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How to really move on and let go of the person who ghosted you


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It has been a year since we stopped chatting each other but until now, I still can't accept and understand why he initiates conversations like he didn't ghost me a year ago. After reading our conversation, he was really confusing me and I felt like he didn't like me at all. But up until now, he still tries to ask things. What should I do to move on and really forget about this person?

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I can't give you great advice without understanding the history.  But given that you refer to your connection as "chatting [to] each other", I feel like you must have been friends.  Did the two of you have a disagreement before he stopped contacting you?  Or was he busy with other friends and life and you got upset about a break in the contact?   What is he saying when he's contacting you now....and why do you choose to not respond? 

But if simply you're searching to the answer for how to leave him in your past, you need to block him so that he can't contact you.  When you stop hearing from him, you'll gradually stop thinking of him. 

 

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4 hours ago, Bbfweeee said:

It has been a year since we stopped chatting each other but until now, I still can't accept and understand why he initiates conversations like he didn't ghost me a year ago. 

Sorry this is happening. Have you met in person? Were you dating? 

It's time to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

That way you can move forward in peace without background noise from him.

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mark clemson

Yeah maybe block and then just completely ignore him if he contacts you e.g. with a new account. Sometimes "orbiters" can interfere with forming solid new relationships.

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We haven't seen each other yet, and he replied after 8 months to explain his side. That was my first time even knowing a person online or really tried dating. But we have common friends. He asks random questions or even reacts to my posts. I don't know if I should answer or not . Thanks a lot.

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3 hours ago, Bbfweeee said:

We haven't seen each other yet, and he replied after 8 months to explain his side. That was my first time even knowing a person online or really tried dating. But we have common friends. He asks random questions or even reacts to my posts. I don't know if I should answer or not . Thanks a lot.

If he’s not asking you out, he’s not interested. Does it matter whether he ever liked you? You’ve not met this person in the first place. He’s a nobody, someone you can’t verify or isn’t tangible or has no effect on your real world day to day.

Since you’ve asked how to move on the answer is as simple as blocking and deleting the contact. Why do you care so much about what he thinks or what he has to say? You seem to have had feelings for him at some point but you no longer trust him. Let the contact go and free yourself being with people who actually love and support you in real life in person.

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20 hours ago, Bbfweeee said:

I don't know if I should answer or not .

Do you really want to move on, as your thread title suggests?

If so, the answer is easy: block him everywhere. 

If not, ask yourself why you would continue to allow him access to you. He's not asking you out, so you know it's a waste of time and emotional energy. 

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On 8/2/2022 at 12:48 AM, Bbfweeee said:

. What should I do to move on and really forget about this person?

Delete and block on all platforms.

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On 8/2/2022 at 12:48 AM, Bbfweeee said:

It has been a year since we stopped chatting each other but until now, I still can't accept and understand why he initiates conversations like he didn't ghost me a year ago. After reading our conversation, he was really confusing me and I felt like he didn't like me at all. But up until now, he still tries to ask things. What should I do to move on and really forget about this person?

It sounds like he views you as a friend and is not aware that you have a romantic interest in him.  He didn't think stopping the chatting with you was ghosting, it was just the end of your chat or he started chatting with others and got distracted.  Since you have feelings for him and this is bothering you the best thing you can do for your peace of mind is to block and delete all contact with him.  This will make it much easier to get over him.  Good luck.

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