poppyfields Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 (edited) Hey guys, fiancé and I got married this past weekend!   †It was just us with a witness and we will have our celebration with standard vows as planned on August 13 with a few friends and family. We're pregnant, I'm gonna be a mom! Maybe some of you suspected it, and might be too soon to share the news, but I'm busting and wanted to! We are both super happy and in love with our baby even though not even born yet. †Edit: Shoot I meant to post this in married section, mods please move.   Edited July 25, 2022 by poppyfields 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Congrats... on both fronts!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 OMG, Congratulations! And no, I did not guess that you're going to be a mom â€ïžÂ  I wish you a long and happy marriage with the joy of a beautiful little family 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Congratulations and I hope both the marriage and pregnancy are smooth and happy đ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Oh Poppy!!!!!! đ So Happy for you Guys and the Little One!!!!! đ€”đ°Â Awwwwww, when's it due?Â đ€° Â You must be sooooooo happy Poppy!!!!!đ°đŒ 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted July 25, 2022 Author Share Posted July 25, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Oh Poppy!!!!!! đ So Happy for you Guys and the Little One!!!!! đ€”đ°Â Awwwwww, when's it due?Â đ€° Â You must be sooooooo happy Poppy!!!!!đ°đŒ Oh I thought some of you might have suspected it due to how quickly we decided to get married.  But anyway, YES we are beside ourselves with joy, especially me now that I can talk about it (being pregnant) and I am married now so it's all legit! The baby is due in late February so it will be a Pisces baby, we are hoping for little girl (is that wrong?) but of course a boy would be wonderful too!  It is such an amazing feeling guys, I feel so in love with her/him already!!  After the ultrasound @ around 12 weeks or so when we discover the gender, I can't imagine how much love I will be feeling! And then when born, even more!  Right now it's the size of a raspberry so we can't tell. Thank you all so much! I will keep you updated.   đ  Edited July 25, 2022 by poppyfields 5 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 2 hours ago, poppyfields said: Oh I thought some of you might have suspected it due to how quickly we decided to get married.  It's probably cultural difference   Where I live, I've seen lots of babies to couples who aren't married and quick marriages for couples who aren't pregnant. I think social norms are changing so quickly that we're forgetting to wonder about these things.  2 hours ago, poppyfields said: But anyway, YES we are beside ourselves with joy, especially me now that I can talk about it (being pregnant) and I am married now so it's all legit! The baby is due in late February so it will be a Pisces baby, we are hoping for little girl (is that wrong?) but of course a boy would be wonderful too!  It is such an amazing feeling guys, I feel so in love with her/him already!!  After the ultrasound @ around 12 weeks or so when we discover the gender, I can't imagine how much love I will be feeling! And then when born, even more!  Right now it's the size of a raspberry so we can't tell. Thank you all so much! I will keep you updated.   đ February baby, so I'm guessing your about 12 weeks now? Wait till you feel those first flutters, that's when sh*t starts to get real. Have you got plans of where you're going to live? And fixing up the nursery...so much fun! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 (edited) Congrats poppy! Nope did not guess you were pregnant! I just figured you guys knew what you wanted and were going for it! anyway, this is wonderful news. Being a mom is the most WONDERFUL experience of my entire life. When my boys were born I knew I had a purpose in life. They are my little angels. Its the most incredible feeling ever! I am beyond thrilled for you. Edited July 26, 2022 by Lauriebell82 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted July 26, 2022 Author Share Posted July 26, 2022 20 hours ago, basil67 said: It's probably cultural difference   Where I live, I've seen lots of babies to couples who aren't married and quick marriages for couples who aren't pregnant. I think social norms are changing so quickly that we're forgetting to wonder about these things.  February baby, so I'm guessing your about 12 weeks now? Wait till you feel those first flutters, that's when sh*t starts to get real. Have you got plans of where you're going to live? And fixing up the nursery...so much fun! @basil67 I am a little over 9 weeks (based on the date I conceived which I am relatively certain of).  The late February date is only an estimate, it's too early to tell or see much of anything.  Other than so far so good and a few other characteristics but not much.  But like I said yesterday, I already feel such an abundance of love, it's difficult to describe but to all you moms reading, I am sure you understand. We will know more at 12 weeks and beyond. Yah there are many unmarried couples with children in my neck of the woods too, it was my own personal thing that I wanted to be married. We are in the process of buying a home together, we will remain in SoCal as that is where his business is, but outside the city. 11 minutes ago, Lauriebell82 said: Congrats poppy! Thank you!! It all happened so fast, it's pretty overwhelming, but we're excited!! đ   Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted July 27, 2022 Share Posted July 27, 2022 Congrats again! đ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted July 27, 2022 Share Posted July 27, 2022 Congratulations, @poppyfields. