Huge mistake.

[stillafool]

With time you and the kids will be okay.  At least they are still in the house you built for them.  I don't think I'd except her back if she begged.  OP= Original Poster

[Swyna]

5 minutes ago, stillafool said:

With time you and the kids will be okay.  At least they are still in the house you built for them.  I don't think I'd except her back if she begged.  OP= Original Poster

True, time will heal. Have to learn to live with a thought that i can’t erase her from my life because of kids. Wish I could, but kids need mother as well. I even don’t belive she’ll be back begging. But who knows, trust is gone anyway and that pain she did is unbelievable. To kids and to me. 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, Swyna said:

True, time will heal. Have to learn to live with a thought that i can’t erase her from my life because of kids. Wish I could, but kids need mother as well. I even don’t belive she’ll be back begging. But who knows, trust is gone anyway and that pain she did is unbelievable. To kids and to me. 

Well my bio mom left my Dad with my 2 brothers and me the baby, ages 4, 3 and 9 mos and he took care of us with the help of his family.  Soon he met a woman who always wanted kids but couldn't have any and they fell in love and got married.  We became one big happy family living in the country and she was the best mother any child could ask for.  Just stick by your kids and pray, the best of your life is ahead of you.

[Swyna]

9 hours ago, stillafool said:

Well my bio mom left my Dad with my 2 brothers and me the baby, ages 4, 3 and 9 mos and he took care of us with the help of his family.  Soon he met a woman who always wanted kids but couldn't have any and they fell in love and got married.  We became one big happy family living in the country and she was the best mother any child could ask for.  Just stick by your kids and pray, the best of your life is ahead of you.

That’s inspiring, your dad is strong man! Thank you for those kind words. I will be there for my kids, no matter what! 

[Swyna]

Well that’s new. I thought i could live nicely with kinds on my time and heal wounds but of course not.. 

yesterday she just showed up on store when i were with kids..because she needed a proof for her mother who is mad as hell that she doesn’t cares about children.. so she called in front of kids and lied she’s taking kids to her apartment ??? Whaaat !?

And of course she bought, some toys which i already have at home? Anyway wierd act. 
 

After i put kids into car asked if she could tell me the honest reason of break up and all got was she has been thinking it for years and have said it to my girlfriend!!! For real? I got upset inside but talked calmly and said are you kidding me? So we planed third kid just few months ago. Told that she thinks like i was nothing and lied to my face for years. “I wasn’t lying and you weren’t nobody”

 

Feels like total bull****, that sentence. Like looking to make a problem to solve something or I don’t know? Just sick!

turned my back and sat into car and drove away with kids.

Today i ignored for few hours her if she asked about kids, hoe they slept. Finaly told kids are ok and please dont bother me when it’s my time to hold them, if something is up i will let you know IF necessary.
 

Said she is greatful for my time together and kids and wont bother me anymore. Said same and wish the best and also mentioned, hopefully you won’t regret what have you done in future and bye! 

Answer, let’s see what future brings.

I just ignored that.

what the hell is she thinking??? Lying to her mother and in front of kids, i’ll follow you home with car and so on.. why the f.

Unbelievable person.

 

[Wiseman2]

When you get your divorce consultation, you could ask about full custody with her having scheduled visitation with the children. She would have to pay you child support. Talk to your attorney.