Thanks to whoever has patiente to read. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 34 minutes ago, smint said: I met a guy in March he was yelling on me,i wanted to cry, then we went to his home and I fell asleep in front of tv,where he was next to me hitting me with his elbow to wake up? Sorry this happened. Good you ended it and freed yourself. He sounds awful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 The next time a man treats you this disrespectful do not start crying, get up from where you're sitting, get your things and leave. This guy doesn't have one ounce of respect for you and that is why he treats and talks to you the way he does. Please raise your self respect and do not cry over someone who could care less about you. Do not go back to him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 It’s very clear he doesn’t care about you. The reason he was with you is because he doesn’t know how to vacation/spend summer on his own or has no one else to go with. How sad is that? You know when someone uses another person for ulterior motives because they’re fearful or lonely it rarely ends well. Unless the both of you have similar agendas this doesn’t work. You thought he was actually into you. He just has no idea what to do with himself while on his own. I don’t know why you’re touching someone’s pimple but he shouldn’t ever yell, not while boating or doing simple things. Both of you didn’t get together for the same reasons and it would have ended anyway. Give yourself a pat on the back for walking out on him and ending it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted June 21, 2022 Author Share Posted June 21, 2022 Thank you guys for reading, your support feels like a hug ❤️ I am very sad and can't eat. Again I hit the wall. Yes, the guy had completely different intentions. I am trying to understand him, he had no mother since he was 7, then his stepmother was bad to him and his brother, and his father is not his biological father. Probably he didn't receive enough love in life. I know there is no excuse and it is not my problem. I guess I was annoying maybe in my own way I don't do it intentionally, but it is not a reason to yell and be so nervous like that. I did well that I left. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 1 hour ago, smint said: Thank you guys for reading, your support feels like a hug ❤️ I am very sad and can't eat. Again I hit the wall. Yes, the guy had completely different intentions. I am trying to understand him, he had no mother since he was 7, then his stepmother was bad to him and his brother, and his father is not his biological father. Probably he didn't receive enough love in life. I know there is no excuse and it is not my problem. I guess I was annoying maybe in my own way I don't do it intentionally, but it is not a reason to yell and be so nervous like that. I did well that I left. Yes, definitely, absolutely, most certainly not your problem. All you know is that he is not adequate to date. You can let him go back into the pool and don't worry about him for a moment longer. The sting will wear off but be glad that you came away with just a sting, not a mother of a problem having been with him for longer, married him, had his kids, or put up with his abuse, yelling, talking down to you and overall foul attitude. You seem to have a good and healthy self-esteem. Time to let go. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted June 21, 2022 Author Share Posted June 21, 2022 1 hour ago, glows said: Yes, definitely, absolutely, most certainly not your problem. All you know is that he is not adequate to date. You can let him go back into the pool and don't worry about him for a moment longer. The sting will wear off but be glad that you came away with just a sting, not a mother of a problem having been with him for longer, married him, had his kids, or put up with his abuse, yelling, talking down to you and overall foul attitude. You seem to have a good and healthy self-esteem. Time to let go. Yes, it will be good, everything is always good at the end. As you said better just a stinge ❤️ I can not imagine a nightmare spending vacation together. Good that it happened right now. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 2 hours ago, smint said: Yes, it will be good, everything is always good at the end. As you said better just a stinge ❤️ I can not imagine a nightmare spending vacation together. Good that it happened right now. I didn't say he was a stinge but yes move on. He has a poor attitude in general and doesn't care about you. It would have been a nightmare doing anything with him. He didn't treat you well at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted June 21, 2022 Author Share Posted June 21, 2022 54 minutes ago, glows said: I didn't say he was a stinge but yes move on. He has a poor attitude in general and doesn't care about you. It would have been a nightmare doing anything with him. He didn't treat you well at all. Oh ok sorry,english is not my native language and I sometimes make mistakes 🙈 Thank you for your support ❤️❤️❤️ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 6 minutes ago, smint said: Oh ok sorry,english is not my native language and I sometimes make mistakes 🙈 Thank you for your support ❤️❤️❤️ Oh I see. All good and your English is quite good. You are welcome! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 24, 2022 Share Posted June 24, 2022 On 6/21/2022 at 6:38 PM, smint said: I am trying to understand him, Donn't waste your time on this. He's not worth the emotional energy, and the reason he's a jerk is irrelevant. On 6/21/2022 at 1:22 PM, smint said: I am 36 years old,he is 38,I wanted to invest in in quality relationship and to get married,I want husband This man won't be it. Please, block him everywhere so he can't cause more distress. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted June 27, 2022 Author Share Posted June 27, 2022 On 6/24/2022 at 8:51 AM, ExpatInItaly said: Donn't waste your time on this. He's not worth the emotional energy, and the reason he's a jerk is irrelevant. This man won't be it. Please, block him everywhere so he can't cause more distress. Zou are absolutely right... Link to post Share on other sites
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