ponder24 Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 My fiance and I, after much stress looking/deciding just bought a condo. Our settlement date will be Nov.30th,,so anytime after we can move in. He wants as well as his family for me to stay where I am at until we are married, and he will live in the new condo. He claims that I can sleep/stay there anytime I want, but to still keep my bed where I am living now(I am living with a friend, not alot of $ for rent) the funny thing is he has been living with me for almost a year now, but he hates it and can't wait to get out. (my friend has A LOT of untrained animals, messy house etc, sloppy roomates) His family obviously wants us to live apart for religious reasons, as does my fiance. The way I see, I woudnt mind living apart for a little bit before we get married (have the bed to myself! HOWEVER I am putting out a a lot more money to purchase the house, and I have a feeling he is going to need me to pay my half of the mortgage even if I am not living there. I don't think this is fair.... but maybe it is best. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Careful... You should live in the condo.. If he was a decent sort of guy he would make sure that you were in the condo till you were married..and he would live elsewhere. That way you would be settled already.. My take.. He is a bit controlling.. or doesn't trust you or both Be careful about signing loan documents and not being married.. Seek legal advice as well.. You both need right of surviorship in place as well. You wouldn't want to have to buy out his family if he passes away before you are married. Link to post Share on other sites
Shana Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Are you crazy? Your purchasing a condo with your NOT YET husband, with you paying more into it, and a chance you'd be flipping the mortgage and NOT LIVING IN IT?? Your in for a ride. I would not purchase ANYTHING with him until you are married. Regardless of what his parents say, or him for that matter. Why don't you tell him to stay at your roomates house with the messy pets etc. and you will stay in the condo until your married? See what he says then. I would seriously walk on this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ponder24 Posted October 24, 2005 Author Share Posted October 24, 2005 So the more I thought about this whole thing the angrier I got. I called my fiance and basically gave it to him,,about how I should be able to live there,,especially since I am paying for it. He claims we kind of discussed the issue before,,in which I agreed to stay where I am currently living, ie keep my bed there,,but primarily stay at the new condo,,so he technically is not lying to his parents,,he promised them we would not live together until after we are married. After we argued about it,,he offered to stay at his parents..and I would be the one to live in the condo, which I was surprised,,acted like he meant it,,,but I betcha after having some time to think about it he will feel differently.(He has been living on his own since 17, now is 25) We will have to see,,,it's all stressful. My parents thank god,,are legally helping/advising us in the right direction as far as buying the house. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Thta's great.. Trey and calm down a bit though.. He did bend your way.. Like I did say though you do need to have right of suviorship signed and ready in case something happens to either of you till you are married. Without it if he passed away his estate would own his half of the house and you would have to pay his estate for that half. And the same goes for if you passed away as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ponder24 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Share Posted October 25, 2005 well, we had a talk about all this,,,we are BOTH living there,,we are telling a little white lie to his very religious parents,,he got over it. He is "sleeping" on the couch. I told him I would never agree to me not living there. It's all good now....I hope. We are signing the official papers tonite:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
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