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiritedaway2003 Posted July 28, 2022 Share Posted July 28, 2022 Congrats, @poppyfields. đ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted August 1, 2022 Share Posted August 1, 2022 Congratulations @poppyfields All the best with your marriage and little bubs. I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly and you get your wish of XX chromosomes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird2 Posted August 3, 2022 Share Posted August 3, 2022 This is wonderful news. Â Pregnancy and time with your newborn goes by so fast-I hope you're bale to enjoy every minute of it. Â Â 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted August 4, 2022 Author Share Posted August 4, 2022 (edited) Hey guys, first off, thank you for all the congrats and warm wishes. That means a lot! Secondly, I wanted to give an update since getting married, as I'm going through a transformation of sorts, not quite sure what to call it, but that's what it feels like. And it actually goes against most everything I've read and heard about marriage, but it's all good. Anyway, remember my previous thread where I talked about feeling safe and secure and loving my now-husband, but wasnât sure if I was "in love" with him cause I always associated being "in love" with longing? Well since getting married, I find myself falling in total and complete love with him! No question. I miss him when he is gone; I actually find myself looking out the window sometimes awaiting his car driving up after work, and on a few occasions jumping into his arms or giving him a big warm hug! He loves it of course, not that I wasn't affectionate before. But now since being married, and having his baby, it's like I've become awakened or something with all this LOVE! †I also find myself feeling repulsed by a couple of ex's. Whereas before, I felt fondly for them and respected them, but when I think back on our relationship, and how toxic it was, I now feel utterly repulsed.  And appreciating my husband more and falling more in love with him. Can any of you married folks (or anyone really) relate to this feeling?  Could it be because I'm pregnant and my hormones are going kinda kaplooey on me?  Or is being married like the family I don't really have anymore since my parents' deaths? I am not complaining, I think it's all good and positive and a testament to how awesome being married is and how, contrary to what some anti-marriage folks believe, it can cause you to fall in love with your partner in ways you never even imagined. Any insight would be appreciated, thanks guys!      Edited August 4, 2022 by poppyfields Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted August 4, 2022 Share Posted August 4, 2022 (edited) 13 hours ago, poppyfields said: Can any of you married folks (or anyone really) relate to this feeling?  If youâre talking about the spike of âin loveâ feeling, yes for sure. In the course of a long marriage there will definitely be spikes (both up and down) from time to time, and they will then return to a normal baseline. If youâre talking about the repulsion towards your exes, I canât really relate, as Iâve accepted my part in the toxic relationships, and appreciate them for what they taught me. I donât really look back at them with fondness nor repulsion.  13 hours ago, poppyfields said: Could it be because I'm pregnant and my hormones are going kinda kaplooey on me?  Or is being married like the family I don't really have anymore since my parents' deaths? Bonding hormones could be part of it too. But as I said before, these things will fluctuate over the course of a long relationship.  And sure, your new sense of belonging and security and building a new family unit can be part of it too. Generally speaking, our thoughts drive our feelings, so if you think that itâs important it will likely impact your feelings. Edited August 4, 2022 by Weezy1973 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 5, 2022 Share Posted August 5, 2022 On 8/4/2022 at 1:56 PM, poppyfields said: No question. I miss him when he is gone; I actually find myself looking out the window sometimes awaiting his car driving up after work, and on a few occasions jumping into his arms or giving him a big warm hug! .............. I also find myself feeling repulsed by a couple of ex's. Whereas before, I felt fondly for them and respected them, but when I think back on our relationship, and how toxic it was, I now feel utterly repulsed.  And appreciating my husband more and falling more in love with him. Can any of you married folks (or anyone really) relate to this feeling?  Yes and no. I still look forward to him coming home every night.  When we were testing trackers for our disabled son's phone, we tried them on each other and loved the connection it gave. Not in a controlling creepy stalker way, but in a 'have a cup of tea ready for when they get in' or 'greet my car when it's full of groceries and help me bring them in and unpack' or 'I'm glad you and your motorbike arrived safely at your destination' kind of way.  