OvexRO Posted July 14, 2022 Share Posted July 14, 2022 (edited) Hello everyone. I'm the type of person that's interested in spirituality, philosophy, psychology, reading and writing — to me, self-help and personal growth are very important. On the other hand, my girlfriend is more into mundane things and gossping; she likes to talk about her day and what's happening around her. Something we can't find things to talk about — it feels like we have nothing in common. Other times we're kind of okay; it depends on our moods. Are we too different from each other? And what should we do to improve the chemistry between us? Thank you. Edited July 14, 2022 by OvexRO To add a question mark. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 14, 2022 Share Posted July 14, 2022 14 minutes ago, OvexRO said: I'm the type of person that's interested in spirituality, philosophy, psychology, reading and writing — to me, self-help and personal growth are very important.On the other hand, my girlfriend is more into mundane things and gossping; she likes to talk about her day and what's happening around her. How long have you been dating? How old is she? It seems you're incompatible if you find her boring and mundane. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OvexRO Posted July 14, 2022 Author Share Posted July 14, 2022 4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you been dating? We've been dating for about three monts. 5 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: It seems you're incompatible if you find her boring and mundane. Could you explain that a little bit further? Or give me an example? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted July 14, 2022 Share Posted July 14, 2022 (edited) The thing is, if this is an issue for you, then you are incompatible. Differing viewpoints are not the only thing that drives a couple apart. It is possible to have too much in common. Maybe you think that having the exact same shared interests means you've found your "perfect" match. The problem is that if you are exactly the same as each other, you might have difficulty moving forward in your life. A good relationship is all about achieving equilibrium, someone who can compensate for the deficits you have, and the opposite is also true. Do you want to wake up every morning next to someone who has exactly the same interests and is a replica of you? I suppose sometimes it would be nice to have the ability to do that. That sameness may also lead to predictable and boring relationships because you don't push one another to try new things. Edited July 14, 2022 by Alpacalia Link to post Share on other sites
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