Ghosted in LDR - Should you send a message to have a closure or just move on

[Natalie_G]

A month of ghosting after years of a relationship (physically then turns to LDR) , should you send a message to ask whats happening and have a closure OR just forget it and move on ? 

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, Natalie_G said:

OR just forget it and move on ? 

You dodged a bullet. Delete and block him so you can move forward in peace.

Is this the same man?:

 

[Natalie_G]

yeah  

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Natalie_G said:

yeah  

Don't bother messaging him again. 

It sounded in your last thread like he is married, and his wife probably caught on and made him block you. It's time to let go of this guy. 

[justwhoiam]

On 7/25/2022 at 6:31 PM, Natalie_G said:

yeah  

Ok. You didn't reply in the other thread, and people asked you a lot of questions. I think you must know if something's off while being with a man for years. Have you ever had vacations together? Also, you just wrote that the relationship went from physical to LDR, is that correct? So it looks like he had a fling with you while married, and then it all turned to a long distance friendship. Or a virtual sex buddy, not sure.

Maybe you can share some more details. You should run a background check on him online, you'd know when he got married and when, pending debts, financial situation etc.

My gut feeling is that he's not a polyamorous man (polygamy is illegal in most countries, anyway), most probably he fell for you but is married and is not in a position to give everything up. Maybe he works for his father in law? Who knows? Or he can't leave his job and cannot ask you to leave yours either. And that's the best situation you could find out. In the worst scenario, he's just an opportunistic jerk.