Confusedguy101 Posted July 17, 2022 Share Posted July 17, 2022 My gf of 11 years got caught cheating. Inoticed changes on her behavior a few weeks ago so last night I cauggt her and now I'm blocked on everything. I honestly didn't react poorly bc I already knew deep down I just said really this is what you're doing and left. I tried to call her for an explanation or closure today and I'm blocked. Why would she react by blocking me as if I'm the one who is wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 18, 2022 Share Posted July 18, 2022 Sorry your relationship ended in such circumstances. Did you break up with her? If so, that would be why she blocked you. But if you were hoping to work things out, I guess she doesn't want to face the consequences of what she's done. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 18, 2022 Share Posted July 18, 2022 51 minutes ago, Confusedguy101 said: Why would she react by blocking me as if I'm the one who is wrong? She has probably been looking for a way to get out of the relationship for quite a while, thus she tried dating other people. Some women need to have a guy in their lives at all times. They "monkey branch" from one guy to the next without missing a beat. I'm guessing that is what has happened here. She kept you around until she secured her footing with this new guy and no longer has any need for you. And... has blocked you out of her life. What explanation are you expecting?? It will just be filled with anger and vitriol. She'll bring up all of your shortcomings and put you down as her "explanation" for moving on to this new guy. My brain has an internal "mute" button, anytime a woman says to me I no longer want to see you... my brain mutes the next thing out of her mouth because it will do me no good to hear whatever comes next. My advice -- Give your home a good cleaning, box up any memorabilia from her and put it in the back of your closet. Wash all of your bedding, get rid of any residual smell from her out of your sheets, duvet, etc. Tomorrow head out and just try to get social with other humans. I'm not saying try to find a new girlfriend tomorrow, just get out of the house. It serves no purpose to sit on the couch and try to figure this whole mess out -- it will only make the dent in your couch larger and do you no good. For me... I always treat myself to a nice thick juicy steak and a couple pints of Guinness at my local pub. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedguy101 Posted July 18, 2022 Author Share Posted July 18, 2022 Thanks for the advice I guess I was confused bc of the way it all went down but I have deleted all contact points. Spent today with my family and am just start to accept the fact she wasn't who I thought she was. I will be fine I was just confused as to why she would say I love you still but do this. It's best if I never get a why as you said it'll just be full of excuses when truthfully she could of just left. I just hate the impact it's gonna have on my kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 18, 2022 Share Posted July 18, 2022 23 minutes ago, Confusedguy101 said: I just hate the impact it's gonna have on my kids. Kids are pretty resilient... they will bounce back quickly, throw in an ice cream sundae and they'll be like "who??" Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 18, 2022 Share Posted July 18, 2022 5 hours ago, Confusedguy101 said: . I just hate the impact it's gonna have on my kids. Sorry this happened. Do you live together? Are they your, her or both of your children? 11 years is a long time to not know someone well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedguy101 Posted July 18, 2022 Author Share Posted July 18, 2022 My kids but they only know her as a mother figure. My wife died during birth of our daughter. My son was 4 and my daughter was 2 when me and this girl meet. We were looking at houaes and all even this week and now this. I just need to regroup and recover I'll be ok. Ppl say accept it and move on. The fact is I just have figure out how to accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted July 18, 2022 Share Posted July 18, 2022 You are exactly right, instead of cheating she could have talked to you and left. Cheating and then blocking you was the cowardly way out. There will never be any good explanation for that. Closure is not something she can give you, you will have to find that on your own eventually. Acceptance will probably take a while, but in the meantime work on all the little things that constitute moving on. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 On 7/18/2022 at 9:19 AM, Confusedguy101 said: My gf of 11 years got caught cheating. Inoticed changes on her behavior a few weeks ago so last night I cauggt her and now I'm blocked on everything. I honestly didn't react poorly bc I already knew deep down I just said really this is what you're doing and left. I tried to call her for an explanation or closure today and I'm blocked. Why would she react by blocking me as if I'm the one who is wrong? Don't bother with her. Take it from someone who's gone through it and been cheated on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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