I say and do things to upset my wife and child

[Starwars]

I can’t stop myself from saying and doing things to upset my wife and child, I know there are ways to stop myself but I would rather say something hurtful then apologise after, it’s like I need to do it. I also have a habit of telling my wife I know how she thinks and feels better than she does,  

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[glows]

2 hours ago, Starwars said:

I can’t stop myself from saying and doing things to upset my wife and child, I know there are ways to stop myself but I would rather say something hurtful then apologise after, it’s like I need to do it. I also have a habit of telling me wife I know how she thinks and feels better than she does,  

Have you seen a therapist? What you describe is emotionally abusive. You will have to talk to someone about your manipulative habits.

[Happy Lemming]

4 hours ago, Starwars said:

I can’t stop myself from saying and doing things to upset my wife and child...

Do you have some sort of resentment towards your wife??  Do you feel you are doing more (for the upkeep of the family) than she does??

Does saying these things to your wife and child bring you some type of fulfillment -- like you are better than them??

Are you the type of person that thrives on "trauma and drama"??

[basil67]

There is no question in your post.  Are you wanting help to change or is this just a confessional?