Yes, I know that this isn't going to appeal to everyone, but we just love feeling connected in an unobtrusive way. I'm not repulsed by any exes, but I certainly compare my husband favourably! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 9, 2022 Share Posted August 9, 2022 Congratulations to both of you! When we become a parent we experience a true deep unique love we find nowhere else, something instantly changes in us. I'm happy you will experience that đ Hormones will have you experience intense closeness and the opposite! At 10 weeks pregnant l was crying all the time, that's how l discovered l was pregnant lol. I'm looking forward to follow your journey 𧥠1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted August 11, 2022 Author Share Posted August 11, 2022 (edited) On 8/9/2022 at 4:05 PM, Gaeta said: Congratulations to both of you! When we become a parent we experience a true deep unique love we find nowhere else, something instantly changes in us. I'm happy you will experience that đ Hormones will have you experience intense closeness and the opposite! At 10 weeks pregnant l was crying all the time, that's how l discovered l was pregnant lol. I'm looking forward to follow your journey 𧥠Thanks G.  Just wanted to say that I hear ya re my emotions, lord have mercy!  It's getting quite difficult to control which is strange as I am usually pretty good at it (for the most part). Crying jags and overly sensitive (more than usual) to almost every type of stimuli. Then other times exuberant. exhilarated and excited! I have been writing negative feelings down on paper before I express which is helpful and actually calms me down believe or not; I am glad I have discovered that outlet. Another weird thing I am experiencing is that my teeth hurt!  It's difficult to chew so I have been living on brown sugar and maple flavored oatmeal and blending other foods. The formal ceremony is this coming Saturday, fingers crossed it all goes smoothly. Just a few friends and family. Anyway, just wanted to give y'all an update and wondering if you (or anyone else reading) ever experienced your teeth hurting? I did read it was typical during first trimester, by second trimester, things will start getting better. My understanding anyway.  Edited August 11, 2022 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 11, 2022 Share Posted August 11, 2022 12 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Anyway, just wanted to give y'all an update and wondering if you (or anyone else reading) ever experienced your teeth hurting? I did not experience tooth aches and never heard of it but !! I remember when l was a little girl my anties would say * more children fewer teeth*....that's why they said that!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted August 11, 2022 Author Share Posted August 11, 2022 (edited) 49 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I did not experience tooth aches and never heard of it but !! I remember when l was a little girl my anties would say * more children fewer teeth*....that's why they said that!! Oh dear. Well I had a dental visit three weeks ago (semi-annual check up and cleaning) and everything was fine and nothing feels loose, just sensitive to touch. Again, I did read it was somewhat normal and shouldn't last, it just feels kinda weird and scary. Re my emotions, [I am also feeling very sensitive about criticisms] Just an example of how crazy I am feeling! The good news is I am still in love with my husband and my sex drive is as high as ever!!  đ Edited August 11, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator sharing removed discussion 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BrinnM Posted August 11, 2022 Share Posted August 11, 2022 18 hours ago, poppyfields said: Anyway, just wanted to give y'all an update and wondering if you (or anyone else reading) ever experienced your teeth hurting? Not sure about which trimester(s), but yes, many of my Mum-friends have complained about toothache and teeth feeling loose (?) during pregnancy (they all still have their teeth btw) âŠâŠ but they described the pain more like a âtensionâ pain, not like a cavity pain or pain before or after a root canal or an extraction âŠ.. they always mentioned âtensionâ or âpressureâ âŠâŠ not sure if you can relate here.  1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted August 12, 2022 Author Share Posted August 12, 2022 Thanks Brinn, I'm feeling better today. Ceremony tomorrow, I'm nervous!   Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 13, 2022 Share Posted August 13, 2022 How did it go? I've been thinking of you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author poppyfields Posted August 15, 2022 Author Share Posted August 15, 2022 (edited) On 8/13/2022 at 3:50 PM, basil67 said: How did it go? I've been thinking of you Hi basil, it was lovely, thank you for asking. It was quite emotional for me, some tears during, emotional tears, happy tears! We are actually in Hawaii right now, getting ready to head out soon but had a free moment and wanted to check in. I just responded to @brokengirl85thread too. Anyway, thanks again for thinking of me. đ   Edited August 15, 2022 by poppyfields 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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