Shanti66 Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 I’ve been dating this man for 6 months, in the beginning things were good. We spent time together, not always sexy time, watching movies hangout, walks etc. he has 2 sons that do not live in the same state. He gets them for 1 months in the summer. I told him that I won’t be calling him much when he has his kids. I have 2 nephews, that is around the same age group as his sons, He included my nephews and me in some of their activities no. I also get to spent time with him. It’s been 2 weeks since his kids left After they left he spent 2 nights with me and when I ask to see him, he tells that he is busy or tired. Today I was off from work, he was also off I asked if we can do something together. He told me that I was being clingy and that I am too much sometimes. I let him know that I miss him and I feel like we don’t spent time together anymore. I work a m-f 8-6 all I ask is to spent some time together at least 1 time a week. Am I being clingy? Link to post Share on other sites
letotron454 Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 Did anything happen while his kids were over? It doesn't like you are being clingy but hard to say with such limited information. With the information given it sounds like he may have just had a sudden change of heart regarding the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 6 hours ago, Shanti66 said: all I ask is to spent some time together at least 1 time a week. Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately you seem more interested, Involved and invested than he is. How often do you typically see each other? 6 mos. is a good time to note your incompatibilities and frustration with him. Try backing off completely and see if he steps up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maldives Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 10 hours ago, Shanti66 said: I’ve been dating this man for 6 months, in the beginning things were good. We spent time together, not always sexy time, watching movies hangout, walks etc. he has 2 sons that do not live in the same state. He gets them for 1 months in the summer. I told him that I won’t be calling him much when he has his kids. I have 2 nephews, that is around the same age group as his sons, He included my nephews and me in some of their activities no. I also get to spent time with him. It’s been 2 weeks since his kids left After they left he spent 2 nights with me and when I ask to see him, he tells that he is busy or tired. Today I was off from work, he was also off I asked if we can do something together. He told me that I was being clingy and that I am too much sometimes. I let him know that I miss him and I feel like we don’t spent time together anymore. I work a m-f 8-6 all I ask is to spent some time together at least 1 time a week. Am I being clingy? No way not at all, not clingy at all. Man if only I could find a woman even half as interested as you are with him i'd be over the moon. Definately his loss here if you decide to leave 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 10 hours ago, Shanti66 said: I’ve been dating this man for 6 months, in the beginning things were good. We spent time together, not always sexy time, watching movies hangout, walks etc. he has 2 sons that do not live in the same state. He gets them for 1 months in the summer. I told him that I won’t be calling him much when he has his kids. I have 2 nephews, that is around the same age group as his sons, He included my nephews and me in some of their activities no. I also get to spent time with him. It’s been 2 weeks since his kids left After they left he spent 2 nights with me and when I ask to see him, he tells that he is busy or tired. Today I was off from work, he was also off I asked if we can do something together. He told me that I was being clingy and that I am too much sometimes. I let him know that I miss him and I feel like we don’t spent time together anymore. I work a m-f 8-6 all I ask is to spent some time together at least 1 time a week. Am I being clingy? That was quite the delivery even if he was feeling frustrated. Calling you clingy is hurtful and there was no need to lash out like that if you were asking to spend time during a mutual day off. Is the story missing some parts? It doesn’t make sense. I’d rethink the relationship at this point and see whether that comment from him was warranted. He needs to communicate much better and let you know he needs to rest or has other obligations instead of telling you you are clingy. That is not the way to work out times or scheduling issues. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 29, 2022 Share Posted July 29, 2022 14 hours ago, Shanti66 said: He told me that I was being clingy and that I am too much sometimes. I'd stop dating a guy who said this to me. Especially when it's only been 6 months of dating. This guy is telling you loud and clear that he's not that into you. Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted July 30, 2022 Share Posted July 30, 2022 Some people have a way of turning things around and blaming other people for their own choices and/or failures. This guy is totally gaslighting you. No, you are not clingy at all. Far from it. What you are asking for is not unreasonable. I think this guy wants to end things with you. But instead of doing the honorable thing and tell you about his decision, he is making it look like it is all your fault. I bet, he wants to be a "nice" guy in all this. And by playing a nice guy (whatever that means to him) he wants you to break up with him instead. In a meantime, he is doing a slow fade, blames you, calls you clingy and treats you deplorably. Basically, he is doing everything in his power for you to "get it" and end things with him instead. He then can go on looking like a swell of a guy and you are going to be called the clingy one. Funny, how some people can justify it. Well, actually, not funny at all. End things with him, what other choice did he give you? 22 hours ago, letotron454 said: . With the information given it sounds like he may have just had a sudden change of heart regarding the relationship. Yeah, this is probably what it is. But he doesn't have the guts to end thigs. Instead, he is doing the slow fade and gaslighting OP by claiming that she is clingy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 30, 2022 Share Posted July 30, 2022 The writing is on the wall….he’s no longer wants a relationship. He is making excuses to not see you. He is trying to force you to breakup with him…he’s being a coward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 30, 2022 Share Posted July 30, 2022 (edited) On 7/28/2022 at 8:11 PM, Shanti66 said: I work a m-f 8-6 all I ask is to spent some time together at least 1 time a week. Am I being clingy? No, you are definitely not being clingy. Edited July 30, 2022 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
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